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"It's important to remember that when people offer suggestions on how to be happier, most people are just trying to help. They're not trying to condescend, generalise or suggest one size fits all - it can't. They're just offering their take and hoping to do some good."

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June

Thank you

Tommy Hiesto

Ha Thanks Tea Always A Healthy Dose of happiness i hope you're doing Alright i mean it i'd hate to hear someone who gives so much positivity to a shy guy like me is having such a bad run of things i hope all this support at least makes you smile i hope these comments i leave don't make anyone feel sad i don't know why i feel like saying i guess i care alot about strangers i probly won't meet anyway happy Easter everyone

Bear

There are a lot more positive, helpful and kind people in the world than mean, condescending and intentionally harmful people, but the latter group are more obvious in our lives.

Bear

Keep caring Tommy... You may never know who's life you touch!

Camilo Iribarren

Helping others out of pure kindness is the best help anyone can give and deserve.

DrTaverner

The problem is, too often they're using platitudes to prevent themselves from acknowledging your pain. They think they're being helpful but the 30th time you've heard "they're in a better place" or "well things could be worse" you're ready for some combat. If you really want to be kind to someone who is hurting, sit with them. Enter into it with them, REALLY listen to what they are saying, or listen to what they're not saying. Know that you cannot fix the pain. You can only help them carry it. If you must fill the silence, say things like "this really sucks," or "I can't imagine how much this hurts," or the best "just know that I love you, no matter what." Positivity can become a toxic shield against genuinely acknowledging and validating another's pain. They need to feel seen, they need to feel heard, they need to feel loved. Yes, it hurts to do that, it's much harder than the other approach, but it's also healthier, for everyone.