Unfinished Song-in-Progress: Someone Listening (Patreon)

No, it's not the happy song; I'm not ready! 🙈 I'll share the happy one at 50 paid members, deal?

This one is actually...quite sad 😅 Is anyone surprised? I also, once again, wrote this in the washroom. It's not a toilet tune, I swear 😂 It's a shower song. 

I started writing this because, although I have a tendency to withdraw when I'm not doing well mentally, I think part of that is the fear of getting the wrong response. So this is about those times when someone is trying to be supportive, but their response is more harmful than helpful. 

I am very much someone who tries to view things from the perspective of understanding that people are trying to help and don't intend to hurt feelings. I know that people aren't actively going out of their way to say the wrong thing and they just don't know what to say. I get it. It can be really hard to know what to say when someone is struggling. 

But the problem is, I can't logic my way out of feelings. Feelings just happen. I don't control those. So while I can control my response and not lash out at someone for saying something that felt, ultimately very invalidating, I still feel hurt and unheard; I still end up feeling misunderstood and alone.

Sometimes the best things you can say are things like: "That sucks" / "I don't know what to say" / "That's a lot" / "I hear you".

This is about trying to explain that, I guess.

Lyrics:

Don't look for silver linings

'Cause it's all grey and dull

& don't ask me to find the bright side

In the middle of a war you can't see

It's just me alone again

And I just need to know there's someone listening