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Bonus Ep Questions (Patreon)

Published:
2023-07-09 19:26:25
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2026-06

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Binchies!

We are recording one more in person bonus before Julia moves to nyc (DONT WORRY THERE WILL BE MORE) but comment below if you have any questions / things for us to discuss!!

xo

Comments

em

genuinely how to get past ur self cringe when trying new things

mace

Ultimatum queer love???

Erin Healey

finding apts in nyc 🙏

shannon

thoughts on speak now taylor’s version!!!

salami

me falling in love with my coworker

Erin Healey

feeling distant from your partner in an LDR when u r clearly the one putting in more effort

Isabella Harvey

How to cope with someone moving away🧐… seems relevant…

ryan perry

eliza will u come to the eras tour w me and my bestie august 8

Ellie

Opinions on Ohio 🤨

Sophie

maintaining long distance friendship/relationships

mads

YELLOWJACKETS S2 !!!!!!!!!!!!

Jackie

thoughts on those jonah hill texts?? it’s DIABOLICAL imo

Sarah

What's something you're looking forward to about ny Julia?

Deanna

how to come up with questions to ask tarot cards

Anya Gips

how do you read a scholarly article and not go cross eyed . I just started grad school and fr need some tips and tricks

Robyn

Summertime sadness

cyansims

jonah hill gate

shannon

if you could pick your dream pet what would it be. no animal off limits.

Allison Cross

Can you address the negative discourse about the pod that has been on Reddit lately?

Erin Healey

How to cope when you feel creatively dead

Claire Heinle

how to separate your new partner from the faults and traumas of old relationships

Lily

colleen hoover 🤭

mace

How to handle your best friend moving away from the left and more politically center after college?

Stella Bowden

crash course in de-centering men

Moo

The keke Palmer boyfriend drama!!

Sarah Peake

hate to be this on the nose, but how to/tips to maintain long distance friendships 🥹

Julia

How will Binchtopia work out with you two in opposite cities!

Monica

Summertime sadness, like winter depression but in the summer. It’s hit me REAL hard this year

Molly Wolff

being in love w someone who’s too old for you lol

Sophie

making friends in a new city?

Leslie Estrada

Jonah Hill/keke palmers bum of a baby daddy pleaseeeeeeeee

ryan perry

if you ladies could only eat one starch for the rest of your life what would be

Maeve Barnes

evangelist influencers.. mormon media

mimi kiki

falling in love for the first time? 😐🫶

Bridget McCourt

coping with transitional periods of your life (moving, new school, etc)

Robin Kjems

Eliza if u still smoke what is ur go to brand of cigs also pls this is very important information also what are y'all's go to vape flavor

Sidney Santerre

Thoughts about getting back together with an ex? (healthy relationships)

Sandra Biskupovic

favourite/least favourite thing about LA and NYC ❣️

Jordan Horrall

thoughts on Better Than Revenge (Taylor’s version) Feminist rewrite??

Annabelle

Eliza how have u coped w your cptsd diagnosis? Any tips?

Layne

julia what are you excited to do in nyc... eliza what are you excited to do when you visit... also any wisdom around being eerily calm/disaffected two days post breakup

madi hemming

how to give yourself grace without not letting yourself get away with not working hard enough

Maeve Barnes

i will never get over performing the american pastoral

rachel

JULIA are you scared about infestations in new york (currently dealing w this😭send thoughts and prayers) or have y’all ever had to deal w this

Katie Kuo

Jonah hill and his “boundaries”

Taylor Kremis

I’d love to hear an ep on effects of alcohol on society and culture 🤓

kerrie
>>112544056

not me being confused ab how u can put effort into lana del rey…

Callie Hogan

opinions on neighbours to the north (canada LOL)

Jess Chachere

personally would love to know how you know to take the leap and make a change even if it’s terrifying

Lien Duke

Embarrassment!!! I find that I have huge issues when it comes to being embarrassed or thinking things are embarrassing all the time. I live in fear of being embarrassed. How do I get over this or embrace it? Maybe get max on to talk since he is goated at just deciding stuff isn’t embarrassing

Sophia Cook

Please speak about your personal Snacks Of The Summer

Julia

Will you guys hire a research assistant at some point for the heavier episodes?

Julia

as another julia who is in the process of moving... moving tips and hacks please

ryan perry

on barbenheimer day will you be seeing both films and in what order

kat

i would love advice on maintaining long distance friendships/ways to stay connected! i just moved across the country and i miss my friends so much </3 we are all scattered now that we have graduated college and are starting our “real adult lives”. also wishing the best of luck to julia and save travels, as my wonderful jewish grandmother would always say “tell the pilot there’s precious cargo on this flight!” xo

Sydney

anxious attachment style 🫠

Karen Fonstad

I’m so interested in hearing about what Julia is thinking of researching for her PhD and general thoughts about academia is she is comfortable sharing 🫶🏻

Mia

why is western society so individualistic? i’m on summer break and i miss my friends everyday and they tell me i’m annoying for telling them everyday. but i miss them!!! am i supposed to not tell them anything and just be sad and lonely for a month? seems stupid… also what are your favorite books of all time?

Phoebe

neeeed to hear about postgrad study from julia and how u decided on doing a phd :0 am considering it myself but it’s scary and seems like a big financial/career decision 😖😖

Sophie

please talk about barbienheimer

Sarah

Eliza - tips on releasing a piece of music into the world for the very first time? How did you do it?

