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TMI TUESDAY: The Balance Between Codependency and Hyper-Independence | June 18, 2025 (Patreon)

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Welcome back to my video diary ♡ this one’s a deep dive ~ I talk about some tsunami dreams I’ve had lately and how they mirrored my emotional life, taking space, and riding big waves instead of getting taken out by them. also reflecting on the balance between accountability in relationships ~ what’s ours to hold and what’s not? how much is too much understanding? and what’s the sweet spot between codependency and hyper-independence? what do you think? 💭

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snowy angel

i absolutely love the way you broke down this topic for a truly profound "breakthrough" of understanding for this crucial balance yet still lightheartedly be able to illuminate imperfections to manifest the best at the same time (i completely understand how were all human and sometimes people don't always empathize or sync up ideally to ones intentions) however i feel its the way people choose to open up and further understand or express their communication in a way to moreso understand the viewpoint of the other. i feel those who have tremendously less conflict and more of a balance on either opposite or dual ends of this spectrum definitely can co-create more consistent and meaningful incredible times, alignment with their souls, and further in depth love + loving awareness of the other; and the ability to understand the co-dependent and hyper dependent aspects working in a sacred mirror aspect of the other seeing how it can further benefit and balance out the others intentions (maybe as u said one leans more towards one way and the other the opposite and it just works ideally) or the way sacred mirror aspects can be totally on the same spectrum and are able to work through things dually that way and perhaps if both are more co-dependent have a way to seek out the needs of both dually to align a hyper-dependent aspect together (but not say feeling trapped in a 3rd force to divide, theres a way opposites can combine together in the best way and that dually creates a 3rd aspect from the two of understanding which i feel is such a beautiful interconnected thing for those types of relationships! )and if some feel like they're further away from that balance I feel it can be a revelation for the other to understand and help the struggling partner work through that to only evolve further. I find both of your tsunami dreams very inciteful to your further exemplification of these standpoints and balances in a relationship where at one point you were able to pull yourself out of the tsunami wave from the bottom abyss and work your way out to ride the wave onwards, powerfully, peacefully and relinquishing out of the darkness and transitioning yourself into the waves of your own divine light and balanced perspective; I also find that you are genuinely such a kind soul and have so much love and a yearn to understand to only further help and evolve someone in your relationship luv circle :) <3 however as you also mentioned its never good to give someone countless chances to only continuously feel hurt then they make excuses :/ - at that point you can sense it and have a better sense of what the genuine nature of that person should be (or lack of) and be able to make the proper steps forward to keep your peace and part ways and only maybe reconnect if you instantaneously see a positive turning point on the level of struggle if your paths were to cross again after quite some time; you'd notice a change right off the bat at that point if you see they're naturally centered with their best self with the changes showing through both their actions and communication. I feel the one chance or maybe even a two (3 max) chance aspect can be crucial- maybe depending on the severity of what the issue was and the amount of hurt that it had caused and evaluate your concern with the other in a nice way yet stern to the point of how it was concerning and hurtful to you.. after a hopeful + optimistic guiding choice to further evolve with dual intentions for the one struggling to heal and you perhaps providing help or empathy during those crucial times needed; at that point it would be ideal to see the happy healthy shifts only further unfolding and manifesting the best for the relationship as a whole; however as you also said you can't control ones emotions but having utmost control and an urge to reflect and align your emotions to your own inner peace and happiness will only surround you with the same consistent energy especially when one doesn't feel like they need to cave or jump through hoops in unfairness while receiving little return. I feel also with your relationship experience and your in depth loving emotional intuition (along with a strong sense of intuitiveness all around and sensing when theres something that needs to change or something instantly feels right). more likely than not I feel our instincts can be very trusting when were in our most centered calming peaceful mindset and can be able to make the proper decisions and way of something moving or dissolving from there (the observations and length of growth or hurt also gaining the perfect perspective on how to make this sometimes difficult choice). I also feel you observing