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What Do You Need Advice About? (for a video) (Patreon)

Published:
2025-07-03 01:44:55
Imported:
2026-06

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In the next Patreon Video, Riley and Graydon will be giving YOU unfiltered, honest, and sincere advice. In the comment section of this post, write out something that you're going through, a dilemma your having, or a situation you're stuck in and need advice about.

Comments

ella

hivemind how do i stop liking juice wrld so much its plaguing my life and i cant escape it

Rachel Soloff

just moved into my first apartment by myself, any advice for living alone for the first time?

Norm Garcia

How do I leave the only industry I’ve ever worked in for the one I’m more interested in?

Kala

how do i tell my mom i'm seeing the ghost of her ex husband every single day

Kasen Hicks

My dog won’t stop smoking all my Marble Reds

OlDirtyDoggy

How do you stop yourself from overthinking how valuable you are to the people around yourself, I seem to get worked up over my friends and my importance to them more then I need to

Eric Ward

I'm moving to Ohio and I don't know how to feel about it

Thomas

How do I put down that Clairo and grab myself a beer?

Cynthia

How do I feel more confident about myself and the things I do?

Kala

know any faith healers?

Max

I’m gonna be moving in with my girlfriend soon, any advice?

Sam

how do I stop my favorite baseball team (orioles) from driving me insane and lashing out on other people. I know it’s just a game but sometimes I just can’t get that through my head

Jackie K

any advice on feeling stuck at your job? i can feel myself getting burnt out but idk what to do 🧍🏻‍♀️

David Noah

My car won’t go sometimes when I try to accelerate, it broke my transmission mount. Why guys

lexieee

i’m studying computer science at college and i despise it with all of my heart but i don’t have anything better to pursue, what should i do?!

Nathan Stremcha

How do I stop having nightmares about Riley without a mustache

David Connolly

Just graduated college. Wtf do I do now?

Joey Perkins

How do I find the joy joy joy in everyday life as a young person already feeling burnt out from their 9-5?

Trey LaValley

Ideas for (cheaper) date nights in detroit

Kala

i'm moving to the us, which states should i consider moving to and which states should i avoid?

Elijah Green

How do you survive/thrive in a country with a government that is actively against its people? (USA)

Justin Dobry

How do I explain to my cat that I’m moving out of the house and I won’t see her every day

Jayden

leaving my more fun snd growing college town for my nice but slow hometown and just feeling unsure about stuff. this is ohio btw so there’s already not much going on so idk

Sean Murray

for graydon mostly, how do i find more time to listen to bob dylan?

Ben Toy

How do I get on your show as a guest. I would be great

Boingoos

At my work, I have been tasked to help someone with a project. My goal was to be done at the end of June. They have not given me all resources I need to help them. Should I just chill and not worry about it until they contact me with the things I need, or should I hound them/go out of my way to do what work I can without them?

Dylan Calixto Wells

my husband is learning english and wants to know the best american slang- where should i start to make him sound as cool as possible?

Scott S.

Current dilemma- talking to a girl that is best friends with her ex-fiancé (he has a key to her apartment). What do I do?

Thomas

How do I stop watching reruns of What Up With That starring Diondre Cole now that BET has cancelled it?

Brayden M:)

I need a new beer to make my personality right now I’m very Guiness centered

Emm F

So my ex is moving 14 hours away at the end of the month. They’ll be there for a year while they go to school. I’m delulu and think they are my soulmate. My friends are encouraging me to date casually, but I’m sort of an all or nothing person. They also are taking their cats, who were my children for 6 years. So I’m hoping for some advice on not being sad while they’re gone. I want to hear Riley’s advice first but Graydon’s advice louder if at all possible. 🫶🏻

Anna

how to accept our mortal flesh :/

Ethan Flynn

I'm worried that I'm becoming complacent in my job and that I won't take an opportunity elsewhere because I'm too scared

Thomas

How can I feel loved?

