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wednesday webcast!, the road less traveled & note from HA-HA (Patreon)

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2016-02-13 23:26:53
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hola comrades.


**QUICK: save Wednesday night, vancouver time, prob around 7/7:30.

THERE MAY WELL BE A WEBCAST OF THE VOGUE SHOW!!!! news soon.**


i'm on my way to pick up casey at the airport and go do our animal shelter show...


first i'll share the art-words (we only have one more left, from david mack, and it's comin')...for now, HA-HA, an artist who came to me through sarah beetson, who did the above artwork for "heroes"....


he's a street/stencil-artists from melbourne, australia.


HA-HA


I chose the 'Heroes' track because it has positive lyrics which inspire the listener to 'be a hero even if its just for one day...' . I remember watching a live version of Bowie singing Heroes on youtube & Bowie said 'I dedicated this song to my son & everyone in the crowd who have kids & to parents of the world' , I thought those were quite moving words. I was on facebook when I started to see comments & images popping up of Bowie thats when I realized he had passed on, over the followings weeks social media was abuzz with tributes to Bowie, a great way for fans to say thanks for decades of great songs, acting , painting etc . In this piece Bowie is the hero of our times...


www.regantamanui.com


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...reading that made me think a lot about being a parent.


i've been so squeamish about being a parent all my life....not because i don't love children but because the image of "parenthood" looks so unappealing most of the time. maybe it was growing up in the suburbs without good art-parent role models, or maybe it was just the general cultural diet of brady-bunch commercial breaks on channel 56 depicting boring, boring, boring families that seemed to do nothing but live in a nice house together and occasionally go on trips to waterparks and fast food restaurants (with FANTASTIC whites, doris gets all the stains out!!!)


someone asked me on twitter this morning:


"now that you've had a child, do u think u could of lived happily without having him?" (from @Tar_pits)


i answered:


"yeah. I do. I was pretty fulfilled. but now it's different and I'm also fulfilled. x"


he's only 5 months old...but i feel like i'm cutting through one cliché at a time.


clichés are clichés for a reason...they're often true.


but with the kid clichés, i've been finding some are so, so, so true and some just...aren't.


so, cliché number one:

once you have a child, you cannot imagine your life without him/her/them.


amanda's experience:

does not ring true i can imagine my life without him. i lived it for a very long time, and i loved it. 


there were two roads....and i took.....a left.

right is still there, it just didn't happen to happen.


for your further edification on this topic,

robert frost's oft-misinterpreted "the road not taken" quote:


http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2015/09/robert-frost-poem-killed-friend/


love you guys.


things thinging.


......

XXX

AFP

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Federico

P.s. thanks for web cast if it will be

Thorri

Oh, I have that other road very alive in my head; still never regretting my choice. We remain in contact, not exactly friends but good old connections. I think we both ended up ok, but that other road never travelled ( never will) is still there, and I like it there. Untouched. Untravelled.

Jeffrey

This is why, as a fellow of 64 with a large and wonderful life, I follow you here and on FB, twitter, whatever. You cut through the crap while still acknowledging the crap, and you make yourself whole while realizing that we are all split in some way or another. Life's like that. And BTW your Bowie thing was so good that now you can enjoy sliding under a low bar for quite a long time because you charged over the high bar with that one, and that is a precious gift that you gave to us all that few are ever able to achieve. I'm glad I waited around to hear it, and I trust I'll be around for what comes next.

Allie mcdonald

A webcast Wednesday would be so welcome I'd be super excited

Anonymous

My kids are 30, 27, and 19, and they are amazing and magical and fascinating. But I can imagine my life without them, and it would still be a fulfilling, interesting life. Just different than the life I have. You're not alone in knowing that a different path exists, and if neither better nor worse than the path you've taken. Many of my friends are appalled that I say that; it's good to know I'm not the only one!

Katt

Yay for the fellow Aussie artist, great work! As to the kids/no kids issue, I think it is one of the unspoken truths that most parents do think what it would be like to not have had them and most non-parents think of what it would be like if they did... Humans tend to consider possibilities and although regret is an unfortunate emotion it is prevalent in a lot of people's lives and even those without regret can still imagine good things down that untaken path. Would I undo my choice? Of course not because I now know and love my child. Would I have had a good life without a child? It is very possible that I would be writing this talking about why not having a child was my best decision. I never judge anyone's choices in this area as it can go either way down either path. We cannot spend the same minute in a different way, no-one gets their time over and the fear of missing out on something usually only causes you to miss both deliberate paths and end up stuck until time sweeps you forward down paths you never did choose. We make the best choices we know how to in the moment and we keep moving forward, it is all we can do. You do it beautifully. <3 <3

James Tinney

I just got back home from the Shakaroo, what a great show! You and Jason were both awesome. I was going to hang around and try to meet you but many others seemed to have the same idea and I didn't want to add to the crush. Your 11 minute blog song was incredible and you should definitely make it a Thing!!!!! As a parent of 3 fantastic girls, I resonate to every note of that song. It is SO GOOD. Thank you.

Claudia Rapp

Didn't know that about the poem. As for kids, I don't know how many times people have told me I'm doing it wrong, the way I do parenthood and raising them. But one is an adult now, and is doing great, the other is a teen and will grow into a clever woman as well, so screw people's expectations. And I can full well imagine my different life without kids, but I'm happy to have had them (both were "accidents" if you want to call it that, but sometimes the unplanned-things in life are trhe best).

Juliet Andrien

I would be so very grateful for a webcast.

H
>>1363477

Thank you. Thanks for saying this. I am 41, single and without children. I never expected to be here-I was married and happy and ....then I was single. And 41. With no children. And i have grieved for the kids I would have had-but to be here at all feels kinda miraculous. To be here and full. And filled-well...THAT was unexpected! Sometimes we just "end up" and that's okay. Sometimes-if we're really bloody lucky-that's GREAT.

H

Robert Frost also said "good neighbours make good fences"

Sienna Warecki

The Robert Frost thing is FASCINATING. Ten points for re-contextualization.