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Live Like the World is Dying: De-escalation (Patreon)

Published:
2025-05-11 16:55:18
Edited:
2025-05-12 15:54:57
Imported:
2025-05

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Hello, Casandra here! I'm excited to interview Kai Cheng Thom later this month about conflict resolution and de-escalation in radical spaces. If you don't already support Kai on Substack, I encourage you to check out her work; I'll link the post that inspired this interview below. She's also the author of several books, and my current favorite is "I Hope We Choose Love."

If you have questions about conflict resolution, de-escalation, mediation, etc. please drop them here so I can include them in the episode!

https://kaichengthom.substack.com/p/how-to-de-escalate-conflict-and-build

Comments

Dylan Spicer

Such a huge fan of de-escalation, so very excited for this! My question is I have several family members who always react aggressively to confrontational situations like someone skipping ahead in a queue, or making a rude comment at them. I've tried to persuade them of the value of letting stuff like this go, but they just think it's cowardly, and to de-escalate is to let other people walk all over you. I've hit a brick wall with this, so do you have any novel suggestions for getting my family to see the value in not rising to confrontational situations, regardless of who is 'right'? Thanks!

Syd

Love Kai! Very excited! Like Dylan, I have friends and family who are on principle opposed to conflict resolution. Some think one person has to 'win' every conflict. Some think it's better to never address conflict and let forgiveness be automatic, no matter the depth of the harm. I don't want to treat these connections as disposable, but it is easier and so much more rewarding and fulfilling to build new friendships with people already committed to embodied conflict resolution. I would love to hear Kai's perspective on how to balance bringing conflict resolution to longstanding connections vs building new connections with likeminded people.