Jordyn

Any romance (or fiction) books u guys like? Or are u just intellectual readers?

Izzy

why as an artist do i only fall in love with other artists !! i realise this sounds pretentious af but i am high enough to post this bc i’ve been thinking lots abt it recently! like why its such a significant part of the bond

Kay

Idk if advice fits here BUT. I’m from fl and am likely moving to Portland OR next year. My question is how much do earthquakes/ anxiety about the big one affect your daily lives? Are earthquakes themselves terrifying ? Im worried I will make the move and then be constantly in fear. Love u guys best of luck to you on your move Julia 💗💗

Lauren Daniels

i want to hear about julia’s NY bucket list!

Becca

how the fuck do I make friends in my mid-20s when I study from home/remotely bc of my disability & all of my friends have moved away !!! help a lonely binch please

cass

So i did shrooms yesterday and i feel weird today… i was curious if you guys could speak on how the shroom come down feels in your experience as i believe you both have done them? Xx

yasmine

i remember eliza mentioned the idea of human design types a while ago but if you have any more info on generator / manifestor types that would be awesome xoxo

Jules

what are the bugs like in LA

Hannah

Eliza how do you handle being away from Harley and Bug when you’re on tour? I’m traveling rn and I miss my cats sm, I wish I could bring them with me everywhere like Taylor Swift

Ella carlinnia

how to not allow men to walk all over me, in a culture that has taught me from BIRTH to be submissive and accommodating to the men around me?????

kerrie

this might be dumb or mayhaps insensitive bc of julias current sitch but how to make friends as an adult in a new cityyyy lol julia if u have any tips that u plan on using pls tell

claire

eliza whyyyy are there so many clowns in chapel hill??? I swear to god i'd never met a clown person in my life until I lived there for 6 weeks and met THREE???? help????

alannah notley

Hi! Could you do an episode on female friendships or friend break ups? I feel like girlhood friendships are such a deep special thing it can get crazy when things end or it becomes toxic!!

Vani

how to find meaning among the monotony/how to appreciate the little things

That's Faux Deep

I would love to hear more about how you two manage conflict without affecting the health of the pod! My sister and I started one a few months ago and couldn’t record the last week when we were fighting

Rosie Hankes

julia — would love to hear about the type of therapy/psychology you are going in to (i.e. which modality) and why!! love, a baby social worker 🫶🏻

kerrie

also speak now tvvv and the gayness of when emma falls in love / I can see you

Maya N

How do y’all stay so motivated?!

Ella carlinnia

what wave of feminism are we currently living in?

Tulsi

Been getting cat called every time I leave my house in my new neighborhood .. how to deal and not let it get to me every time?? Coming from a sensitive girly

Kaitlyn Gill

what is your opinion on kibble!!! the history of cat food and capitalism 👿 my greatest enemies

Genevieve Hulshof

the feeling of realizing you’ve passed childhood… the never grow up tswift rerelease had me sobbing in the bathroom at my shiny new post grad job

Laura Zull

Julia how are you coping with moving across the country? I just moved from New Orleans to Chicago and while I was excited about the move, I also experienced a lot of grief around leaving the city I called home for so many years and I’d love to hear your thoughts as you go through a similar transition period!

Sarah Howe

Best non-alcoholic summer beverages? 🤔 or best non-alcoholic beverage for each season

liz

feenyx’s temper tantrum on eliza’s twitter 🫢

lils

how do each of you think your seven year old self would think of you now?

Karen Fonstad

Also general tips for big life transitions! I’m moving to a new city after six years in my current one to start my masters, without knowing anyone - very excited but also a bit scared!

snaggletooft

What was your SIGNATURE bath and body works scent as a kid? Mine was Pink Chiffon because I've always been a bad bitch. Also, what tour stop are you most excited for?

lils

if you ate yourself would you get bigger or smaller

Hannah Long

How to deal with a dad that discusses/makes very political posts about the harms of the patriarchy and male vulnerability and is a staunch liberal on his social media and is also something of a micro influencer in his city and then does limited housework because he “provides” already and can’t have an interpersonal relationship with his family to save his fucking life but it’s not because he’s an asshole he just has childhood trauma? Asking for a friend 🫶

ryan perry

how did u guys individually come to your decisions to pursue/not pursue higher academia?? i’m a year away from my bachelors and want to go to law school bc i love school and i think i’d absolutely eat up an elle woods era but i def feel pressure from both sides of argument

claire
>>112544303

I realize it may be because i've been hanging out at OCSC and the cave 🫣

Caellaigh

Thoughts on will poulter’s glow up? Best celeb glow up of the past ten years?

Emma Steinert

Would you rather have your celeb crush be an acquaintance but curb stomp you once a month or not know them at all/ not have them in your life in any capacity

Brigid McCarthy

How to not hate literally everything i write

Brigid McCarthy

I am in an intense situationship and about to go abroad for a semester yikes. Thoughts?

Sophie Lever

JULIA WHEN IS YOUR SONG COMING OUT AND ELIZA WHEN IS YOUR ALBUM RELEASING!!!!

Kenya Faith

fuck, marry, kill: squidward, mr krabs, spongebob

Isabel Runne

Why don’t you like North Carolina Eliza?

