Home
Creators
Search Recent Random
Posts
Search DMs Popular Hash Lookup Tags Random
Importer
Import FAQ
Register Favorites Keys Review DMs Logout
Community
Telegram ThePornDude
Home Creators Posts Import Register Favorites Logout

90 DAY FIANCÉ The Other Way 0611 "Eat, Play, Lie" (Patreon)

Published:
2024-09-10 06:11:01
Imported:
2026-06
Tags:
haven't archived this post yet. have a subscription? use the importer!

Downloads

  • TOW Ep 11.mp3

Missing 5 full-res photos, 1 file, as this post has not yet been imported.

Content

Dempsey reaches a breaking point while Statler battles a panic attack at sea. Shekinah gives Sarper a stern ultimatum. James makes a heartbreaking admission to Tatha. Sean bonds with Joanne's sons but feels the pressure of keeping secrets.

---

Timestamps

Statler/ Dempsey: 11.09

Shekina/Sarper 27.52

Big brother corner: 35.11

James/Tata: 44.40

Joanne/ Sean 52.23

Files

Previews only

Comments

Natalie Duarte

I'm a woman with both ADHD & Autism, & I related to Statler so much in this episode. I could feel her anxiety on the boat. Just being in that sense of overwhelm that takes over, & you kind of feel paralyzed by everything, even to your own responses to where they take over. Like you're a spectator to yourself. But also in the bee section; we really will just share as much as we can about what we love & enjoy. Nerd out, haha!

TT

I love that Sean "Lucky Charms" thinks his daughter doesn't know about his relationship! She swoops in on ALL his conversations and is pissed that she didn't get to wear the flower girl dress she picked out.

Wiggum

I never want a massage from Tata

Cyrill Wyllie-Sonsalla

Hearing that there will be a phantom movie remake sent me straight to these comments. I’m so upset

Peggy Ann

So based on Poodle’s assessment, Irish women are faeries and Irish men are demons lol

Karen

Not me listening to the Phantom singing multiple time, lol 😂😂

Val McCue

I use a cold Gua Sha stone for my face and that doesn’t do that to your skin. She used a freaking coin with ridges! It truly looked like a torturing device.

Katherine Rea
>>149034644

“Think meeeee” oh man that’s gonna play on repeat in my head at least all day now

Erika D. 🎄

Yes!! did we not learn anything from Chorus line! 🎶🎶🎶 At The Balletttttttttttt🎶🎶🎶

Amanda

I’ve had an acupuncturist do a similar massage. I never saw the implement she was using but it felt like a metal bottle cap. Similar principles to gua sha but way more intense. It sure broke up tight muscles though.

Miranda R

I didn't think I would ever relate to Statler, I got a little teary eyed. Having PTSD I experience panic attacks when anxiety is high. I agree Dempsey was out of line. It made me so uncomfortable. Like Statler, I also freeze up. I can't answer questions because I genuinely don't know the answer. I cannot think. I'm fortunate my husband does know how to handle panic attacks and is so patient.

Olive
>>149016129

I'm the same, right down to the fascination with bees!! It was weird seeing my reflection in Statler in this episode, haha! 😄 If I share bee facts with you, I hold you in high regard. 😆

Olive
>>149056054

I get the impression that Dempsey has never seen somebody have a panic attack in person before. It's like, everything she did and said was the exact opposite of what Statler needed to come back down from the anxiety high. 😖

Jude

Mary Payne has already been yacking about the TLC party, y’all 😂

Liza Windmoeller

I have a whole slew of mental health issues, crushing anxiety, and I’ve worked in inpatient mental health inpatient wards for over 8 years. So I DO have some knowledge and am not just speaking out of turn. I empathize with Statler , but I had a really hard time with the fact she didn’t take any precautions prior to going on the boat if she knew it was going to be this triggering. For me, I will have my meds on board, coping skills handy, and HAVE A CONVO with my partner about what may happen - I don’t just expect them to know this or what to do ect. So the fact she didn’t take any meds, no coping skills, didn’t talk to Dempsey (or take anything for motion sickness like Dramamine) ect. I have a hard time being completely on her side. Statler probably does this a lot, and it seems like everything has to stop to accommodate her and what she needs at the moment and Dempsey is supposed to just go with it, be treated like crap repeatedly ect and apparently isn’t ever allowed to be excited. I’m sorry. But It’s the same thing I tell my patients, it’s not someone else’s responsibility to handle your problems. You CAN ask for help, support, ect. But if you are cognitively able, it is your responsibility. And Statler doesn’t seem to take ANY. so that’s where my problem lies. I admit I did cringe and just wanted Dempsey to leave her alone at that point, it at the same time…Statler also needs to take accountability 🤷🏽‍♀️. Just my two cents.

