Borderline Personality Disorder (Patreon)

Borderline personality disorder is an illness marked by an ongoing pattern of varying moods, self-image, and behavior. These symptoms often result in impulsive actions and problems in relationships. People with borderline personality disorder may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that can last from a few hours to days. ~ National Institute of Mental Health 

Links, Resources, and Information to Understand Better:

The 9 symptoms of BPD (You only need 5 to be diagnosed)

Fear of abandonment. People with BPD are often terrified of being abandoned or left alone. Even something as innocuous as a loved one arriving home late from work or going away for the weekend may trigger intense fear. This can prompt frantic efforts to keep the other person close. You may beg, cling, start fights, track your loved one’s movements, or even physically block the person from leaving. Unfortunately, this behavior tends to have the opposite effect—driving others away.

Unstable relationships. People with BPD tend to have relationships that are intense and short-lived. You may fall in love quickly, believing that each new person is the one who will make you feel whole, only to be quickly disappointed. Your relationships either seem perfect or horrible, without any middle ground. Your lovers, friends, or family members may feel like they have emotional whiplash as a result of your rapid swings from idealization to devaluation, anger, and hate.

Unclear or shifting self-image. When you have BPD, your sense of self is typically unstable. Sometimes you may feel good about yourself, but other times you hate yourself or even view yourself as evil. You probably don’t have a clear idea of who you are or what you want in life. As a result, you may frequently change jobs, friends, lovers, religion, values, goals, or even sexual identity.

Impulsive, self-destructive behaviors. If you have BPD, you may engage in harmful, sensation-seeking behaviors, especially when you’re upset. You may impulsively spend money you can’t afford, binge eats, drive recklessly, shoplift, engage in risky sex, or overdo it with drugs or alcohol. These risky behaviors may help you feel better in the moment, but they hurt you and those around you over the long-term.

Self-harm. Suicidal behavior and deliberate self-harm are common in people with BPD. Suicidal behavior includes thinking about suicide, making suicidal gestures or threats, or actually carrying out a suicide attempt. Self-harm encompasses all other attempts to hurt yourself without suicidal intent. Common forms of self-harm include cutting and burning.

Extreme emotional swings. Unstable emotions and moods are common with BPD. One moment, you may feel happy, and the next, despondent. Little things that other people brush off can send you into an emotional tailspin. These mood swings are intense, but they tend to pass fairly quickly (unlike the emotional swings of depression or bipolar disorder), usually lasting just a few minutes or hours.

Chronic feelings of emptiness. People with BPD often talk about feeling empty, as if there’s a hole or a void inside them. At the extreme, you may feel as if you’re “nothing” or “nobody.” This feeling is uncomfortable, so you may try to fill the void with things like drugs, food, or sex. But nothing feels truly satisfying.

Explosive anger. If you have BPD, you may struggle with intense anger and a short temper. You may also have trouble controlling yourself once the fuse is lit—yelling, throwing things, or becoming completely consumed by rage. It’s important to note that this anger isn’t always directed outwards. You may spend a lot of time feeling angry at yourself.

Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality. People with BPD often struggle with paranoia or suspicious thoughts about others’ motives. When under stress, you may even lose touch with reality—an experience known as dissociation. You may feel foggy, spaced out, or as if you’re outside your own body.

Videos: 

9 Things About Borderline Personality Disorder You Need to Know

Borderline Personality Disorder: 4 Things We Want You To Understand

7 Hidden Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder... What is it?

How to Spot the 9 Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

These Are the Causes of Borderline Personality Disorder

The 3 Major Misconceptions of Borderline Personality Disorder

What a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Episode Looks Like

Why Isn’t Borderline Personality Disorder Treated Like This Illness?

Links: 

Understanding Borderline Suicides

Early Mortality in Patients With Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) by HelpGuide

Borderline Personality Disorder by NAMI

What is a Favourite Person?

To Those Who Don’t Understand My Favorite-Person Relationship

On to the Trait & What you get:

Emotional Create-A-Sim Trait for Teen-Elder

6 Occasional Symptom Moodlets: Feeling Impulsive, Splitting!, Disassociating, Feeling Abandoned, Needs Validation, & Feeling Empty

Occasional Self Harm Moodlet: Wanting a Way Out

Socials: Please Don't Leave Me!?! & Are You Mad at Me?

Decrease to Friendship & Romance

Romantic, Paranoid, Hot-Headed, Sad, & Uncontrolled Emotions Autonomy

x2 Increase to Creative Skills | -2x Decrease to Social Skills

[Computer] Research Borderline Personality Disorder

Sorry for the possible repetitive information & Thank you for your time and Support. 💜

If you’re thinking about suicide, please read Are You Feeling Suicidal?, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) in the U.S., or find a suicide helpline in your country at IASP or Suicide.org.

Updates:

March 6, 2021: Added Research Borderline Personality Disorder with 4 different Random Fact Moodlet Outcomes to the Research Tab on Computers. Interaction is Autonomous and can only be done every 12 sim Hours.

May 27, 2021: Fixed Trait Tuning pointed out by BetterExceptions

October 14, 2021: Added "Feeling Abandoned" & "Needs Validation" Moodlets. Changed "Anger Outburst" to "Splitting!" with New Flavor Text. Updated "Disassociating" & "Feeling Empty" Flavor Text. Changed Express Fear of Abandonment to Please don't Leave Me!?!. Added Are You Mad at Me? Friendly Social.

June 20, 2022: Added Relationship Test to "Are You Mad at Me? & "Please Don't Leave Me!?!" (Target Sim must be a Friend, Good Friend, or Best Friend). Added "Age Regression" Moodlet if the Sim also has my [nsfw] AgePlay DDLG Little Trait or BG Childish Trait. Added Autonomy Modifiers to Most of the Occasional Moodlets.