✨ 🍵 Spilling Tea 🍵 ✨ [Why We're All Exhausted] [Monthly Newsletter] [February 2021] (Patreon)

Today's topic: Why We're All Exhausted [In My Opinion]

So, in my humble opinion, we overthink absolutely everything.

We live in a more conscious world than ever before. We're not only privy to the goings-on of other countries, other cultures, other life in space, but now, we ourselves have become the news itself. The rise of social media has made our very lives an event, a spectacle, a brand. We are what's noteworthy. 

And in my opinion, this is, quite frankly, terrible.  

Even when we're completely alone, we're never truly cut off from life's pressures, anxieties, and unnecessary competitions. And how can we be? With just a scroll down your phone you can find seven ways in which you don't measure up: you're not as attractive as him, you're not as successful as her, she's just had a baby, but you haven't even got a partner, so-and-so is doing a marathon, whilst you've been sat in the dark masturbating over a fictional character etc, etc, exhausting, etc.  

This constant barrage of he's doing this, she's got this, is taking healthy peer competitiveness to the very unhealthy max. The plain truth is, we're not events, or spectacles, or brands. We're flawed, layered people who most of the time aren't that fascinating. And that's exactly how it should be. But with the rise of social media, it's very difficult to find that truth in all the shiny veneer. If you're not part of it, you can feel left out, and if you are part of it, you feel exhausted by the need to keep up glossy, interesting, false appearances.

So, if we acknowledge this, why don't we stop? Okay, maybe more realistically, why don't we pull back? We have no control over what other people do, think, or believe, and that's how it should be. But we absolutely have control over what we do. It might not always feel that way, but we do, even if it means you have to quite literally tell yourself "stop".

Ultimately, in my opinion, ignorance may be bliss, but distractions are so much better. So, distract the fuck out of yourself. Whatever your thing is - do it and enjoy it! Don't overthink it, don't make yourself feel guilty for enjoying your downtime, just be as present as YOU possibly can. The internet isn't going to stop, the online world is only going to keep on growing, but your time is finite, and it's incredibly important you get the most out of it.

So, maybe we should all stop worrying what so-and-so is having for lunch, and just start enjoying lunch. We are not spectators in our own lives. We are our lives. And they are, very much, what we make of them.  

I really appreciate that life isn't one size fits all. These are just my thoughts, I hope they can be of some use to you.  

Best wishes,

Tea