Tori Balsam-Ashling

Any tips for being a college student at home for the summer and feeling depressed or sad about changes in your friend group from home

Bianca
>>112544266

Sorry I know this isn’t who you wanted a response from but I really recommend getting the MyShake app and making sure you’re signed up for Earthquake Early Warning (EEW) Alerts! The west coast has a system called ShakeAlert that can give people tens of seconds of warning before an earthquake happens so you can take cover

Emma Steinert

Would love to hear your take on the culture of cliques and their relationship to group chat names in adolescent girls

girlypop

thots on ryan gossling? he is annoying to me….

Carlee Knott

Not a question but Eliza I was listening to Pulp today and it just perfectly captures so much of what I've been feeling lately. I get so caught up in nostalgia and worrying that my good times are fleeting and nothing in my life is permanent and everything will end and it's just so hard to live with that at times. Thank you for writing such a beautiful song that I can listen to when I feel this way and express how it all feels. ❤️ Keep writing and singing your truth because I feel you and it is exactly what I need!! ✨✨✨

Emma Steinert

I saw a tiktok about emotional monitoring (constantly scanning ppl around you for their emotional state)- would love to hear your thoughts on it if this is something you’ve heard of or experienced!!

Annina Maudonnet

bro my best friend is literally moving to spain in a month… how does one deal with that? (time convenient question)

Valeria Chavez

What would you do if you and your partner love each other but they aren’t sure if they want children? My bf and I have been together for a year. I’ve never been so sure about spending my life with someone until him but his only “red” flag is he isn’t sure if he wants kids and we’re kind of arguing about and it’s super frustrating and upsetting :(

bunnny

How do I tell my boyfriend I think I like girls? Or how can I like being with guys sexually but dating one feels,,,,, off?

Sophia St Cyr

could you talk about making/publishing music i want to hear both your ideas behind being indie artists

nora gore

how to hang out with yourself without going crazy and rotting on your phone

Sophia St Cyr

could you talk abt when someone important moves away form you

nora gore

very random but vacation bible school would be a silly thing to talk about

Kalina Hagen

girls… i’m 17 and i just graduated high school, going to college in the fall. i’m just changing so mucj everyday, and it makes me so excited, but i’m an only child and every day it feels like my parents are loving a daughter that is slowly ceasing to exist. maybe that’s a little dramatic- I just feel like i’m on a journey towards truly becoming myself, and i don’t know how i will introduce the new me to my parents. i don’t feel like the girl they raised anymore- in a good way, but it’s weird.

Divya

eliza thoughts on people from the northern us looking down on the south as a whole? I feel like there’s a perception that northeast United States is a liberal paradise and the south is “evil” and “racist” …

Kendra Flint
>>112544266

Omg hi I will partially answer for you as a west coast binchie (living in Portland from California) in my experience earthquakes are more common/ stronger on the coast bc they usually happen in the ocean. The bigger ones can be a bit scary but if you live somewhere built in the last 50-100 years you’ll be safe. And don’t hang anything above where you sleep!! After you first earthquake you’ll see what moves around but you could totally live here for years w out ever feeling one. (For reference I’m 20 and have had 4-5 that are significant enough to remember and only one was a little scary). A lot of times you’ll sleep through them or be driving and not feel it. 🤍🤍🤍 no need to be in fear, preparedness can help the anxiety subside if you do experience it.

Cassie

can we talk about turning 20 i am so scared <3

Maia Gonzales

Heyyyy, I'm a girlie who has an extra ticket to the 1st philly show, Is there a place that I can resell or find another binchie to buy the ticket off me?

madison 💐

not a discussion topic but mayhaps a binchtopia x mumbling and cackling collab ep

maddie

How to not go insane when all of ur friends are in relationships and ur single??

mars

yellowjackets and speak now tv for SURE

Deanna
>>112544103

thank you for saying this because i literally had not seen it but agree w several of the points made tbh

ava grace

eliza!! i want you to know that i bought a car in chapel hill yesterday (i live in wnc) and i think i’m going to name her after you!!

Claire

relationship advice !

Sydney Nicole Champagne

I am 20 and still desperately trying to get my drivers license😵‍💫any tips on overcoming this anxiety and climbing this mountain that feels unclimbable

Sabrina Benchaabane

talk about the journeyyy 🙈 your favorite memories as friends, best mems in LA, what you’re excited for in the future and alladat

Katelyn Fletcher

Best journalists tgat you follow? Or favorite articles?

Kay
>>112544266

No you’re good thank you I really appreciate this ! I had no idea any type of warning was possible that makes me feel a lil better.

alexa schnur

how have your lives and careers changed with the growth of the pod and its scope/audience? would love to hear an update on its place in ur lives and how you guys have adapted as it’s grown. even just in godly wives the amt has changed so drastically since earlier eps! how has that changed the show, its form, and u guys?

Jacob Dutt

What are your fave childhood songs and foods?

Julia Battista

tell us things u luv about each other and ur friendship

Kay
>>112544266

Thank you!! I really wanted lived experience for reference I appreciate this. Yeah I’m definitely going to research enough to know Ik how to be safe

nic (otine)

eliza PLEASE talk about how you healed and changed your attachment style! i am violently dismissive avoidant despite having no obvious childhood trauma and a very close relationship with my parents. i CANNOT stomach the idea of dating or being in a relationship but i'm 21 and feel like it's probably time for me to get out there ???? how do i stop getting the ick and running away from everything as soon as it gets serious? i am so aware of my issues but don't really know how to fix them (i have a psychiatrist and am on meds for depression/anxiety/adhd but can't really afford a therapist at the moment)

mimi
>>112544578

run freeee the world is so massive and full of possibilities and new humans...it will be amazing xx

Juliet

Thoughts on the Jonah hill / ex gf drama? Very thought provoking for the girlies who have dated narcissists before. Would be an interesting discussion me thinks

caroline

could we maybe discuss change and why it’s scary and how to not be scared of it??

