today is Anthony's birthday... (Patreon)

...not this Anthony, the small one. 

the other Anthony, the dead one. 

if you missed it, my best friend anthony died in June. of cancer. I named my baby after him. he's anthony, and ash for short. 

big Anthony's birthday is April 16 and I once engraved a birthday present for him and fucked up the date and put April 15th instead - I never fucked it up after that. 

I can hear him saying "you clown! THE DAY *AFTER* TAX DAY."

so I am alone in boston...celebrating today by doing the things I love, like having coffee and soup at my favorite cafe....

I've been dealing with his dying a lot better than I thought I would, but I feel like having a new baby is a secret weapon against grief.  

it is so hard to feel anything too deeply right now, because babies make you shallowly busy, they put a teflon on your heart in favor of immediate action - and that includes sadness-teflon. 

i make up songs for the baby when we are both in the right mood 

I usually never remember the words. 

but this mornings song went

la la la la 

anthony died !!

la la la

but we're alive 

he is dead 

but we're not dead

but we're gonna die die die

Anthony's dead 

but we're alive

he is dead 

not you and I

but we're gonna die die die!

Anthony's dead!

we're alive 

but we're gonna die die die!

YAAAAAAYYYYY

THE BABY LOVED THIS SONG

I will save the lyrics for when I start my all-girl punk band 

and I love you. 

embrace life, my friends

we're all gonna die. 

xxx a 

p.s. the dresden dolls tickets for boston and nyc are FLYING. I hope you all got yours. reminder link... http://smarturl.it/DD2016