Amy

I do not have autism but I do have ADHD and Dempsey just strikes me as aggressively neurotypical! In this episode specifically it was like she just wanted Statler to flip a switch and be happy and not overcome with anxiety, like with the right thought processes she could go from absolutely hating being on the boat to jumping up and down with glee. It reminds me a lot of someone telling a person who lives with depression to "just be happy." I also feel like Statler is very communicative and that maybe Dempsey is not the best partner for a neurodivergent person.

Jude
>>149038418

Yeah, like a bottle cap 😩 It looked like it broke the skin

Georgina Toledo

why is there no footage of mattie hitting that top note?! 🫠❤️

Hannah
>>149061210

I agree, I have panic disorder/phobias and was alternating yelling at Statler “girl where’s your Valium??” And at Dempsey “you’re making it worse!!” I’m lucky enough to have a very understanding and supportive partner but I also had to teach him how to help me during my panic attacks. All that said access to medications/therapy can be very difficult to obtain, as I’m sure you’re aware. I have had doctors tell me to “just take a Benadryl” to get over my flight phobia and finally have a doctor that understands and take my anxiety seriously enough to Rx me emergency meds for when I need them. She also knows I’m careful about taking them so I don’t develop dependency. But I agree they both made some major mistakes that made this situation worse. A calm conversation about what statler needed to get through the boat ride should have happened before they got on the ferry. I hope statler can find a professional to help her work through these issues and help Dempsey understand how to be more supportive.

Miranda R
>>149056054

100%. And it would've taken 5 min of her time to read those articles Statler sent. I think If Dempsey cared she would have, but she didn't.

jey

poodle: there aren’t any little gay boys listening to this but if there are, if you’re in the car… mattie: they might be in utero… 😆 it’s the mattie half under his breath comments that are most delightful to me

Hollan Read
>>149061210

I agree. I was a little surprised by the boys taking Statler’s side so vehemently here. In my head, Statler has been nothing but totally self-involved this entire time with everything being about her and her feelings. She takes zero accountability for anything and weaponizes her mental health as an excuse. I just read Dempsey’s reaction as someone being fed up with it and therefore kind of understandable - too aggressive for sure - but I got it. I think I’m basically fed up with Statler, too. 😂 Poor communication all around - but what do we expect from these two?

jey

james 100% is wearing lesbian cruise attire. and to answer the question what do they do on a lesbian cruise? drink and fuck like the gay boys 😆. just with a lot more processing. i agree totally with the dempsey/statler run down. each person’s experience with their respective anxiety/mental illnesses/neurodivergence is unique to them and it’s important to have compassion for people when they are in an activated state. statler was doing her best to self sooth and get through the boat ride. it seems she is still learning which tools are most helpful in which situations. someone like statler will always have occasions where there is a panic attack/autistic meltdown and the tools aren’t on hand or they aren’t working. these two are a terrible match. 🙋🏻‍♂️audhd dyke/nb with my two cents.

Sharee Lynn

I was listening to this in the kitchen and my little gay boy (14) just about died when he heard the shout out to his people.

ElizaDarlene

I really love Big Brother, partly because my brother is in prison, (I know, this isn’t LALU!) he loves Big Brother, and it always gave us something to talk about! We’re not in touch as much, my fault, but, again, special spot for BB, even though not a big fan of Chen! I digress!!! Point…. I wish Poodle would do full BB episodes! I know you’re busy, I’ll volunteer to help!

Jessica K

When I hear anything from Phantom of the Opera my mind quickly pivots to a majestic drag king/drag queen Phantom medley performance I saw at a small town gay bar called, yes, Angles, probably 20 years ago. A+

Not my govt name

I dated a northern Irish guy for a couple years….can attest everything poodle says is true about them

Heather Greenwood

I want to say I love you guys . You helping me in so many ways.

Hannah
>>149061210

Eh I’m more than OK with them taking Statler’s side here. Way too many people have the same reaction that Dempsey did to people actively panicking or on the verge of a panic attack. Her response lacked any inkling of empathy as she was more concerned about how Statler’s emotions were ruining her good time. It was nice to hear them stick up for Statler here and reaffirmed for me that I shouldn’t feel bad or terrible around “ruining” things with my own anxiety. Statler just needs some more tools to help her work through her panic/phobias and to better communicate with Dempsey. As friend of the pod Marcus Parks always say “it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility.” It’s just hard to get responsible if you don’t have the tools for it.

