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Hallo loves.

Literally as I board the boat to leave my adopted-home of Waiheke, Jacinda Ardern resigns as the prime minister of Aotearoa New Zealand. I wanted to say a few words…I also posted this to Instagram and Facebook if you want to go comment there or share.

This woman’s leadership kept this country covid-free for over a year. A year in which I decided, again and again, to stay in this country, raise my child where he could be in a school without social distancing and a mask, go to pizza and pool parties, frolick and tickle on the beach, slide down waterslides, make friends, and basically - with the obvious exception of being very far from our home country - live a very normal childhood when our counterparts in New York were locked down. She changed my life, and Ash’s life.

Every day in the beginning of the pandemic - when I was also facing my own micro horrorshow of pain and dealing with the slings and arrows of the patriarchy - I watched this woman communicate and empathize like no other politician I had ever seen. She gave daily explanations. She got in front of a camera every day, while juggling a toddler.

I watched her exercise extreme grace under pressure day after day after day after day as people demeaned her, bullied her, undercut her, patronized her, and more or less tormented her. She handled the mosque massacre. She handled the pandemic. She handled and handled…and was the object of bullying the likes of which I had never seen, but I understood all too well.

Jacinda Ardern not only changed the course of my life, my identity and sense of home; she also inspired me to stay patient and graceful when the world around me was anything but.

“I am human, politicians are human. We give all that we can for as long as we can. And then it’s time. And for me, it’s time,” she said.

So many women feel like Jacinda. I feel like Jacinda. We get to the point where we are done. We cannot handle another round of smiling gracefully as the jackasses of the world make our lives a living hell.

Jacinda: thank you. I hope you get the most nourishing recovery. I hope you get to rest in the soft afterglow of a job so well done.

Thank you for keeping this country safe for me and my son.

Thank you for changing the world. Thank you changing my life.

Kia Kaha.

Nolite te bastardes carborundorum.


xx

-AFP


PS A Shot of me and Ash saying goodbye to the ocean this morning on Waiheke .. photo by Bianca Scarlett.




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Niki McQueen

NZ was one of the places I truly envied during the pandemic because of her leadership. As my cousin puts it "Koia kei a koe", Jacinda - you're the bomb. My uncle Michael moved to NZ and raised his family there, so we rarely saw them - we've happily reconnected through internetland, and the more pictures they send, the more I want to go. When I was little, they bought us an LP of Māori chants which i became obsessed with - I've always wanted to visit and someday soon it will be time.

James Cowie

not sure if I can post a jpeg but I thought you might like this /home/jim/jacinta bye bye.jpg

James Cowie

nope ... not possible or above my pay grade

Suzanne

I saw the FB post. I'm glad she is considering her personal mental health. And I hope whoever comes next has at least half the sense and grace.

Francine Hibiscus

What a fucking legend. Good on her for charting her own path.

KevinM

too many feels. get out there and be our light in the world, amanda. please.

Anna McCotter

I love this picture of you and Ash. It feels fragile and sacred. 🤍🇳🇿

Laura Payne

I saw the news of this on The Guardian earlier. Breaks my heart, but happy she has chosen to take care of herself, too. It’s all the feels tonight. Love you and Ash, dear lady.

Carmen J

Peace. That is what she needs. And don't we all? x

Dahlia

I remember watching her speak once or twice in admiration from afar while our politicians floundered. What an incredible leader and graceful exit.

Sorcha Backshall

Sad news. It makes me worried about how next election will turn out. But I can understand why she did it. Hopefully Labour will find a good candidate to run for PM.

Leela

I am sad - but my goodness the INTEGRITY. Imagine a male politican giving up power for his mental health? This is some hardcore role model shit right here.

Catherine Elizabeth

Maybe now she can be an opening DJ for your next Dolls tour here 😏❤️❤️❤️❤️

Sally

I'm sad for New Zealand, and sad for Australia she has been such a strong ally and leader. I am so happy for Jacinda though, that she has gone out on her own time.

Len Tower Jr.

She'll be missed. Safe travels. -Len

Jenny Hippensteal

I feel this so much. It’s happening with me at work but on a smaller scale. It still hurts and makes me angry. Be safe getting home! 🖤

ElizaLou

I watched herfrom here in the UK, during the pandemic, while we were locked down under the shitshow of a narcisstic leader, Mr Johnson, and wished I was in NZ or that the aliens would come and take the little fucker home and leave us in peace.

Charise Isis

She is phenomenal... a groundbreaking politician. She was pregnant and only in her 30s when she became Prime Minister, showing young women all over the world that it is possible to have a major career and a child... She lead the country with utmost grace through some of the most difficult times in history. I'm glad that she has the courage to walk away from what no longer serves her. Her mark has been left on the world and despite the haters, (there will always be haters no matter what) she will go down in history as one of the remarkable politicians of our time.

ElizaLou

unfortunately it was not to be

ElizaLou

peace love and healing Jacinta. Your reign will not be forgotten ❤️

Liz LaManche

Sad for New Sealand and the rest of us- she’s been such a beacon of good sense and steady leadership, when so many others were floundering or worse. But to know when that job and mental health could suffer and call it quits before that point, is a great example too. I wish her a long and impactful career doing whatever is healthful amd meaningful from here on out! Good travels.

Molly McEnerney

I have so much respect, appreciation, admiration, and love for her!

