Neurodivergent Relationship Intensive (Patreon)

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Welcome to the promised immersive three-day workshop designed specifically for neurospicy individuals and their partners, no matter where in the grand space of neurodiversity they identify. This intensive aims to foster understanding, enhance communication, and build stronger, more resilient relationships. Sessions are crafted to address the unique challenges and strengths of neurodivergent relationships, providing practical tools and insights for lasting connections. This is a welcoming space for queer, kinky, non-monogamous, and other non-traditional relationships.

Sessions will be recorded and available to ticket holders. You can pick and choose the sessions you attend or recordings you receive. You can attend individually, or as partners. Cost is $15 per session, $100 for seven sessions, or $150 for all sessions, per person. If cost is a barrier, discounted and scholarship attendance is available. Please message me for more info with what is a reasonable cost for you (if that's zero, no sweat, I want you to come still).

Held June 28th, 29th, and 30th. Times listed are in EDT. It will be held over Zoom.

Tickets can be purchased via Paypal here: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=JX3TUPWS5HJ5Q

Please message me (@xSolaris) with your email and the sessions you wish to attend!

Day 1: Foundation and Understanding

Session 1: Welcome and Understanding Neurodiversity (1 hour +Q&A)

3:00 PM

Prior to this session, you will have access to a series of short questionnaires identifying your general neurocognitive functioning maps.

• Introduction to the program

• Establishing goals and expectations

• Definition and types of neurodiversity

• Common characteristics of neurodivergent individuals

• Debunking myths and stereotypes

• Open discussion/Q&A

--30 Minute Break--

Session 2: Introduction to Relationships (1 hour)

5:00 PM

• Emotional calls or bids

• Improving responses

• Relationship science

--30 Minute Break--

Session 3: Communication Styles (1.5 hours)

6:30 PM

• Neurodivergent vs. neurotypical communication

• ND to ND communication

• Strategies for effective communication

• Active listening exercises and led conversation for pairs

--30 Minute Break--

Session 4: Emotional Regulation and Empathy (2 hours)

8:30 PM

• Emotional flooding

• Understanding emotional regulation in neurodivergent individuals

• Techniques for managing emotions

• Identifying meta emotions

• Managing shame

• Building empathy and understanding each other's emotional world conversation

• Group/pair activities

• Q&A

Day 2: Building Relationship Skills

11:00 AM

Session 5: Setting and Respecting Boundaries (1.5 hours)

• Identifying your own boundaries workshop

• Communicating boundaries

• Emotional boundaries

• Physical boundaries

• Social boundaries

• Changing boundaries

• Repair

--30 Minute Break--

Session 6: Flirting and Dating (2 hours)

1:00 PM

• Understanding the basics of flirting and dating in new relationships

• Flirting and dating in established relationships

• Recognizing and sending signals of interest

• Practicing flirting techniques in a safe environment

• Consent, capacity, and appropriate disclosures

• Handling rejection and maintaining confidence

--30 Minute Break--

Session 7: Conflict Resolution and Management (1.5 hours)

3:30 PM

• Conflict science

• Identifying sources of conflict

• Perpetual conflict management and rituals

• Conflict resolution strategies tailored for neurodivergent relationships

• Practice scenarios and led discussion for partners

--30 Minute Break--

Session 8: "Love Languages", the Science of Attachment, and Affection (2 hours)

5:30 PM

• Exploring different "love languages"

• The actual science of attachment and relationship attachment styles (debunked)

• Creating a culture of appreciation, admiration, and affection

• Understanding how neurodivergent individuals can express and receive affection

• Activities to identify and practice emotional calls

• Relationship attachment injuries

--Time reserved for individual relationship consult sessions, available as an add-on.--

Day 3: Deepening Connection and Looking Forward

Session 9: Practical Tools for Daily Life (1.5 hours)

10:00 AM

• Organizational tools and techniques

• Time management strategies

• Sensory diets, considerations in daily routines

• Adaptive capacity and resilience

--30 Minute Break--

Session 9: Intimacy and Sexuality (2 hours)

12:00 PM

• Discussing intimacy in neurodivergent relationships

• Addressing sensory sensitivities and preferences

• Safer and consensual exploration of sexuality

• Power dynamics in kink and neurodiversity

--30 Minute Break--

Session 10: Polyamory/Consensual Nonmonogamy and Neurodivergence (1 hour)

2:30 PM

• Relationship anarchy

• Types of consensual non-monogamy

• Group psychology/systems theory and non-monogamy

• Integrating multiple types of neurodivergence into your group system

--30 Minute Break--

Session 11: For Neurotypical Partners (45 minutes)

3:00 PM

• Learning your partners' languages

• Emotion regulation skills

• Tips for having tough conversations

• Q&A

--15 Minute Break--

Session 12: Managing Differences in Neurodiversity in Relationships (1 hour)

4:00 PM

• Differences in processing times

• Differences in environment

• Differences in sensitivities and stimuli preferences

• Differences in emotional responses

• Differences in process orders

--30 Minute Break--

Session 13: Mapping Your Neurodiverse Relationship (1.5 hours)

5:30 PM

• A guided discussion exploring key points in a relationship map that makes up your entire relationship

• Strategizing for those differences

--30 Minute Break--

Bonus Session 14: Troubleshooting (1 hour)

7:30 PM

• Breakups

• Chronic illness

• Mental health concerns

• Parenting

• Affairs

• Relationships with friends and family

• Social pressures associated with being queer, kinky, ND, non-monogamous, etc.

--Time reserved for individual relationship consult sessions, available as an add-on.--