Devyani Sharma

NEED you to talk about how three Kevin Spacey abuse victims ended up dead randomly? WHAT IS THE TEA

Julia Battista

the jonah hill (ab)usage of therapy language to control his baby mama (read they leaked texts)

Chloe Allen

long distance besties/friendships in general

Emily Michelle

JULIA what kind subsect of psychology interests you the most and why?

Tara Buxton

what are your thoughts on joe jonas/the jonas brothers

Ally Pardo

the f1 fandom plzzzz

sav

taylor lautner at eras tour!? discuss also discuss bitch baby john mayer

Juliet

thoughts on Colleen ballinger / Miranda sings allegations

syd

Thoughts on coping with aging as a twenty something year old?? Like… perhaps because of the threat of climate extinction, young people who are now going into the 20s and 30s are having “mid life” existential crises. Personally… I cannot cope with TIME and the concept of aging. From a developmental psych perspective, it’s that ah-ha moment of not being young anymore, having a limited amount of time left. Technically, that realization hits in your 40s or 50s (which is also BS and subjective SO). I feel like it’s happening at a way younger age now that previous generations?? Does this even make sense? I have so anxiety :-) okay THx

Zoe

would love to hear ur different perspectives on academia / academic validation

Abi Wallace

Julia - what are your post grad plans (if you have any) like do you plan to move back to LA after or just see where life/work takes you?

Elizabeth

Thoughts on the culture surrounding being “famous” or a recognizable influencer? Does it get to people’s heads? What is it like to be recognizable or friends with “famous” people?

Amanda Weymouth

Thoughts on dating somebody whose friends have terrible opinions

Sol

Need a reaction to “hi.”

Lili Whittier

are you more of a rain drop or a drop top

☆Sara☆

Maybe discuss aging in both a physical sense but also just in general. I’m about to enter my senior year of high school and while I can’t wait to get tf out of there, I am starting to understand the fact that I’m actually growing up and it’s never gonna stop. I’m scared of facing adult problems and responsibilities but I’m also excited to finally become the person I’ve been molding for years. I’m also really scared like genuinely terrified of physically aging. I think it’s also due to agism perpetuated towards women, but I really wish I could just stop aging at like 30. How are you both navigating adulthood and the constant ticking of the clock?

Mnewman

Thoughts on how to deal w random roommates who aren’t good at communicating??? How to set boundaries without being a bitch

AJ

thoughts on what famous godly wife jasmin savoy has been saying about lesbianism……

izzy

hm what about thoughts on sharing relationships on social media? how much should be shared? benefits of sharing vs gatekeeping? giving “romance is not dead if you keep it just yours” vibes or show it off? curious to hear 👀👀👀 seems like there’s so much oversharing esp on tiktok

Chiara Bosco

how to figure out who you are after essentially leaving a cult

Mia Levine

Bucket list items the other should complete!

rachel

taylor lautner doing a backflip onstage at the eras tour

sophie!

any recommendations for montreal? or advice for travelling w friends + w/o family for the first time

cat murphy

what to do when you feel like you’re flailing in your 20s? having no job, no direction, and about to be out of college is scary!!

mimi

seeing a lot of comments about aging anxiety... and, same. i'm abt to turn 28 and am absolutely in love with life, but still the crushing dread of time running out hums along in the background of my daily life causing frequent raging existential anxiety.... so anyway! -- can you please do an ep delving into aging, the history of perceptions of aging, the obsession we have with it now esp. via social media etc... ? would be fascinating and potentially helpful to many listeners to get a broader historical perspective on the topic / fear associated with it... 🫶 like how much of this is exacerbated by modernity?

Sas Mueller

what perfumes do y'all like? thoughts on Hillsong documentary! & tips for moving!

Olivia Libbey

Julia, I’m starting a second bachelors degree (girlboss situation) in child and family psychology, and I was wondering if you have anything you really loved learning when learning psych that I can most look forward to!!

Katie Boeckman

Thoughts on Gwen the Milkmaid (TikTok/insta) and the weird wellness/antivax/ trad wife pipeline

Amelia McCluskey

JULIA what ever happened to the Allegra tintype collab??? We need an update

Sas Mueller

Oh any good makeup product suggestions?

Raerae

Feeling like I’m dying after being broken up with by the perfect partner

Sas Mueller

Omg thoughts on Gestalt therapy!

Abby

Any grocery shopping tips? I never plan ahead and always get the wrong things

Olivia

Talks around changing life stages/ moving/ growing up/ maintaining friendships/ the weight of it all

Sas Mueller

Omg an episode or thoughts on Mormonism

Jill and Sarah

Any tips for what to wear in the summer to stay comfortable in the sweltering heat??

Jill and Sarah

What are your tips for making friends? I really want to focus on community building but I don’t know where to start

Mason Bides

let’s talk death binches

Svea

I’m in a happy relationship right now and I would love tips on how to stay independent and doing thinks for yourself. My partner is really independent so this helps but I have the feeling to make the relationship (i think dating in general and especially dating men) to much of a focus in my life/head when I really want to be an independent girl boss but all I think about is relationship stuff 🥴 help a girl out I need tips!!

