Powerful Negative Thoughts! / Suicidal Friend / Traveling for the Holidays (Patreon)

Powerful Negative Thoughts! / Suicidal Friend / Traveling for the Holidays

1. I am beginning to learn more and more about how much trauma I experienced as a kid and how much it has affected my mindset as an adult. A lot of the messages like "no woman will ever love me" came from my mom or step mom as I grew up. I am now recognizing that most of my negative thought spirals come about after some sort of "trigger" followed by a flashback. I almost feel like I am a child physically, if that makes any sense. I feel myself transported back to being a kid and my instinct is to run and hide. I noticed during this time I have no filter on negative thoughts like "I am bad, no one loves me" etc. I have also noticed that many of these "triggers" are associated with the negative thoughts that are the most difficult to defuse. CBT seems to not help like it does for other less damaging thoughts. Is there a way to mitigate the power of these kinds of thoughts? I was also wondering how I can discuss what's going on here with friends and family, or if I should. I find my friends, particularly my female friends, seem to want to invalidate what I went through. As I come out of the negativity I am excited to share what I am learning, but find I am having to keep this to myself. I don't think their intention is to be dismissive, but that seems to be what happens. I have been wondering if this is a reflexive mom defense. It's easy to say my dad let me down, but I don't feel like I can express the same thing about my mom. 2. Hi Kati, thank you so much for all of your videos, you're the best! My question is, how do I accept that my suicidal friend is probably going to die? She's in an awful state, she no longer eats, she looks so unwell and she has completely withdrawn from everything. I've tried helping her but I have my own issues and I've had to detach myself from her (I followed your advice, not to set yourself on fire to keep others warm!) and I feel better but she's only gotten worse since I did this. I feel like I'm watching someone die and I just keep anticipating how guilty I'll feel when she kills herself. How do I accept that I can't help her and how do I stop feeling so bad about it? Video on losing someone to suicide: https://youtu.be/Tj8DXLnURZE 3. I'm visiting my mum for Christmas (she lives overseas) and I am so anxious about flying! I don't even think it's the actual flying but just the whole process of getting to the airport and security and customs and everything. I have to take a four hour flight to Brisbane, Australia with a two hour layover and then another four hour flight from Brisbane to Honiara in the Soloman Islands. I have to do this all on my own as well and that's terrifying. It's not like I don't ever travel out of the country, I've done it lots of times but this is the second time I've traveled alone outside of the country. Do you have any suggestions of soothing my anxious mind and body? (I've already asked my mum to see if I can be seated next to a female just so I don't have to endure eight hours in a confined space next to a male.) I'm planning on bringing my "Sadness" plush toy from the movie Inside Out my therapist gave me but other than that I'm so stuck.