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Is It Wrong to Be “Forced” to Serve in the Nursery? (Patreon)

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2025-08-26 10:00:12
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When Kaitlyn mentioned her old church’s nursery policy that members were automatically scheduled to serve in the nursery unless they opted out, we did not expect it to stir up such a reaction online. One short clip on Instagram sparked hundreds of comments, and over 100,000 views. In this special segment, Kaitlyn and Mike respond to the backlash and explore the deeper issue behind it: why modern Christians bristle at obligation, commitment, and responsibility in the church.

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Friend

Here’s the next level developing community conversation. Along these lines: ““I want to share my life with you. The good, the bad, the ugly, everything in between is going to be hard. We're going to have ruptures that will have the need to repair. This is going to be a difficult, intentional thing. And those types of conversations we're just not having anymore. We may have them in marriage, in dating, in relationships, but we have somehow diminished the value of having God's people on our side as friends, as brothers and sisters who can sharpen us and who can hold us.” From Being Human with Steve Cuss: Steve and Lisa Cuss Navigate the Four Spaces of Anxiety and Deeper Connectivity, Aug 25, 2025 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-human-with-steve-cuss/id1726393502?i=1000723416367&r=1002 This material may be protected by copyright.

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I was part of a Chicago inner-city church where service was mandatory: women in the nursery, men as ushers. While this fostered community and pushed members into active participation, such close-knit environments can also conceal systemic problems. Even with opt-outs in theory, in practice the expectation to serve—especially with children—raises serious concerns. Our children are the most vulnerable, yet churches often minimize risks. A background check and weekend training are not enough. Children are not tasks like cleaning or passing the plate. Statistics show that 1 in 6 women and 1 in 10 men have experienced sexual coercion, and churches are no exception. Abuse is under-reported, often happening within “close communities.” To dismiss these concerns as exaggerated is irresponsible. Church history shows they are not always reliable guardians of the vulnerable. Without real safeguards, the very communities meant to nurture can instead hide abuse and destroy lives.

Eli Butler
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I totally agree that churches are too easy on average for abusers to abuse. That said- I don’t think the “opt-out” model increases that risk. If hypothetical “predator member” is at church to abuse children- they already volunteered! I don’t think any predator would not volunteer- now the church switches to “force” them to volunteer and then they say “oh well I was forced to be here so now I’ll abuse the children” I’m no criminal psychologist but that doesn’t make sense to me. At my church growing up the 2 men that turned out to be predators were a high school hockey coach (making child porn in his basement) and a law enforcement officer (texted/met up with under age girls). Not anything at the church- but they were members and would have 1000% passed background checks.

Josh

I really like this conversation, I think it touches on a much deeper issue of what we expect, and what it means to be in community.

Liz

I think this needs to be shareable with the public for the benefit of the Church (and I’m not a member of church staff ;) The older generation is often bringing it in the service department, but they aren’t going to be here forever and when I look around my generation and those younger are often not grabbing/looking for or remotely interested in the baton from my vantage point… I do appreciate the thoughtful response especially when it comes to keeping our kids safe and well cared for. Such an important conversation!♥️ (I’m 44 and we also don’t have “members” so that’s tricky.)