Caleigh Harris

I believe every girly has a coming of age with their eyebrows. what was both of your journeys to (eyebrow) self love like??

asha

how to stop being in love w your best friend???

Kate Blackwood

how to soft launch pregnancy 🤰🏼sos lmao

Marisa

as a girlie who is about to get a breast reduction (36 DDD) and go through a long recovery period, would love to have your recommendations for any movies, shows, books, entertainment, etc. that will bring comfort when you're dealing with pain and on bed rest. Also would love to know if you have any tips for caring for yourself after a serious surgery. Hoping I can make it to your live show in Boston post-op!! <3

Jordan Poltorak

have you heard about the glitter conspiracy? what do u think glitter is in?

savannah

maintaining long distance friendships ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Noa Glashow

first period stories lollll

Ellie Fox
>>112548440

omg - sorry if this is crossing a line - but I had a breast reduction nearly 7 years ago and it was the best decision I ever made by a mile and a half - I have absolutely no regrets, it improved my life immeasurably. It’s a bit tough for a week or two after, but it’s absolutely worth it. Best of luck to you (though you won’t need it). My rec would be some of the long sausage pillows so you can put them either side of you at night (to stop you rolling over) but otherwise - just painkillers and movies! Lots of love xx

Eve

Eliza how's the weightlifting journey going??

Sterling & Zoe

I would loove an ep on polyamory/ “ethical non monogamy”

Katharine McGuire

GwenGwiz ASMR's transformation into a trad wife homesteader

Moo and Peff
>>112546701

Hey! There is a really good Aus podcast that I listen to called “Let’s Talk about Sects” that u may be interested in 🫣🤩🖤

Lily Curtis

how to know if doing a phd is right for you??????

olivia

what kind of art do you guys like/ would hang in ur homes? i’m hosting an art market stall later this year and need some inspo for the kinds of things to paint!

Bridget Salada

how do you deal a really messy and inconsiderate roommate, especially if they’re your friend?

Camryn Frye

What will you miss most about living so close to each other ??

Dana Garel

if eliza does an Ontario, Canada show, can i please open

adara

stuck living back at home for the summer, how can i make it more bearable/go faster when i’m a full adult with a curfew of 11pm & living with my almond mom?

Rebekka Bots

any tips for making your home a home after moving? I just moved and am trying to figure out how to make the place “mine”.

Devin

re: julia’s move! when do you know it’s the right time to relocate, i’m considering moving to another city for the next chapter of my 20’s but it’s been hard making friends and i’m nervous that i’ll be setting myself up for more loneliness! however i know i probably need to take the next step for my own health and happiness. help!!

Mandy Johnston

Let’s talk abt GRIEF and how many young ppl have experience with it and just don’t talk abt it openly bc it’s seen as a personal problem lol

megan biles

what are yall's best financial tips for being in your early 20's??

Camille

JULIA what kind of vibe are you planning on cultivating as a nyc girly??? will you be rebranding at all in your new city

Dianna Cohen
>>112551709

idk if this is helpful/how the situation has been handled so far but i'd try talking to them about how to split up maintaining cleanliness/neatness in common areas. some people the messiness just doesnt bother them personally but will do something about it if they are aware the other person cares. ofc if they are completely inconsiderate than that might not work, but if theyre your friend they'd probably be open to a conversation!!

Lilly Seymour

What are yalls thoughts on the Affirmative Action Supreme Court Case? Also, have you seen the article about Justice Clarence Thomas receiving "gifts" in the form of private flights and yacht trips from conservative billionaire Harlan Crow and if so what are your thoughts?

Bea

so desperately need a mall deep dive episode

Ais

How do you get over being obsessed with your partner’s ex/life before you? I am not jealous and feel completely secure in my relationship but I still have an obsession with the idea that my partner had a previous life that I wasn’t part of and so I direct so much energy towards stalking their ex even though the ex is not at all threatening and the two of them broke up amicably.

Ryan Setchel

why does it start storming and violently thundering after each time i listen to Lena Grove? Eliza witchstress vibes

Ais

What if you love your partner so much and they’re so right for you but part of you thinks that it’s been too long since you’ve been single, just for the character development?

Ais

How to meet new people when you’ve fallen into a comfortable pattern with a small group, but crave something new?

Mimi

How did you two each end up in LA/what were your reasons for moving there? :))

Aishwarya

THOIGHTs on strip malls and what’s the best chain store / restaurant in a strip mall

Aishwarya

thoughts on Barbie causing geopolitical controversies?!

Ashley

so sorry but would love to hear thoughts on the Colleen apology video …

Verlaine

How do you handle your families listening to the pod? Do they ever "not get it" or do they ever criticize you for sharing, or feel confused about personal stuff or family stuff that you share? Asking bc I'm afraid to publish my writing and stories because of judgment or weird comments from my family

Alex

PLEASE YOU HAVE NOT DISCUSSED SUCCESSION SERIES FINALIE

allison ekrot

Do u guys have any tips on moving out for the first time/ starting to seperate yourself from your parents? I just turned 18 and wanna move out of my parents home but I'm really worried about thrusting myself from one bad situation into another one (but this time with no safety net/ support)

alicia kapeecia

how do you stay optimistic in trying times? also what the FUCK is smart casual?

blake frost

CAN an old dog learn new tricks? AKA how can we go about speaking to family members and older folks around us about the change we want to see in the world??

allison ekrot
>>112556167

By the way i admire you both so deeply and turn to u binches for all my honorary big sister advice 🤍🦄🤍 sending many new york blessings for you julia

Katija Newton

What are your red/green flags, and can you think back to past relationships where you should have seen them?

