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how you do anything (Patreon)

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2020-04-19 09:34:00
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hello my dears 

greetings from quarantine day 25 in havelock north, aotearoa. 

i hope everyone is hanging in there ok. i’ll try to send a longer post tomorrow but i just wanted to share this simple thought of the moment before i bed down. 

one of my favorite yoga teachers used to say: “how you do anything is how you do everything”. 

i feel like everyone i know is being given a surprise final exam in how to do anything (and everything) right now. i feel simultaneously completely upended and yet strangely more at peace than i have ever felt in my life. paying attention to how i change a sheet, how i cut an apple, how i schedule my few precious minutes of work and screen time and how i give my child a bath is all a reflection of all the everythings i’ve ever done; how i started a career, how i broke up with a boyfriend, how i dealt with a miscarriage. 

it’s all the same. how did i do it? was i careful? mindless? was i gentle with the things i was touching? or was i careless, distracted, and in a self-important hurry at all costs? 

slowing down is the hardest thing on earth because it forces you to face the scariest thing you will ever face: you.

fare you all well...i love you all so so much. 

i know what so many of you are going through, and growing through. 

i am with you. 

x 

afp 

ps

also a reminder that i am doing a PATRON-WIDE live stream & chat is this tuesday morning my time, from 10am-12pm NZST. i’ll be broadcasting from this weird air bnb in havelock north and ill have a piano. 

here's the link, and i'll send it out again as soon as we go live.

https://www.crowdcast.io/e/april-20-2020

you can start to RSVP now, by clicking the link above and you'll get an email reminder right before i go live.

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Comments

Mel Legget

Glad you get to get on piano and play for us! What you did reading all the comments and masticating is incredibly rare; what journalist can have access to 2,000 contacts/input at once? For whatever thing you create of it now or in the future it is a profound thing! :-) Day 25, wow, . . . .

Rebecca Brisbin

Seriously, thank you Amanda, everyone...all the comments, all the posts. This is one of the few places I can express myself without judgement and also look for honesty in others. So many people are trying so hard to stay in some kind of bubble where none of this is real. I saw my brother briefly today. He tried to hug me and I dodged him, and tapped his elbow with my elbow instead. He laughed and said, "oh your still doing that?" and I said "I had friends who died, and long as things are still happening, I'm still taking this seriously." He just walked back inside his house, said "bye" and closed the door. We could've sat on the porch and talked...and as I walked back to my van, I reminded myself...that's who he is and this is who I am...it's okay. I would've loved to hug my brother...but I know if he feels like this is a joke, it means all his interactions are just his normal day to day life. We're still losing thousands in America every day and people are going back to work and carrying on about their lives like it's any normal day. I don't get it, but I accept that who they are is who they are and who I am is who I am. This is not my America, but I am an American...a person who will continue to be who I am, who I need to be...it's a lot, to know you have zero control over anyone but yourself...but it's enough, and it's still okay. I love you guys...everyone, sharing, being who you are. I'm looking forward to the video chat party tomorrow. I look forward to seeing real faces behind these posts. The community that Amanda attracts has helped me a lot, and I am ever so grateful. Thank you all so, so much.

Stefanie Oepen

All talked out right now, seem to be unale to formulate any more thoughts. Thank you Amanda for always checking in on us. Looking forward to the chat/hangout. :) Granted it will be in the middle of the night for me, but I'll be there.

Stefanie Oepen
>>35523101

Your first two sentences really hit home. This is exactly how I feel. This is also what I hope the Shadowbox will become. Sorry to hear you have lost friends ((())). I hear you when you talk about your brother. I spoke to mine for the first time in weks yesterday (we don't live in the same city and we don't call each oher much so this is the usual) and he too, doe s not seem to take this seriosuly and argued we should just give herd immunity a try. I got so angry, I didn' know what t say. Luckily, this is not considered an option in my country (Germany).

Rebecca Ryan

Wow. So many comments..I wanna read. No energy for me to write.. AFP brings it out...how awesome is that. A dear diary....😍 love to you all.

