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What would you do in my situation? (Patreon)

Published:
2020-10-31 19:14:59
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2020-10
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Poll

What would you do in my situation?

  • I would work on the game 63
  • I would spend all my time with wife 344
  • 2020-10-31
  • 407 votes
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I've been already working on the game during October, but I haven't done a lot cause it's first month my wife is at home. There has been ton of things I had to take care of. I'm contemplating to start working really hard from 1st November...What would you do in my situation in the upcoming year? Or what you want me to do?

Comments

Kai Kato

Family first man games can wait people are important

JonZealot

I would say short term, spend time with your wife. As much as your financial situation allows. But unless you have a lot of money stored up, you will have to get bac to work at some point. Also try keep your mental state as healthy as you can given the circumstances. Taking care of someone can be draining and difficult (doubt i have to tell you). If you can afford it, maybe get some help taking care of her.

Cliff L

You should definitely spend time with her, but for your mental health you'll need a break from time to time. I find work can be very distracting, can help you forget for a time the bad things. But, strike your own balance. Only you can decide.

Equinoriox

Spend the time with her, bro. Who knows if she could randomly go and you weren't there with her. I would stay with my girl and it would kill my soul if I wasn't there for her.

jay

i agree with family first.if you have time work on the game then thats cool but take care of the wife first

Phizzle

Having read your last lengthy post and then your posts on reddit, I just have to say I am so sorry for this horrible tragedy and circumstance you find yourself in. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to go through this. My knee-jerk response would be to absolutely just spend time taking care of the wife. But having read everything you posted.... that is not quite the obvious choice, as it sounds like income from the game may be desperately needed for her care, as well as an escape for you from your own dark reality. I am not going to participate in this poll or tell you what I would do, because I don't know. But I will say this, it wouldn't do her or yourself any good if you fall further into despondency. And if working on your game helps you with that, then that is a good thing. And if continuing with your game relieves much needed financial stress, then that too is a good thing. She is with her parents and being cared for by nurses and so that is good. Perhaps, splitting time between your game and your wife is the best choice? I would personally be okay with billing being turned back on and the updates come slower. I would hope most patrons would understand and be alright with that as well. Whatever you decide to do, I will stand with you. And I am hoping for a great miracle where your wife returns to you in the state of mind and body that you once knew her. Hang in there brother.

Airmanken

Family first. Stay strong. Our thoughts are with you.

BoriVania

Buddy family is always first but also don't over do ti your self relax ones in a while i know i have horrible English but as a writer i respect your work and your passion and i really wish you the best just take your time with wife first and things you have to do and if u you time to work on the game 1 day or 2 days a month then do it but is not your priority we will be there to support you the people that really enjoys your work and understand the situation

Pax

Please take care of your wife first. If working on the VN gives you a healthy escape from the stress of the real world, then add that in moderation (along with exercise, eating right and getting enough sleep). You are living this so please find the balance that works for you.

Chris

Spend time dude family if key here. mostof us will still be here waiting. Take what time you need

Heavenly Demon

I agree with @Phizzle. Do what you need & you think you should do. Family comes 1st & you need to take care of bills & expenses as well. From my personal opinion. I would suggest you try your best to get yourself in a positve frame of mind however hard it may be. As that will further give you, your wife & her parents more strength as well. And as for $ issues, good devs like yourself do make good money in this line of work so continuing the game may be the best of both worlds:~ you get to stay close to your family while making $ developing games. On another note, don't let other people here or in your personal life take your moral down. You have a goal:~ which is to bring your wife back to your side in the perfect health she was before this incident, let no one or anything deter you from that. Wish you all the best!

AJ

I voted for wife - but if working on the game gives you the ability to escape or "regain control", by all means take advantage of that as well. Don't neglect your own health while tending to your loved ones.

