MONDAY MOTIVATION - If you can't do it for yourself, do it for someone else (Patreon)

Happy Monday! I hope you’ve all had a great start to your week :D I’ve just uploaded a new motivation chit chat so go ahead and watch the full video for everything explained but here are my research notes and key takeaways..

And I know this is a bit of a weird title but hear me out:

* Sometimes, it can be hard to motivate ourselves to take action for our own benefit and focusing on how our actions could benefit someone else may make it easier to take action

* Shifting our focus to helping others can also be a source of fulfillment and happiness in itself

* Also, thinking about how our actions could benefit others may help us find the motivation and inspiration we need to take action.

Why we find it easier to do things for others rather than ourselves:

1. OBLIGATION We often prioritize the needs of others over our own needs which creates a sense of obligation to help others, making it easier to take action for someone else than for ourselves. There can also be guilt attached to doing things for ourselves over others.

2. VALIDATION We may be more likely to seek validation and approval from others than from ourselves. Doing something for someone else may provide a greater sense of external validation and affirmation than doing something for ourselves.

3. CONFIDENCE We may struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk that can undermine our motivation and confidence. When we do something for someone else, we may feel less pressure to perform perfectly and be less critical of ourselves.

4. ACCOUNTABILITY We may feel less accountable to ourselves than to others. If we make a commitment to someone else, we may feel a greater sense of responsibility to follow through on that commitment.

* Remember that taking action for someone else can also have positive ripple effects on our own life and wellbeing.

* Be open to the unexpected ways in which helping others can lead to personal growth and fulfillment.

So what do we do if we need to do something for ourselves but can’t quite bring ourselves to do whatever it is… PRETEND! Imagine you have someone to answer to, a partner, friend, family member or colleague and this will help you get the job done!

I hope this helps :)