Coming out (Patreon)

Hey everyone, I’ve been sitting with this for a while now, and I think it’s finally time I share something that’s been on my heart for a long time.

For most of my adult life, I’ve lived in a story I created—a story that felt safe, comfortable, and familiar. I was content, or at least I convinced myself I was. I had built a "straight" life, the one I thought I was supposed to have. But deep down, there was always more to me that I wasn’t ready to face or share.

For a long time, I was scared to come out—scared of how it might change my relationships, how people would view me, and honestly, scared of how it would change the life I had worked so hard to build. I felt like by coming out, I would be undoing years of my own narrative.

Telling my parents was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I wasn’t sure how they would react. It took a lot of courage, and while it wasn’t easy, their love for me never wavered. In the end, they embraced me fully and unconditionally. In fact, that has been the case with every person in my life. I know not everyone gets this kind of response, and my heart aches for those who face rejection, but please know this: when you live your truth, you will find your people—the ones who love you just as you are.

Although I have been out in my personal life for a while now, I’ve never really understood the idea of posting a “coming out” post, as if my sexuality should matter to anyone. If it truly didn’t matter, why should I have to announce it at all? The truth is, I’m not doing this for me—I’m doing it for anyone who is where I once was. For anyone still living in a narrative they feel they need to uphold, even if it’s not true to who they really are.

Coming out isn’t always a straight path (pun intended), and it can feel like an uphill battle, but I’ve realized the freedom and love you receive on the other side is worth everything. For anyone who might be struggling with their own story, know that when you embrace who you are, you open the door to new connections, new joys, and new possibilities.

Thanks for reading, and thank you to all the beautiful souls who’ve supported me along this journey. I’m finally living authentically, and it feels so damn good. 💙