Alexander Seifrit

How to increase general aura points? Intended for graydon and/or dignan.

maddie parker

ok so there’s this guy that i met on hinge in like november of 2024 and starting in march 2025 we started hooking up with no dates before hand. we’re both gonna be sophomores in college in the fall. i wasn’t initially super interested but after having met him and getting to know him i actually really like him. we never stated any specifics about whatever this relationship is and i want to ask him on a date, or even if he wants anything romantic. but i’m not sure if that’s like the vibe. like we always watch a movie about once a week, at least when we were in school, we probably watch half and then do our thing and then finish it and go smoke a joint or a cigarette after. like i feel like ive really gotten to know him but i just don’t know if i should ask him if we’re just like fwb or if we could be more, like i met him on hinge and i feel like if youre looking for hookups you go to tinder or whatever. he follows me on my main instagram and snapchat, we talk like once a week prob and snap like streaks ig, he asks me how i am and says that he misses hanging out but is he only saying that cause im good at sucking dick??? pls lmk ur thoughts, would love a guys opinion !!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏

Dylan

How do I deal with the sadness of getting older and watching my friends drift away, family members age, and my hairline recede.

Adreyan

I got too much shit i want to do, so many times when i try to work on stuff i work on a load of stuff at once and it feels like i cant get anything done. My friends tell me to focus on one thing i love, but it's hard because im afraid of putting my all into something and it failing and essentially wasting my time. Note: Most of the stuff is career based, me wanting to have a career in something creative, like art/photography/clothing while balancing my job, and entering trade school. Idk it's frustrating i feel like now you cant really afford to take risk

Milosh Hasak

How can one make a living and remain an active member of adult society without sacrificing creative pursuits?

julia

how to win at bar trivia

keygen

I've always had issues with motivation. I recently graduated high school and ive been making music since i was a kid and ive made a lot of it, so I know that its what i want to do with my life. But now that im an adult and its really time to lock in, i just feel stuck. My friends are getting jobs and getting more serious about promoting their music, while i get by making very little money from spotify and helping my mom with work. Any time i start applying for jobs or posting snippets i feel like i cant help but give up after a couple days, and ive just been living the same day over and over again all year. All i feel like doing is sitting in my room and making my little albums, but i know it wont pay off if i dont make changes. sorry if this was long. i have a lot of love for this show 💛

wyatt lucas

i’m scared for adulthood and leaving home, what should i be prepared for/prep for in college life/adulthood?

Derek Crowe

I’m 20 and a junior in college and I feel like I’m just existing with no real direction or purpose. Is this normal to experience this at this age and what should I do to break this cycle

cheif keef sosa

my neighbors cat went missing about a year ago and I just found a petrified one in my tool shed. Im not 100% sure it's hers but I don't know who else's it could be. Should I tell her? If so how should I break the news to her?

quinlon

23f and never been in a relationship. am i cooked?

Kasen Hicks

I hide them everywhere but she finds a way

vinny

i struggled heavily in high school and barely graduated. my grades were fine but i had over 100 absences. i dove straight into college and lasted maybe half a semester before i fell back into good ol depression. so i dropped out because i didn’t want to fail my semester. i knew i could succeed but didn’t have the mental to. i’ve been working a retail job for nearly 2 years and since the start of 2025, i moved up two positions and i’m now a retail supervisor. it’s pretty alright pay, but every day i’m plagued with the anxiety of pretty much everything, but mostly about school and my future. i turned 19 this year, i don’t really think school is for me, and i like my job, but should i go back to school at one point? maybe try something better? what if i try and fail? this is probably too long sorry boys

Robert Therrell

You're both around my age, how do you meet new people? Potential partners and new friends. All my friends that live close are married, most of our socializing is just chilling at each other's houses, and I have a creative job that keeps me pretty busy.

Kaila Hahn

How do you deal with dropping your kid off at college for the first time? Especially if it’s across the country, from the west coast to the ✨Midwest✨ ?

MonsterFuzzzy

I went through a really rough breakup last year. I really thought she was the one. Since then I have started seeing a new girl who I do really like and she’s totally into me and super kind and smart. But I can’t bring myself to fully commit to this new girl because I’m still so torn up about the last girl. Any advice?

