Hot Take: Foreplay Starts Long Before the Bedroom (Patreon)

Foreplay doesn’t start in the bedroom.

It starts way earlier.

And it doesn’t always require a partner.

It can look like:

💕 Taking a walk and letting your nervous system settle.

💕 Scheduling a massage for yourself.

💕 Wearing your favorite scent.

💕 Taking a little extra time to massage your body in the shower.

💕 Wearing clothes that feel good on your body or make you feel confident.

💕 Making eye contact in conversation instead of rushing or multitasking.

💕 Sitting on the couch and actually resting (ditch the phone and agenda).

💕 Going on a date, flirting, laughing, or simply enjoying someone’s presence.

💕 Taking care of the small stuff, like dishes or errands, so you’re not mentally overloaded later.

All of that counts as foreplay (or yes, choreplay 😉).

These moments send a signal to the body: you’re not under pressure, you don’t have to perform, and you can just be yourself.

When the nervous system isn’t in go-mode, desire has more room to show up, whether that leads to partnered sex, solo sex, or just feeling more connected in your body.

Foreplay isn’t just touch.

It’s context. It’s pacing. It’s what happens before arousal is even possible whether you're flying solo or in a situationship.

What do you do outside the bedroom that you think sets the stage for desire later?