Jujuy

Soooo grateful Tata's friend is named Adele!!! KGQ!!!

Kat

Mattie: “I want his balls in my mouth” 🤣😂🤣😂 💜 so funny!!!

Lisa

Poodle: Cam’s Dawgs at the Crib have created a X/Twitter account to prove they are real and watching.

April

Dempsey absolutely did not research or even try to understand what Statler goes through. In the moment was THE worst time to have an argument. But ALTSO, Statler doesn’t seem to be receiving adequate *treatment* (not counseling) for her diagnoses. She brought zero tools to help her get through something she knows is a trigger. She frequently wants Dempsey to bend to her needs when they are issues she could handle herself. I can understand why Dempsey feels frustrated because every time she is excited she has to deal with Statler’s pessimistic attitude towards it.

Catherine Adams

I am a lesbian and once I went to a bar and an Irish guy hit on me. I told him I was a lesbian, and he asked if I’d give him objective feedback on if he was a good kisser. So I made out with him! TWICE! I literally can not imagine doing that ever with an American. DEMONS!

Catherine Adams
>>149136886

I’m so activated by these sections because Statler is exactly what I would be if I had done zero work on myself.

Tay
>>149082291

I literally just have tears in my eyes as I type because I do the very same with my brother in prison and I feel SEEN!!!!! It’s what we are able to bond over and talk about during this difficult time in our relationship. Gosh…do I love this group so so so much!

mess_this_blessica

Thank you Poodle, Robin Thicke is SO gross. Also, if you want to know about a lesbian boat party, they did an episode (or two?) on the L Word where they did one. The L Word, like Selling Sunset, is famous for some on-the-nose background music. In these episodes, the main song went “we’re gettin down on the lesboat” - I wish I was joking. It was pretty egregious.

Sierra Adrian

From Statlers reaction to the boat and her saying she was afraid of throwing up and could barely even say the words “throw up,” I strongly suspect that she has emetophobia. It can become a very severe phobia, sometimes mimicking OCD symptoms. I have this myself and had to go through treatment to begin to live life more normally. It still affects me now, but it doesn’t rule my life like it did before. I think this is some important context for how she handed the boat situation. I think she handled her anxiety well, given the situation!

Caitlin O'Rourke

Mattie and Poodz, the singing was top notch, but Sarpula's "think of me" sent me 😂

Jill
>>149186558

She absolutely has emetophobia. It’s hard for people who don’t have it to understand, but decent people who care about their partners will at least try! You can’t argue someone out of it, especially when they’re in the middle of panicking. And I agree, having been in that position, Statler did a pretty good job of articulating what she needed and why. Too bad Dense Dempsey thinks she already knows what’s best for everyone.

Emily Allen

I expect that Dempsey, like most neurotypicals who try to date or interact with autistics, thought autism is “cute” or makes Statler “quirky”. She probably thinks that Statler will just have fun once she’s on the ferry. She really hasn’t seen an autistic meltdown like Statler was having on the boat. My family used to make me do all sorts of uncomfortable things (parades, get-togethers, etc) and figured that I would just “have fun” once I got there. I never did, it was always horrible and I was always a “bitch” the whole time once I got to my teens. But in reality the events were extremely uncomfortable and overwhelming and it made me lash out at people. Dempsey, if you’re going to date an autistic person, do some research on how it actually is to live that life every day. Also, you can’t take everything personally. Sometimes we just have to get very direct and sharp to communicate things and it’s really not personal. At the same time, autistic partners should try to practice with language to better communicate their needs to their neurotypical partners. If it was me, at the beginning of the ferry I would have just told her “Dempsey go enjoy the ferry. I’ll be out here and we’ll meet back up when we’re across. I just need to rest during this whole ride. I need time to myself to process my sickness and fear of boats. I know you’re looking forward to the ride, so please go and enjoy your time on the boat.” Something like that. I just want to add if it wasn’t clear, I am autistic.

Angelica

Don’t feel bad Mattie, I used to put up fake pictures of boys (like Chris O’Donnell) in my room so that my parents wouldn’t suspect that I liked girls. You guys are on FIRE with the Adele jokes today!

Sandy Zickur

I felt for Statler this episode. I just don’t understand the lack of planning/preparing for situations that are known triggers.

Amy Diehl

I get Dempsey is frustrated but she knows Statler has anxiety issues. Maybe Statler hasn't explained it well enough, or Dempsey doesn't think it's real/that bad. Either way these two AREN'T right for each other & we done knew that before 😂