Olivia Cait

i have been in a few too many situations were i have ended up catching feelings for a guy who acts non-chalant and doesn't put in effort. Now I am talking to someone new and I'm worried he isn't putting in enough but that might just be becauss it's new. So should I wait it out or should I cut things off? help

nodive

I’m playing my first (proper) DJ set in about two months as part of a big competition. When I watch DJ sets the parts I enjoy the most are always unreleased tunes. How do I balance playing unreleased or relatively unknown songs which I would enjoy versus playing well known songs, or edits, that would get a positive crowd reaction due to the familiarity? (Set is only 25 minutes too which does limit me a bit) Anyway love you all hope movement festival was sick the lineup was amazing (hope you caught salute’s set)

joan sebastien

how to banish evil spirits from the bodies of white men ? time sensitive

T

navigating this part of my life

T

loving and learning

cam christensen

what are some random hobbies i could pick up, my life boring as hell

Jacob Leslie

How do you learn to let go of your regrets?

rumore

how do you know what’s best for you?

zach cluney

preparing to become a student pilot and fly planes for a living, what advice would yall have for a person in my position

Brooke Neal

how did you get so lucky in finding your group of friends as adults ? just graduated college and as a metro detroiter myself i struggle to find friends normally so now not having school to make friends, im looking to meet people in the wild ! also currently perusing my masters in architecture (all online) and im not sure it’s what i want to do for the rest of my life…

Mikey Alexander

Always wanted to try to be a singer but now I am engaged and just got a great job in sales last year.. 27 y/o and feel like the window has passed but always dream about what might have been. Job moved me to Nashville so opportunities are there, I’m just terrified.

lil quacc

my jealousy and insecurity is ruining my relationship . i cant stop thinking that my girlfriend and another mutual friend becoming really close lately must be a sign that something is going on , even though i know neither of them are that kind of person . they both , along with a ton of other mutual friends , have assured me that nothing is happening . i believe them , but its difficult to . my nervousness and anxiety about the situation is only pushing her away , and the further away she gets , the more anxious and jealous i become , creating a horrible cycle . i love this girl more than anything , and hate that i am affecting her in this way . how do i stop this cycle of negativity , and break free of my trust issues and anxiety ?

Val

This might be quite weird, but I would love a guy perspective: Some things happened to me when I was eight (I won’t go into it because I don’t want to put a damper on your video), but ever since then I’ve been super hyper sexual. I’m 24 now and have had trouble in past relationships because of my need for sex, mostly with people using me or not wanting to get emotionally involved because they think I’m a slut or whatever. Anyway, I’m with this guy right now (31) and I really like him. He’s super kind and smart and funny, and the sex is really good it’s just not as frequent as I’d like it to be. I don’t know if it’s an age thing (like maybe he doesn’t want it so much because he’s older), or if it’s a me thing (although I don’t think it is because he tells me he really likes me and that he is attracted to me). I guess my question is, how do I address my need for more frequent sexual intimacy (like every other day preferably) without coming across as sexually aggressive or weird? I don’t want to push him into doing anything he’s not comfortable doing, but it’s just not enough for me right now.

homesick

if i know im capable to be something more how can i harness it?

emily himmelberg

My job recently fired my supervisor and had me step into the role. After two months of near constant nausea from the stress and no days off I told them I couldn’t keep going like that and I would like to step down and go back to what I was doing before. It’s been a week since this discussion and they’ve made no efforts to find a replacement or even lighten my workload. How should I politely tell them to figure out a solution before I lose my mind?

Patty K

Hello boys, so I want to move out of my parents house soon but have no idea how I will be able to do it (or if I have the heart to do it). For context, I’m 26 and moved back home to LA 2 years ago. I’ve had a stable job for a year and a half now and have the means to afford rent with a roommate (it’s a bit too expensive to live alone) and my two best friends who I would want to room with are content living at home with their folks. Additionally, I’d feel guilty leaving because my dad is getting old and its been good for me to be around the house to help out. We also have the cutest cat in the world and I’d be heartbroken moving out and leaving Kibby behind. Is multigenerational living cool? Or is living in my childhood bedroom at the big age of 26 cringe? Lmk, thanks Mr. Hive and Dr. Mind

Patty K

get smarter friends

Kacey

how to handle the feeling of the passage of time being uncontrollable and inevitable

Dakota Vaughn

howdy fellas. as a fellow 30+ year old, i was wondering how you two keep the zest and excitement going in your lives while knowing that middle age is closer and closer. how can i remain youthful and thriving?