Kirsty

how do you balance running the pod with other life commitments? do you burn out?

Kirsty
>>112556917

asking as someone that works several jobs and likes having lots of different things going but can never quite get the balance right and sometimes has to have a break from everything

cordelia price

how to get over an ex who was not massively kind to u but v hot and funny so u r still obviously obsessed with them

Zoee Keiser

NEEEED you guys to watch the Jared from Subway docuseries and discuss in the next mediasode 😵‍💫

aysha

For Eliza- how did you stay safe on your solo cross country road trip? I’m embarking on a similar journey but I’m worried about keeping scary men away 💔 I trust my intuition but beyond that and some pepper spray I’m out of ideas lol

Skye Tarshis

Julia what are your thoughts on The Idol finale!!

Izzy M

Idol finale takes??

Amy
>>112545560

Yes and going deeper into about how men are getting therapy and then turning around and using the language again women!

hannah

i recently talked to my friends about which books/movies we interacted with as children changed how we view things now (for instance, the parent trap made me IMMEDIATELY want to go to sleep away camp, etc…) - what are yours?!

hannah

what did your college process look like and how did you end up where you did? (love, a high school senior currently about to combust 💅💋)

Katie

What is your guy’s mtbi? I have a feeling julia is an INFP

andrea gertsacov

lesbian erasure over time, an episode kinda like the horse girl one but about emos, the native american diaspora, how the kinds of toys or books that we read as a child has shaped our lives, a how to decenter men

Hana U

how do you move on from/through a life-in-shambles situation… for context i don’t know if i’m moving to a different country in a month or if i’ll be forced to stay home when i really wanna move on with my life

andrea gertsacov

the fucked up way that collage admissions are set up, especially now that they have banned affirmative action

Emily

what are u guys thoughts on bfs and girl friends? for example, ur boyfriend having a girl friend that’s wayyy too fucking close for comfort and having an intimate trauma bond past with them. asking for a friend. (i promise i’m not crazy and possessive, just traumatized🙃)

Marisa
>>112548440

Not at all crossing a line I appreciate you sharing! I definitely have been getting nervous as I get closer to my surgery date but I always love hearing how much people say it was worth it. Thank you for the recommendation!

Abby Proebsting

how do you handle moving away from all your friends to a new place where you don’t have any friends? i’m moving back to my hometown and away from all my college friends to live with my parents and save moneyyyy i’m so afraid for this transition and not sure what life will be like

Katie Harvey

not a question but please do a theatre kid ep i BEG

Anna Cork

how to accept your parents are flawed people and FORGIVE them, not just love them through it…. sorry i’m struggling xoxo

Summer Desantis
>>112564906

also when someone says they "don't get into relationships to get heartbroken" what does that mean? do they think they could have imagined a life with me and decided for some reason I wasn't the one?

soph

what’s a good way to tell someone you like them without ruining the friendship? (he’s a listener bc i recommended binch to him so big green flag🥲)

Lea B

possessive men (keke palmer, jonah hill etc)

Tiff

What kind of soup are you

Emma May

Do you feel deeply in the moment ? Like in songs, you feel all the emotion. I’ve obvi felt deep sadness in the moment, but not happiness or at least not as intensely as when I’m sad. It feels like I can only look back on really nice moments and recognize how happy I was after the fact. I hope this made sense.(I’m not depressed)

Emerson Drewes

Plsssss how do I make friends in a new city???? I just moved to LA and I have NO ONEEEEE

Summer Desantis

Is it healthy to tell your parents about your romantic relationships?? Where should the boundary be drawn?

Emily

what are you fav ways to show love towards your friends? whether the tiny daily ways or big planned things <33

Sarah

is it too late to ask for your thoughts on the succession finale

Emily

how to get over a future career crisis and get your ass up & apply for grad school (lol)

Danielle

if you guys weren’t podcasters/musicians/phd candidates and had to choose something completely different for a career what would you choose

Astra Blue
>>112544050

no fr why do i feel like crying every day!! the lexapro doesn't hit the same in july

sarah keely

getting over a breakup when you were kind of in the wrong but were never actually trying to be a bad partner

Linnea Lofchie

Eliza!!! What do you wish you knew before your WWOOF & camp adventures? So much loveee

christian

since you guys did an ep about horse girls can you touch on the infamous subject of car guys🚗?

helenaxofficial

Thoughts on whether it’s ethical to have kids 🛸🫶🏼

Sophie White

How many drinks would it take for you to bang the pope?

Lucy Griffiths

Thoughts on starting a situation-ship with a co-worker…a gay situation-ship to be exact

Lucy Parsons

would you have sex with your clone? say there was an identical clone of you as you are right now (personality and all) and she tried to seduce you, would you hit?🤨

Jasmine

Wondering if you guys have ever re-listened to your older episodes, or thought another them and now have a different opinion now to when you did then on a specific topic or issue you’ve spoke about? Much love ❤️

Maile McFarland

thoughts on the IMF and WB and their role in neocolonialism

cordelia price

would love to know what onomatopoeia word you are (for example, i am crunch and my gf is whoosh)

tabitha hill

only if u want to share OBVI but how do i start to recover from my ed? it’s literally been like 7 years it’s my normal and i don’t even know how to change (mitski brand new city moment😔)

maria browne

friendship breakups? because growing apart from or losing close friends literally rips me apart in a totally different if not more devastating way than romantic breakups do

Katie

Interview Nicole pearl

Caroline

Thoughts on girls who say they have a flirty personality 🙄

Amelia McCluskey

This is random but I feel like doing an episode on summer camp would be really interesting! At least in my experience it seems like a very specifically American concept and I’m curious about the history!