Philipp Windgassen

I just joined Patreon today. Been recommended your TED talk a few years ago by a transgender friend on Facebook and then I listened to your talk with Judith. Then I bought the book (I'm 3/4 through) and today I joined and Tonight I want to take part in this Thing... I'm falling into the Amanda Palmer Rabbit hole and I think it's exactly where I want to go These days… (And why is patreon auto-correcting my text to make capital letters…? Is that a trick, Amanda, because you hate putting in capitals?) And yes, I have, of Course, heard the Music and really like what I've heard so far. But, being a "words Person" by profession, I do somehow like that fact that you're writing more These days.

Holly Smith

I gave up on trying to be positive because I felt like a failure everyday. I had major surgery on Feb 10 and by March 10 I had what I thought was the flu but ended up most likely being COVID-19. Of course, as a white woman living in America, I have always had inherent privilege but not even I could get tested. I was literally told by the ER staff not to come back unless I stopped breathing. So it’s been a month and 40 days now with this goddamn virus and I am so glad to be alive and at home but so disappointed in our government and they way they’ve handled this. But I’m not dead so I’m still winning at something! Fuck CV19, fuck Donald Trump and his horrible cabinet picks, and fuck those spreading false rumors that this virus is a hoax. Silver lining? Front line workers putting their lives at rush every day to treat those of us with it and who deliver our groceries and other items to keep us sane. As an introvert, I wish I could stay in quarantine forever but I hope for the sake of all the extroverts out there that you stay strong and hold on just a little longer to help protect vulnerable populations, like me. Thanks to everyone for behaving responsibly during this crisis.!

Anonymous

Hi Amanda, longtime fan but new patreoner. Just came across your performance of The Ride from SXSW and thought it was fucking perfect for these times. It helps. Thank you. 🧡

Jack Lowe

"slowing down is the hardest thing on earth because it forces you to face the scariest thing you will ever face: you." SO true. Whenever I suggest to my friends/peers (often the same people 😊) that they write down what they actually want to do in one paragraph, they're often scared to death. They suddenly need to face up to themselves and the fact that they're not happy with what they've been doing till now. For want of a better way of putting it, it's become a seriously bad habit. That's something I've had to do several times too...a continual work in progress. It resulted in me starting my epic project and then discovering Patreon to help support, which has turned out to be the best piece of inadvertent crisis planning. I'm so grateful for that. And I bet you are for yours. Anyway, keep taking those small steps...and kia kaha (I'm sure you're hearing the latter a lot at the mo!).

Len Tower Jr.
>>35523101

Rebecca: Sorry too, that you've lost friends. Sadly, we are all likely to. If you don't already have access, sometime soon Team AFP will give you access to the new TheShadoxbox forum. You'll have another place to interact with us! I look forward to seeing you there!

Camilla Koutsos

I'm over in Napier. Going in for a COVID-19 test this morning. I'll miss your cast. Wish me luck, please :)

Anonymous

Hello Amanda. fellow song maker here in Gearhart, Oregon. could only dream of doing anything like what you do. I found your magical radiohead songs first(before I gave radiohead a good listen) and have been on the ride ever since. Okay, so relatively there are hardly any confirmed cases here on the coast. People here that can are mostly self quarantining. We've got a 3 member household, and with the neighborhood work I've been able to get, we've been able to stay home with exceptions to the grocery and hardware store so far. Luckily the garden is steadily being planted as weather improves. Really lucky to be here.. My 8 year old daughter in Florida, where I moved here from in August, was supposed to come to live with me for the summer, but I'm not sure if it could happen at this point. Her and siblings are ding online courses and they are self Q-ing in Lehigh Acres, Florida. My best friend does telephone work, her company answers calls for businesses after hours and whatnot, lots of different types of clients. She has been taking so many covid death calls in the past week with steady increase. It's a lot... My cousin died the other day. I knew her since she was 6. She wasn't 30. Probably an overdose. Sucks I saw something you said recently about Neil's cousin dying. Sorry, man, and safe travels to them. Anyway, just thought I'd drop a line, didn't realize I would have so much to say. Love to You, Ash, Neil and everyone who reads this! -Eaglewing I enjoyed your windowsill pic the other day

Nicole Ives

I agree, this time is very revealing of yourself.