Rayna

How do I stop having an existential crisis about how literally everything is a man made concept and the way we live our lives was created by humans? We could be frolicking.

aubrie

i just got broken up w today, i thought i was going to be w this person forever 😵‍💫 i love and care abt him so so so much, how do u navigate healing from this? how do u figure out how to be urself, separate from another person? i feel like i don't have much purpose outside of what i contribute to other ppls lives, so i struggle a lot when ppl decide they don't want me in their life anymore. i am definitely in the denial stage- i can't accept that it happened, or that we were bad for each other, or that hes not going to reach out again, how do u move past that stage?

Qweast

Genuine question for someone who's interested but doesn't really have anyone to teach him. How do you get into fishing, I did it when I was real young, but I don't know where even to start now. Thanks Graydon, Riley you look great today, and Grant your ass looks extra fat.

Chase Hagen

What movie should I watch tonight

Vace Diesel

How do I come out as a trans man to my openly homophobic, gun-toting family? I'm mid transition and it's fairly obvious, but I've never addressed it though I'm not real close with them anyways.

Jack Donaldson

I’m about to be a senior in college, and a few weeks ago I started working as an intern for a company I want to work at after graduation. This has been my first experience with a full-time work week and the adjustment has been pretty hard for me. I’m tired all the time, the stress of wanting to succeed and get a return offer has made me more on-edge and irritable, and making time for my social life has been a lot more challenging. How did you guys learn to cope with handling your burgeoning professional goals and responsibilities while still trying to find that balance of personal enjoyment in your 20s?

Kenna Harper

How do I stop listening to Jesus etc the best dad rock song

Addi

How do you find new music?

Hudson

how do i cope with being a cleveland browns fan??

götze

What brand of underwear do you recommend for the fellas?

John Stacy

How do I get into basket ball, I only really like the spurs so I’m not sure if I should enter hell or not

Carson Taylor

I got broken up with yesterday. For context, we’re both going into our senior year and she doesn’t see it going anywhere after. It was hard to hear her say that. She says that I did nothing wrong and that she still wants to be friends. And so do I, but I do still love her. How do I navigate that? Also we were invited to a July 4th thing with 2 other couples. Do we still go to that? HELP!!

fynzyme

I was broken up with at the end of last year and even though we only dated for about 3 months, I'm still getting waves of sadness and getting caught in what-ifs. It really felt like we connected pretty perfectly, but we broke up because it just wasn't a good time for them to be dating someone, and it seemed like a really difficult decision for them. While it sucked for both of us, we knew it was for the best and broke up amicably. The problem is that makes it REALLY hard to move on when you have nothing to hold against them. Just wondering if you've been in similar shoes and how you dealt with it?

Bella K

My rescue dog keeps eating my couch when I’m at work. We are on our third couch. Any advice? We can’t crate him btw. He almost died trying to break out so crating is no good. I’m losing my marbles cleaning up foam and couch remnants on the daily. Thanks!

Rishabh Dev Chawla

how does one get over "cringing at things that make them cringe or uncomfy?". For example as a mostly non-confrontational person, I couldn't get through 7 episodes of Succession due to the cringe overwhelming me - and not due to the show being bad or anything. it was like mingling in a crowd of overly confident people with no morals. felt the same with The Boys. How are some people able to watch those shows and is this a personality issue that's too tough to solve at 27?

zacvh

I really want to get into music reviews and video essays. I LOVE writing but I'm a terrible speaker so I really struggle bridging the script->recording gap. Were either of you camera/mic shy and needed to learn how to get over that fear? Any tips for a low-class SCRUB in the youtube world?

Cody

How do you cope with grief? My grandfather died a month ago and I’m across the country doing an internship and I feel like I’m drowning, I miss him. #sorry to be so serious

nate tha gawd

How do i tell my uncle keneth that im a graphic design major without disappointing my extended family? i originally went to college for business administration but found my passions elsewhere in the design field, however im worried that i will eventually have to break the news to my uncle and my other extended family and am not anticipation their utterly disgusted reactions.