Coila

I hope this homecoming felt more like what you'd dreamed the one to NY might feel like. I hope it was a wonderful trip. I hope you land softly in your loving community back in NY. Safe travels! ♥️♥️

Karina

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! I used to watch her press conferences online from Sydney, even though she wasn't leading this country, because she helped soothe my anxiety. massive loss, but I wisher the very best. She deserves whatever she yearns for right now.

Stefanie Oepen

I have watched Jacinda Ardern from over here in Germany and she gave me so much hope. She showed the world what good leadership can be - smart and compassionate and so much more. I have said several time that I want her and people like her to be "president of the world" and thus make it a better place. Nothing but respect admiration for her. Knowing when to quit and having the guts to do it, is a skill not many posesse. I wish her all the best. For you Amanda, I hope the trip brought you happiness and peace of mind ans whatevver else you yearned to find. Safe travels to you.

Doug Sinclair

I'm glad to have seen this news first from your Patreon email before I had a chance to read Stuff.

HannaA

She was in same photo with Finnish prime minister Sanna Marin, and editors wrote, that "They must have much in common, as they are both youngish women." etc. Or could they just be leaders in demanding positions of trust?

David Evers

She was admired the world round, and we all drew strength from her compassion and sanity during the pandemic. And wished we lived in NZ. I hope other politicians were taking notes. Sadly, I rather doubt it.

Andy Leeke

I was sad to hear the news, as she's clearly fantastic and is an inspiration to many - someone the world needed, not just one country. But also, of course this is how she would bow out - because holding on to power doesn't interest her - using that power well is what she cared about. So of course she's the one to know first when that changes. And instead of thinking selfishly, extending the pay check as far as she can push it, at the expense of others , she's giving it to someone else. I'm in the UK so I'm very jealous. If our leaders had 1% of her integrity, our country would still have some hope left.

Loquacious B

Amanda, thankyou for your words, I'm actually on the verge of tears reading them. I'm so glad it was you conveying the news and not a Reddit post. Jacinda has been a genuine beacon of hope for me, many years after I lost faith in electoralism and incrementalism - a sign that the system is sometimes - /sometimes/ - able to bring a strong, compassionate and perhaps most surprisingly, integrous person into a role where they can make a difference. Watching from across the Tasman (and being allergic to news), I was pretty much unaware of the extent of the vitriol she suffered. But thinking on it I'm not surprised either, as I watched on with dismay as Julia Gillard, our first female Prime Minister, was assaulted from every quarter (including those within her own party), vile slurs thrown at her daily in and via all the media. I was honestly impressed that Ms. Gillard lasted as long as she did before being tossed by her own party. I was especially impressed that even with the constant attacks she, like Jacinda, did the job of leading the country with strength and compassion that feels so lacking in the game of politics. Jacinda, you have been an inspiring figure to so many of us and you will be missed. May your next chapter bring you whatever it is you need.

Tamara

Thank you for this. Amanda, I am writing to you from the great unfolding tragedy that is Florida. What a portrait in opposites. 😭

Jen Beeeee

She's amazing. Sad to see her go.

Simon Carruth

I agree with every word you said Amanda. Although we live in England, my wife and I often listened to Jacinda's broadcasts during the pandemic because they gave us hope when our own British politicians were behaving like moronic bully-boy clowns.

Rebecca Ryan

Oh no…! what a loss. I read this post before I heard elsewhere.. what now. love your words A. Go forward Jacinda. Time out. and she has a Neve like me..☺️ I’m so glad Aotearoa held you and Ash throughout all that too 🥰 Love from Melbourne. hope all is calm, and happening with your travels south and then onwards ! That time flew by xo

YourMagnet_adult_version

I want to say that I really understand your feelings now. You feel gratitude towards this woman and it's wonderful. It's a shame that she resigns

Devan

As a symbol she was a breath of fresh air. Actual change that's society needs is not going to come from the top though. We cannot count on saviours.

NakedSunFlower

I didn't live in New Zealand and don't know anyone from there, but I heard about Jacinda Ardern, she was amazing the prime minister. This is a big loss for the people.

amandapalmer

i know, right? i’ve been watching these two countries fold in on themselves from close range for three years now. it’s so weird. xxx sending love down there.

MORLEY

wow I love and admire her for every reason you mention, so very moved to see her leave. I hope she takes good care of herself, we know she can take amazing care of others. blessings on her path, may it be luminous. thanks always for sharing your heart.

Jenna Tomlin

Wow. I'm glad she's taking care of herself; and maybe it's selfish to be sad she's leaving the leadership position, but I am sad she won't be PM. I'm not in Aotearoa, but I've been there and I love that country. She's amazing.

Caz

Such a great image.

Lynn Parlett

I'm sad and angry that yet another female politician has 'had enough'. Male politicians settle in for life with support and protection even when they do horrific shit. The support is not just from their political cronies... but from the public as well. Female politicians fight harder for everything, with less support and more grace then most male politicians will ever know. Backwards - and in heels - holding a baby on their hip. The picture of Ashu saying goodbye to the ocean made me cry. I could feel his sadness and saw your arm on his back loving him, and his little hand on your shoulder supporting you. I'm happy that you both have this heart home, this little world that will always keep you safe. Love you both.

Du Carniel

Amanda, speaking of amazing women, have you seen the new Shakira song? She just did it after she divorced her husband after him cheating on her multiple times. Talk about a woman going full Frida https://youtu.be/CocEMWdc7Ck