Speaking of Chosen Family....You Need To See What These People in NYC Are Doing. (Patreon)

Hi Loves.

One piece of housekeeping: the link access to the Dec 9th 11:11am web-hang has been FIXED! Thanks to those of you who pointed it out. Sorry!!! The tier access was set incorrectly; it should be working for all webchat-and-above patrons now:

https://www.crowdcast.io/c/december9thwebhang

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CALLING ALL EVERYBODY....all hands on deck to do a thing !!!

I made this spontaneous little video from Andy and Diana in the BATHROOM HALLWAY of a little party in NYC...with an ask just for the patrons here. They're from an organization that I think you'll deeply love if you don't know about them.

I played at this little fundraiser for The Chosen Family Law Center the other night in Manhattan (you can see a little clip of me leading everyone in a rousingly silly Lily-Allen "Pussy Palace" sing-a-long on Ukulele at the event here on IG....it gives me JOY). I would love you ALL to know about this organization, they are really doing important work, and it's personal for many of us queerdo (especially parents) in the states right now.

I'm asking you all to donate if you can, even if it's just $5-10...the act itself is important.

https://chosenfamilylawcenter.org/donate

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This is a slightly off-road post, but I didn't want to give this short shrift by sticking it in the Althing yesterday...it felt important enough to give it's own little spot of real estate in the post-flow.

OKAY.

What does your family look like?

Does it look like.....THIS?

It may.

I am guessing it does not.

As you know, I'm a parent of a 10 year old kid and I live in a family with an unusual shape; estrangement, a difficult divorce. It's not easy.

I also grew up in a divorce household with two bio-parents who lived in different states, three step-parents, ex-step-parents, exes of step-parents.

Now? As a parent, a survivor, and a queer person surrounded by queer people, I'm constantly navigating the legal system, and it's been a massively eye-opening experience in the last few years to clock just how hard it is in this society to be a mom in a family with an unusual shape - whether or not your relationship is working or burning in a dumpster.

So many of my friends, the majority, are queer, poly, same-sex parents, in open relationships, single moms.

TWO THIRDS of parents in this country do NOT look like the heteronormative nuclear thing you see in the stock photo above.

I am lucky.

I have legal resources unavailable to most people.

I come from a super-educated community that has directed me to legal counsel, I have a robust patreon, I earn a decent amount money, I have great credit with a lot of people and many corners to go for help, both financial, emotional, and legal.

Not everyone is as lucky as me.

Enter: Chosen Family Law Center.

These folks are doing GOD'S WORK, and I know that phrase my irk you, but whatever. I said it.

Chosen Family Law Center needs your help, RIGHT NOW. Now that Mamdani has been voted into office (YAYYY!!!!) there is a tiny window of time to get a LOT of work done, but they are on a shoe-string budget and could REALLY use the help.

If you are feeling some level of despair about trans rights, womens rights, and what is happening to families in America, this is a TINY organization in NYC that is going to be a BOIG LEGAL impact at the national level, and I'm putting my hand on my heart and asking you to donate if you can. I gave $500 at the event the other night...and, I mean, that's your money, more or less. All of my money comes from you. Occasionally I pass it on when I think it's important and can really make a difference. I feel that now.

More of the legit bio:

CFLC is a trans-led nonprofit organization that provides free legal services to low-income trans folks, queer parents, and non-nuclear families in New York – and they are leaders in legislative drafting at a city and state level nationwide to protect democracy, LGBTQIA+ rights, and diverse families. 

CFLC’s Know Your Rights public education brings grounding legal information to queer people and is some of the most cited nationwide. CFLC is part of the team that passed the Protect Trans Futures bills in NYC this year, and they’ve previously passed laws in the Bay Area, CA and Boston area, MA. Their Executive Director Diana Adams is the Policy Co-Chair for the NYC Trans and Queer Provider Advocacy Coalition, and they’ll be working with Mamdani’s new Office of LGBTQ+ Affairs and NYC Council to pass laws that protect our LGBTQIA+ community. 

We need to utilize this moment to draft and pass laws to protect all of us from federal interference! CFLC needs to raise $100k by the end of the year to be able to spend their time drafting and passing laws instead of fundraising. They’ve already raised $40k!

Please join the fight for justice and make a tax-deductible donation today! Donate here!

Other ways to get involved: 

- Sign up for their newsletter here!
- Give them a follow on Instagram, Facebook, Bluesky, LinkedIn!
- Invite Diana or Andy into your workplace for a paid talk!

DONATE NOW:

https://chosenfamilylawcenter.org/donate

It's so so easy to donate, and you can use PAYPAL, or card. Seriously....donate just $10. Y our donation will have a huge impact right now at this moment in American History.

Give deep, and help them protect trans people and bolster the rights of queer parents and ALL shapes of family.

Shots from the party....

With Andy and Diana, the lead lawyers at CFLC.

LOVE TO YOU ALL.

Wish me luck in the studio today…

xxAFP