Jon

I work from home, and I have the opportunity to move pretty much anywhere. I have friends in Madison, WI, Cincy, and Pittsburgh. I’m also considering Detroit because my work has a regional office there. I know you both have lived in Cincy and Detroit, any advice or recommendations? Any other cities I should put on my list? If you can’t tell I’m looking at Midwest/rust-belt cities with reasonable cost of living and not too big (love Chicago, but not my speed).

ed

My boyfriend doesnt like me smoking nicotine, but i think im slowly getting addicted

Kordell

My fiancés parents genuinely don’t like me even tho I think of myself as a pretty nice guy. They constantly find new things about me that they disapprove of. And even have tried to get her to end our relationship. Should I keep trying to break through this mysterious barrier or should I just let go and not care?

Berry Pitts

I wanna buy a gun but I'm scared I might kill myself with it lol

Yikers

I’m a couple years into college and I’m kinda stuck. I keep failing and I absolutely hate it but I feel like I’ll never be able to get a good job if I quit. Is it worth finishing or should I leave? I’m a music major btw so I guess I’ll make no money regardless

olivia

what shud i have for breakfast tomo

WillRZ

I'm a musician/producer looking to get my music in front of more people. I've got an album out on Bandcamp and Youtube, but I'm struggling to pick up traction since the all-powerful ALGORITHM controls whether or not people get shown my songs. At this point in time, music is a hobby for me, and physical media/in-person promotion isn't really an option. I know you two have some experience working with underground artists, so here's my question: What can I do to help build an audience instead of just idly waiting for the all-knowing all-powerful evil ALGORITHM to start doing its job? Also, I make mostly sample-based instrumental hip hop/electronic music. I've been told it's good. Please listen to it. Follow me on Bandcamp at willrz-owes-me-money.bandcamp.com Follow me on Youtube @WillRZmusicofficial My album B-TELEVISION is out on Youtube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHxUv4gFUDdnn8lsxIOYDmjalqshsxawl&si=Lw95-5nj4xWpOck_

Eli Shmeeli

I really want to get into voice acting. I've already done a free gig or two, but I wanna know what a good way to keep steam/motivation is. I seem to lack a lot of that when it comes to the things I really love (Like voice over)

reece rowan

hey y’all. i’m a creative and make some content online for my music shit. how do y’all come up with ideas of what content to make? also, how would you recommend i market my music online in a way that people will actually care? thanks goats

charlie gott

I have a friend who I am close with but I have a big crush on. I have no idea if they are into me at all, and I don’t want to ask them out because it could ruin our friendship. I am going into my senior year in high school, and they are going into their junior year, so the clock is ticking if I am going to ask them to prom/homecoming. What should I do?

Shea

my brother’s best friend and i have had a very flirty friendship for a few years and i had a lil crush on him but no big deal, i wasnt looking to get with him or anything until he decided to drunkenly makeout with me in the middle of our friend groups go to bar in front of our entire friend group. i asked him not to kiss me if he did not like me, because i liked him and he did anyway…. we proceeded to have a conversation a few days later about how he isnt ready for anything yet (his dad died pretty recently) which is totally fine! and i understand i would never fault him for that! but now we are not at ALL as fun and silly and flirty as before and i feel as though our friendship is weird now even though i had told him i did NOT want it to be weird! anyways how do i make this almost 30 year old man be normal and funny around me again and not scared and almost shy like he hurt my feelings, because he did not… i just want my friend back 😀

Joanie H.

i had a couple very close friends since like november-december, starting a few weeks before the end of our term, they both started hanging out with a couple new people without me and formed their own group, when i asked one of them if i did something wrong they just said that a bunch of people don't like me and think i'm too negative which i had no idea about until they said that, and neither of them have sustained a conversation with me since (partly due to a situation that is of my own fault). i would like to try and stay friends with them but idk how great the chances of that are or if it's even worth doing

Brayden Quinn

how do i switch up on/slime my day 1s? really need this advice guys.

hivizion

ive staked the majority of my life on making a living off videography/editing, AI is about to displace a huge chunk of gig work and getting an entry level position in any production is only going to get harder as the industry gets more saturated, which was a problem even before this ai shit. i'm confident in my ability and i'll never stop doing personal projects but the prospect of making a living in any part of the industry seems less and less likely. i have no other marketable skills. am i cooked?

