Is Complaining Bad? Should I Write Down Negative Thoughts? Letting Go of What My Family "Should" be? (Patreon)

1. Hey Kati, I've got a question for you. If you would like. I was just wondering. What is your thoughts on complaining is it a good or bad thing?  Thanks for all your videos they are awesome. :-) 

2. Hey kati! my question is: How is writing down negative thoughts useful? I've been asked to write down any negative thoughts because someone can say something to me and I automatically think badly of the situation. Even if nothing negative has been said it seems as though everything turns into "they must think I'm shit" or "I'm such a waste of space" how is writing about them helpful other than serving as a reminder of how much I feel like a failure?

3. Do you have any tips on learning to let go of the idea of how my family "should " be, parents particularly and ways to cope?