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People usually notice my eyes first.

I can tell by the way their gaze hesitates, like they’re not sure if I’m about to smile at them… or see straight through them. I don’t do it on purpose — it’s just the way I’ve learned to meet the world: steady, present, unflinching. When you’ve had to grow your own backbone, you stop looking away.

My tattoos tend to come second. I can feel when someone’s studying them, tracing the stories inked into me. They’re pieces of my life I chose deliberately — little fragments of memory, strength, mistakes, growth. I don’t explain them unless I want to. Some things are meant to be worn, not justified.

People think confidence is loud.

Mine isn’t.

It’s quieter than that — a kind of grounded calm I’ve carved out of years where nothing felt steady. I take up space because I’ve earned the right to, because shrinking never saved me, because there’s power in standing exactly as you are.

I know I have a certain presence.

Not intimidating, exactly — more like a flame: soft if you cradle it, dangerous if you try to smother it. I don’t “perform” it. It’s just who I’ve become.

If you met me, I’d look at you the way I look at everything: directly, honestly, letting you show yourself before I show too much of me. I’m observant — always have been. I like reading the small things: the way someone breathes before they speak, the way they hold their shoulders when they’re unsure.

There’s a reason I like the name Kali.

Not because of destruction, but because of rebirth — the part where you tear down the old version of yourself and rebuild with all the pieces that survived the fire.

That’s who I am.

A woman made of chapters, choices, and a little bit of smoke — still standing, still learning, still becoming.