your own co-dependent + hyper dependent aspects is very thought-provoking and inciteful on such a natural profound level to further understand and grow from your own psyche and evolve your mindset more than you could imagine initially :) I find this very very helpful and soul-bonding to my own self and relationship right now too. Thinking about many different aspects especially in the way how some people can totally just shut down or turn in and fold up without growth, change or wanting to communicate or express a connection/relationship further. Or if say theres so many uniquely amazing individuals who always bring incredible vibes, energy, communication and understanding where you always just click, it makes things easy (and i feel those connections are an inner key to deeper love and happiness and can evolve gracefully, naturally without conflict almost 100%) but even when other connections have mishaps, mishaps dont need to mislead into turmoil permanently ever. i feel whether the relationships lasts or departs there's only one way to go but climbing the upwards spiral, only turning into a leading light of possibility and sacred evolvement for or from the connection where you can further appreciate and find so much love in the growth (and sometimes dually evolve in the relationship in a way you were unsure about, and that growth of success can feel amazing for both in the relationship no matter what sweet spot of the spectrum is or what you're working towards and wanting for the balance of things, as perfectly (and imperfectly we can be as humans) A dance of a balance between energies and everyone's own unique actions/reactions is a beautiful way to put that aspect in terms of being ready for anything and able to help or conquer anything to unfold only the best realms of possibility or peace onwards infinitely! Sending you all of the loving, evolving, and resilient interconnected energy and hope everything is starting to feel absolutely magnificent and soul bonding in your life and relationships all around! (and i know i kinda went on a rant with various perspectives and situations here but i will say on my own relationship standpoint me and my partner of 10 years have gone through various ups/downs, struggles/hurdles that have only helped us grow stronger and not stay in a grudge only evolving further to everlasting bliss, or at least the bliss in that sweet spot for our own balance of dependency) I think sometimes when things change or make a sudden transition for us it can be more difficult for me to evaluate my own co-dependence and inter-dependence and can almost emotionally set myself off yet have also learned to control this in a more evolved loving way by seeing how I can find that sweet spot for myself also. (for example as we made changes in our schedule I kinda gravitated towards more co-dependent aspects which I feel didnt always suit me and needed to figure out how to express and urge myself to seek my hyper dependent aspects to help ease my emotions and manifest my divine inner peace further and onwards. I feel also when my hyper dependence falls short suddenly it can gravitate my partner towards a struggle of co-dependence yet when his hyper dependence he sees in me shows through it only helps me see the realization of more of my resilient capabilities to make my own scale of dependency almost perfect and feeling more naturally aligned once again!, I feel overall me and him definitely can reflect as sacred mirrors in a way of seeing each other's range of co-dependent and hyper dependence at times based on our responsibilities and ways of expression and be able to bring the balance as needed in a more loving way, emotionally evolving the love versus dragging anything down in deep pessissm or sporadically unhealthy emotion. I definitely feel 10000% and infinitely our way of knowing and understanding each other and our own self-love/growth for almost 10 years now truly helps the pieces to the puzzle fit in the most perfect way where any off points dissolve and only can make the phenomenal turning point outwards only flowing into our own sacred understood spectrum of our love together. and wow I have to say this conversation really hit me deep in a very impactfully awesome way and really helped me reflect on some aspects I can continue letting in so positively even more beautifully to my relationship and form of taking care of myself (not being afraid to ask in healthy co-dependence and setting forth my resilience in hyper-dependence) hope this resonates with you in a helpful courageous way and spreading all of the magnetizing magnificent loving feels your way and cant say enough how much I appreciate your energy and healing evolved forms to love and grow a relationship so amazingly! <333 ILY! have a spectacular weekend and happy summer solstice today too !!!

miamystic
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thank you for your long and thoughtful reflection. i’m so glad i can resonate so deeply with you. you’re such a smart and thoughtful and wise being. i love hearing about ur own dynamics too. i feel this is the way i learn the most, is hearing about other people’s experiences, contrasting them with my own, and so forth. you have a lot of good things to share and i appreciate you always sharing your voice, it definitely helps me feel less alone and less like im talking into a void, lol.