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F3lix

Unpack on "waiting for you to get used to it." I've had bullies/abusers in my life do the same 'get used to it' tactic to justify their behavior. "It's just the way it is, suck it up." "You're too sensitive. Just deal with it and don't talk to me about it/ask me to do anything about it." "If someone else is doing this, shouldn't you be used to it?" <- This was a gem given to me when I had shared that someone else was abusing me the way they had and were currently doing so, and that I wanted them to stop. The abuser I was speaking to wanted to justify their behavior by justifying the other abuser's behavior. Shameful. The whole objective of an abuser/bully is to establish dominance and control of a target. This idea of getting you used to their abusive behavior is 'modus operandi' to that idea.

obelis

They don't want to change their harmful behavior, they want you to become okay with it :/