Boodles

Ins and outs for July/whenever you record :))))) love uuuu

Amelia McCluskey
>>112547225

The bookstore DeStiil is super cool (and run by a really cool older woman who gives amazing recs), also bar Darling is super cute for drinks, my favourite coffee shop is Replika and Barbossa is a fun late night live music bar! Also second the picnic/drinking in the park and I think Parc La Fontaine is the SPOT for that!

Eliza Fausset

also more college advice and college stories! how to furnish ur first college apt

Vanessa Rae

How to not hold on to resentment for my mom from my childhood and just because of who she is as a person

🧝🏻‍♀️

Do another suck session for the series finale!!!

julia

how to deal with moving out and making new friends in a new city

Haley Sarah

i work at an outdoor pool and people literally get baptized there, which led me to wonder, how long does holy water stay holy? will our public pool forever be a basin of holiness? or will it revert to normal nonholy water after an atheist gets in for a swim or someone pees in the pool?

alexa schnur
>>112548440

ditto!!! best of luck and i wish you an easy recovery — i’m three years post op and getting a breast reduction was the best decision i’ve made!! i had a harder recovery bc of an unknown adhesive allergy and i still didn’t regret it for a second. two recommendations: make sure you know if you have an adhesive allergy before they put on steri strips, and follow their instructions for massaging scars! sending binchie to binchie love 🫶

Anessa

Advice for Mommy issues? How to let go and find peace, with an emotionally absent or mentally ill parent?

Mind Fuzz

Hi binchies! Question for Eliza (I know you are reading all the comments 👀) do you design your own cover art or do you have an artist you commission? I really love the Salt Circle Cover Art :D lmk if you need any art

Alexa Boltax

Advice you would give to your 20 year old self

Sunny Silverstein

Best way to quit unhealthy habits or how to get into a more “self care” mindset?

Sunny Silverstein

How do I get my bf to get over my past? I have a messy past and when I first got to college I was in an intense hoe phase and I met him during that phase. At first we were friends but now we in love but he gets so caught up on my past. If anyone from my past texts me or if anything from my past gets brought up he gets so triggered and can’t look at me the same. I have changed so much since being w him and have grown out of my hoe phase and have gained more self worth. It hurts me that he judges my past so much and it seems like he can’t get over it. I can see where he’s coming from but I just want to move forward with him but he is so stuck in the past. Breaking up w him is my very last choice and I don’t want to do that at all so please tell me how to go about this or what I should do. Love you binchitos, thank u for growing my brain and making me laugh

shif

for eliza🧚🏽‍♂️✨!! how to find farms on WWOOF and more about your experience!! I’m taking a gap in between graduation and getting a job and would love some advice, kind of scared to go to a farm in the middle of nowhere by myself but also want to try new things <33

Maggie Lavengood

toxic productivity please i am losing my mind!

Caroline

Eliza hun if you see this can you send some prayers for my fur baby, Dali, please? He’s a two year old little kitty from the shelter but he just got diagnosed with leukaemia 💔

Izy Well

What is your signature dish (to impress)

Izy Well

When you listen to music do you listen to the words or the beats

Izy Well

what is your favorite and least favorite compliment to receive

Reese

advice on how to spark + maintain creativity?

stella

(julia) what’s a pivotal LA moment you experienced while living there and or what daily things were unique to your life there versus other states?

Renee Lile

For Julia, what is your PhD research thesis?

Emma Biddle

thoughts on time theft at a corporate company??

Ava Anderson

If anyone is interested in going to the Philly show Thursday August 10th at 7pm I unfortunately will not be able to make it and am heartbroken so I need to sell my two tickets I bought the higher priced tix too so I’m GA1 for the section anyways hit me up on ig @aavaanderson if any of y’all are interested 😭🙏🏻

bella

Fav piece of merch!

Chloe

For Julia - are you going into a clinical psychology PhD program?! I’m a 4th yr student and would love to chit chat research!! Would also looove if y’all had an academia episode and talked about things like tenure or partnering with communities to conduct ethical research/the challenges of actually disseminating research as an academic who might be perceived as out of touch or at “an ivory tower” institution

syd
>>112560736

all of these ideas make me wanna be friends with you

Ava Anderson

Advice on how to get thru the weirdest post-college stage where all your friends are now in different places and you kinda hate your job and feel so alone and suddenly isolated from everything and everyone you knew and loved🙂

Destiny Thompson

I do not beat the U-haul allegations: Looking for a place to move in with my cutie and uh we do not beat the uhaul allegations We’ve been dating for 6 months, but to be fair have had to be living together for the last 4 months in my tiny room in a house with roommates because they lost their housing :( We feel really good about moving in together officially, we cohabitat really really well, move healthily through conflict, we’re polyamorous and respect having our own lives and relationships outside of our nesting one. We’ve also been through really intense + complex situations since being together and have held each other through it all. But our obvious lesbian troupe is a little on the nose. Is it too soon to move in or are we happy we’ve found each other and lesbian stereotype or not we will love building a home together ?? Hehehe silly silly gooses we are!! we’re gonna do it but love to hear ur thoughts on u-hauling in general Xoxo love the pod

Annika Wuelpern

Eliza did you socialize your cats?? What was the process of them getting to a point of cuddling 🥲 im doing it rn and I feel like a cat behavioralist

Eloise Carey

Confidence in that you will find love again and it will be better than ever before… going through it rn 🥲🥲

marilyn

Thoughts on the napoleon movie trailer and do y'all think they're going to mention his ~love letters~ ??

marilyn
>>112544842

Yessss so eloquently written!! Definitely my fave eliza song!