Andrew

i’m someone who has always seen computer science as my home base for career paths, and it’s probably what i’m gonna major in college this year. but, i’m a creative and don’t wanna get stuck in a boring job that isn’t fulfilling to me. i wanna make shit that impacts people inspirationally and changes their perspective on life, not sit at my desk all day writing code that i don’t give a shit about. i made a video game as my senior project and am now working on another one, and it’s so unbelievably fascinating to me every step and turn i make. i see video games as a medium to tell a story in a more impactful way than conventional ones, and its my dream job to tell my stories that way. given this choice between safety and risk, what’s gang meant to do?

Josh

How do I stop letting things I can't control from ruining my life

Kelpy Kelp

how to find good acid wherever i find myself

Jake

I just can’t seem to get over the “one that got away”. It’s been four months now and it’s like it just happened yesterday.

Kyle Cahill

I have high functioning autism which makes it hard for me to be a socially outgoing person. How do I get better at being a more open person while still expressing my self interests that others may not find interesting?

risotto

should i quit bartending ? been going strong for 3 years now im 22 and have been hospitalised bc of binge drinking twice🤔💀😭😭

Liv

so in may i was supposed to take a trip to switzerland with a friend from overseas and the trip ended up getting canceled after he totaled his car. i was able to refund the tickets for airline credits and received enough to fly me, my boyfriend and our mutual best friend to las vegas (it was a big trip and vegas is cheap till you get there). i asked the group chat what dates would be best for everyone and the best friend was the only one with specifics so we agreed. we didn’t realize till later (bad friends ik) that he had chosen HIS OWN BIRTHDAY. which is fine whatever, that’s just the start. i had already planned to cover a lot of costs on the trip, im a generous friend and i make too much for what i do but he’s not making any attempt to save money in preparation like my boyfriend and i are and is totally taking advantage of me and expecting me to pay for him to go on ventures i don’t want to be apart of or frankly around. im a recovering addict of 1 year (california sober, i’ll drink ill smoke take the occasional tab or bean but nothing i consider jeoprodizing myself) and his immediate response to me setting a boundary of no drugs on the trip was to push it, ask me “ok but even if , this even if that” i feel as tho my only hard boundary was blatantly disrespected. he’s our best friend but i feel as tho he’s kind of making a trip that i generously paid for and invited him to entirely about himself. i worry that my boyfriend and i wont be able to enjoy ourselves for the sake of keeping him out of trouble. i don’t know how or if to confront him or even if im the one being dramatic here.

Caitlin Barnard

how to get over a situationship with a rapper…

Ashley Wineke

I just turned 19 and i am in school and working. it feels like im being pulled in different directions by everyone in my life, adults and peers alike. i have trouble trusting myself and even knowing what i want sometimes. how did you know what to to prioritize at this age, it feels like every decision i make could change the course of my life and i cant tell if im fucking it all up

Michael

I’m moving 12 hours from home and am worried about finding my place in a new town. My gf got a job at a university in Florida and I can transfer my job there but I’ve lived in the same city I was born in and now I’m ready to leave it just feels so nerve racking

Colin

the grinding. so good. but the once denim grind—has caused burn—burn that heals almost until grind again. must not grind anymore until the burn gone…but how resist the grind…? thank you

Mila Roemer

i got abt a month and a half before i start grad school how should i spend my time

Sarah 🍑

How do I find a girlfriend when dating apps make me want to take a long walk off a short pier?

Max O’Kill

I got sacked from my job and so im going to to travelling for about 3 months, where should I go to?

ava

Idk if I should leave my current job or not—they kinda treat us like shit and most of my friends are leaving but some are staying and it pays okay and I’m good at it

mr Boss man

My freinds are all conserverive but i dont know how to find New ones that align more with my views. How do you meet peapool outside of your highschool?