0059 - Cinnamon Buns (Patreon)

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ALT TEXT: Each of us has a public life, a private life, and a secret life. The secret life is where we wrestle with our base, unvarnished, and uncorrected animal impulses, hot from the factory. We typically do not share the secret life with anyone — not even our friends, spouses, or therapists.

There is a quote that goes something like, “Love is when someone sees the ugliest side of you, and still stays.” Here, we see Beef’s secret life. He won’t let his spouse see it, so he can’t know if she can truly love him, because he won’t give her the chance. Their relationship exists in an incomplete state. From that, they can only reap incomplete rewards.   Paradoxically, completely sharing our secret life would obliterate the trust of our partner, and that is why it is a secret. In the recovery world it is common wisdom that secrets kill, but there must be a way to manage our secrets in order to stay healthily bonded. From the discord of hosting these multiple selves we must derive whatever it is we are, although who we are may just depend on who is tasked with experiencing us.

This will be a fun topic for you and your partner to discuss over dinner in a quiet, expensive restaurant this evening.