Audrey Jones

is the US death spiraling or will things me okay 😀

prakruti pancholi

Julia— what’s ur preferred tool for smoking I feel like it says smthg ab ppl

Maya Tomasik

how do you guys do so many different things? and do them WELL? time management tips?

br

gaslighting parents, what to do when you dont know what reality is anymore ?

Chloe Dawson

Dealing w / managing jealousy & anxious attachment in a relationship !! Ik y’all have historically been on opposite ends of the spectrum with that issue lol

Maddie Perlmutter

Julia do you have any tips for getting though grad school I'm terrified

Payton Johnson

i’m wondering y’all’s thoughts on how to move to a bigger city? I’m similar to Eliza in that I live in the southern US (Georgia) but don’t want to be here forever. How can I make the right moves or inhabit the right mindset to get out? (no hate to the South- just want to experience something new)

binchl0ver

-current obsessions/hyperfixations -how to not get the munchies -fav song glee version -how to stop being submissive -how to make friends -how do you show love -fav mentally ill girlie character -things y’all quote/ reference all the time -best things to do high -last meal but all day version w snacks and drinks and dessert too -words/phrases y’all have made up -niche things abt y’all -how to heal -how to get rid of tension and anxiety in your body -cannon moments in y’all’s life -growing up w curly hair (julia) -fav halloween costumes -what would y’all’s band name be if you started a band -invention ideas -how to deal with summertime sadness -coffee order -extreme would you rather (I can’t think of anything oops) -i’ve been depressed for 8 years when will it end/tips for depression and anxiety -can I buy miranda sings sweatpants or is that a no go -fav lana song -depiction of what it would be like if lana was president -what to do when everything’s going right but you still feel shitty and then you feel ungrateful -how to stay motivated when you know your going to work for the rest of your life -how to find balance in corporate america -how to get tested for every diagnosis possible (ik there’s something wrong w me) -how to get to know your parents as friends rather than mom and dad after moving out -what rapper is going to die next (or get shot oops) -list of just girly things -what did y’all perform at a talent show when you were younger -how to be an individual -hot takes

binchl0ver

how to have a love interest or crush when you feel unlovable

binchl0ver

how to make time for love when ur too depressed to try but lonely

Parker
>>112544578

Don’t let the situationship hold you back when you’re abroad. It’s a once in a lifetime opportunity. Have fun and if it’s that serious they’ll be there when you’re back.

Morgan Tait

girls i still need thoughts about the ending of succession 😭😭😭😭

jeannie

ways to cultivate creativity/creative community? i have the urge to create more but since i don’t have a particular focus/project i struggle to find ways to direct that energy!

Allyn (uh-lyn)

How bad is it really to drink on antidepressant

ada mcclure

i miss all tangents style vids lets get another one of those a little girlie bonding moment pre move

ems

How to keep yourself motivated when something you have wanted to pursui for a while either academically or career wise just doesnt go as planned? I recently got rejected for both the major and minor I applied to for my masters and feel super disappointed in myself and find it hard to figure out what to do next since I had all my hopes on these programmes :/

Cassidy K

Julia can you tell us your hair routine pls

alice

how to keep healing in the place that made you sick? will be returning to live in my childhood home in a few months… an environment that very much bred and fed my ed

Isa Joffre Camacho

Thoughts on crushes ? Crushes on your friends ? Is friends to lovers really possible or is it not worth messing the relationship up ? Just your opinions ofc

Olivia
>>112590814

YES I’ve been waiting for this one! The LDS church is one of the largest private landowners in the US, it’s kind of insane

Natalie Caccivio

favorite movie/show from your childhood you’re convinced no one else has seen

Jasmin Savoy
>>112716361

Omg for accutane i can say do NOT push out your poos or you might rip your booty hole!!! Drink lots of water! Alcohol is fine here and there but don’t drink too much it’ll dry you out. Aquaphor! Good moisturizer morning & night and SUN SCREEN ALWAYS! Your poom poom might get dry too but that’s ok lube exists for a reason 💛 good luck!!!

a

i missed several chapters is Julia moving to nyc for school!

katie

eliza how did you handle growing up with a parent with bipolar? my dad is a 6’6 56 y/o that has bipolar type 1 and experiences extreme manic episodes which most of the time i am the one left to deal with, as no one else really knows what to do. im only 17 and it’s a lot for me as he tends to get physically aggressive. i’m terrified that the rest of my life will be ruled by running across the country to take care of him when he is ill and the trauma that comes with that. how did you cope with your moms illness? how did you heal?

priscilla

i must know the girls’ opinions on john mccain! just curious 🙈

mari !

this is super random but you guys should do like a true crime episode!!!!! maybe ur spin on it could be like making them obscure cases or smth Idek. IT'D SO FIRE OKAY.