Hellster

Unless she needs the space, the answer is pretty obvious, spend time with your wife, the game can wait

BDOFaceMod

ill Vote for Both. ill just have to wait my lovely Lara

Mark Smith

I am reminded of the warnings they give you on airplanes, in case of an emergency put your own oxygen mask on before you help your child or others. Based on what you have said, this kind of caregiving job can be very exhausting especially if you have to do it for a long time. A lot of long-term caregivers end up getting depressed themselves. So I think you have to consider your own mental health, your financial situation and do not feel guilty if you are not spending every waking hour with your wife. Quality >> Quantity. If having a job (either game or something else) is better for your mental health and finances to pay nurses etc., I would suggest go for it and you will still have rest of the day to take care of your wife.

David Yow

All I can say on the subject is, do what you think you'd be able to live with. I've been fortunate in my life to be able to talk down anyone close to me that came close to an attempt so my advice is somewhat lacking in the experience department.

Hatred Stephen

My opinion is that, u should have spend more quality times with your love one, but u still can go for developing games when u are free, so that u can increase your income. I am happy that your wife is well. Take care guy. God bless.

Joko Haarislee

definitely spend so much time with your wife as you can. maybe u find some ideas that help you in the future who knows. u can do the game when ever you want but now just be a good support for your wife. I wish you the best and take care of your family. ❤️

Dominique

You can't possibly ask me this. You should do what helps you cope. If you need to be with your wife, you absolutely must do that. If you think working on your game will be a balance/help for you, do that when you feel it is right. There is no good solution to this, just do what feels is right at the time 😐

Zomzom

In the poll should have been a third option: "We support you whatever you choose".

jmmcw91

I’ve watched a family member let them self go from trying to take care of sick wife. Find balance. We can all find other things to play with our selves to

mraiders007

Dude spend time with your wife, always remember family firstand happy wife happy life.

Captain Karacho

Hey dont get me wrong i Love your Games but your wife is more important to this world then a few Gig on someones PC . Take Care of her try to make her Life worth again and dont worry about us . If you continue at some point fine If Not Nobody would blame you for it . Life is more worth then any Money or any social Media-Friends or anything else . Be a good friend, Lover and husband for her because she needs you now more then anything. And If she doubt you sometime Tell her you do it because you Love her and this is more important for you then any other Sideproject you could do in the meantime. My best wishes to your wife and Familie and i Hope they will all stay healthy. Keep your head Up Bro and enjoy every day with her .

James Branzuela

I voted spend time with your wife but with the addendum that you try to also put aside some time for yourself as this sort of thing takes a toll on the loved ones who are doing the caregiving and there could be the chance to develop resentment or to sink into further depression I myself am having to deal with a loved ones cancer diagnosis and surgery in 8 days that will either remove it or kill her so I've had a long time to worry and the thing I found that works is to be there for your loved ones but make sure you are able to find time to decompress

Asi Grettir (edited)

Comment edits

2026-09-14 07:00 so sorry to comment this here but how do i use my save files on a newer version? Again im so sorry
2020-11-04 21:04

S4865

Perhaps less frequent updates?

Lalodar

Hello! You are very talented and we will not deceive anyone, but everyone who follows your work would like to continue. but you make us compare two incomparable things. A bit like a deal with the devil. In my country, the family comes first. I want to wish you strength and patience, and not to lose hope!

Leowolf

T4bbo, just work on it as you can. Your wife is your main priority. Maybe use the game as a distraction?

Tao Dude

Concentrate on your wife, and work on the game only when you have time. Don't push yourself to do too much.

Rodrigo Sales

Have your own time, if it's better to you, work in the game or anything else, do not force yourself, we know that you are going through an unimaginable and horrible situation, do whatever is best for you at the moment, do not feel obliged to anything, I will not stop supporting you on Patreon as long as I can and I'm sure a lot of people think the same

Voron71rus

it's very sad that this happened .... you have to be strong and go this way. !!!! at the expense of the game - it's a masterpiece! this is the first game with such smooth development! deep obeisances to this (what exactly I like by genre) and how it develops, mmm !!! Thank you so much for such a masterpiece