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FRIENDS 02X05 WATCH PARTY (Patreon)

Published:
2024-08-21 16:00:11
Edited:
2024-08-24 01:05:20
Imported:
2026-06

Comments

Jennifer Lawrence

I've definitely been on both sides of it as well. When I was younger and still lived with my parents since I didn't have much in the way of bills I accumulated a lot of money. Unlike my friends and boyfriend who had cars and were paying rent etc, so they were often broke. Offering to pay for more was always a mixed bag. Then later the reactions weren't great when I'd shower boyfriends in gifts, which made them uncomfortable. I'd grown up seeing material items as a big way to show affection as that was what my family often did. I later learned that was mostly a guilt thing to sort of "make up" for not having the time to spend with us as kids. Regardless, my relationship with money is touchy. From initially growing up poor to when I was in my late teens being showered with gifts because we didn't get much when we were younger. To now living alone and often struggling to get by. Then feeling guilty when I accept financial assistance from my family because I hate that they have to do that at my age. Even though I appreciate it and wonder how I'd get by without them. Currently I'd say I'm more in the position of Rachel, Phoebe and Joey. With notice I could probably save up for things like the concert. But a sudden fancy dinner coming up, especially where I'd be expected to pay a portion of the entire bill (rather than just my portion) would probably be a no go.

Heida

What has always baffled me is the fact that instead of everyone just paying for what they ordered, they expect everyone to pay equally even though some people got a steak and others got a salad?! Maybe it's a thing people do in the US, idk cuz y'all are weird (sorry not sorry 😂). However, while I absolutely agree with you that they should have communicated earlier and accepted the tickets, I do get where they were coming from and I can relate but mainly with family instead of friends, especially as someone who hasn't been able to work due to mental dealth. Meanwhile my sister is a lawyer who gets paid really well, yet she is always complaining she doesn't have any money but still manages to go on multiple trips overseas and buy expensive shit. And while my other sister is a teacher, which is a profession that is seriously underpaid, my dad also pays really well. Meanwhile, my mum and I both don't make as much money because my mum also hasn't worked for a long time due to health reasons, and before that her work was raising us. It's not really about the fact some people make more money than others, it's more about when those people don't acknowledge that not everyone is as lucky as them in that regard. Also, I love Chandler and I know it's not what he meant, but him implying that the others don't make as much because they don't work as hard was not the greatest. Anyway, I love the fact that when Monica was fired, they "forgot" their bickering and were there for her. That's one of the reasons I love the show. In spite of them falling out sometimes, they're always there for each other at the end of the day. That sucks about your "friends" in those two stories. On a lighter note, in the ending scene, Matt LeBlanc was supposed to grab the phone and say "Bob here!" but he missed and fell and they decided to keep it in 🤣

Leanne W

I've definitely had it before. I worked in summer camp in America as a foreign camp counsellor and afterwards we always got the chance to travel around the States. So my best friend was flying over from Scotland to meet me and another friend who I used to work with for travelling. As time went on, money got tight for me. All our accommodation and travel was booked and paid for, it was just excursions and eating out in each city that was a struggle. So I was just happy to wander around a new city to see it instead of paying for an attraction. My best friend and I always had a thing where if I paid for a meal or a coffee, she would get the next. Didn't matter if the prices were different. The other friend who we were travelling with was very different and I remember her saying to me in a bus station one day, "okay you owe me 37 cents" me and my best friend just looked at her in disbelief before I got the money out. Even when money has been tight for me, if someone owes me money I usually round down to the nearest pound or tell them to just get me next time. But it definitely made me look at that friendship differently as that wasn't the only case. It got worse from there but I won't bore you 😅

Annie Willow

My grandparents invited be to join them and my aunt (their youngest daughter who has lower mental capabilities due to an illness when she was a baby) on a cruise to Mexico when I was 21. They paid for the cruise and my plane ticket with my aunt and me rooming together. All three of them had been on multiple cruises so they knew the general way that they worked. This was my first and I was a broke 21 year old. My grandparent would disappear every day and my aunt and I wouldn’t see them until dinner. When we got to a new port, they would go off on excursions and leave us to fend for ourselves. My aunt is on Social Security so she doesn’t have any extra spending money so even if I had money for any of the excursions I wouldn’t have been able to leave my aunt alone. I felt like I was only invited because my aunt wanted to go and my grandparents needed a caretaker for her because they didn’t want to drag her along to all the excursions. I had such conflicting emotions while on that trip. On one hand it was a really nice break from teaching toddlers and getting to relax and read by the pool every day with gorgeous ocean views for a week but on the other hand it felt like they didn’t actually want me specifically to be there with them, just a warm body to keep an eye on my aunt. I felt like i couldn’t say anything either because they paid for the cruise and my flight so what right did I have to say “hey can you pay for all 4 of us to go on an excursion at the next port?” Super awkward. I found out years later that my grandmother pulls that kind of shit with everyone. She buys them extravagant things or takes them on big trips so that they will feel indebted to her and they will do her bidding. She paid for her next door neighbors to go Disney World so they would wait on her hand and foot anytime she needed anything, ie. She called them in the middle of the night to come over because her dog threw up in her bed and she didn’t want to change the sheets herself or go to one of the other 3 empty beds in the house.

Lucy

I too have been on both sides and yes communication is important but it more about comprehension, as I feel I can communicate all I like but if they don't comprehend then communication has not worked. The best person I have in my life that really comprehends this is my best friend. We both have been at various sides of the this throughout the years and we have always been clear. For the last year I have been quite flush so I have treating us to shows ect, but he pays for the food. Now he is paying for treat stuff as I am skint now I'm looking for work as my secondment has ended. I know money is a sticky subject for some, but I feel as long as people are sensitive, open and understanding it should very much be discussed.

Nicole M

I understand your POV, but I have to disagree with you. I have mostly been on the chandler/ross/monica side of this, but I dont think joey rachel and phoebe were wrong and just being insecure. it's not just their own problem, and there really is no good solution. yes it's sort of about pride but it's not our place to tell people what they should be comfortable with in situations like this. even if you have good intentions as a friend with more money, your friend might feel indebted to you (even if you were just being generous) and it creates a pretty strong power imbalance in a friendship. also, in the show, this seems like the first time something like this has happened and it clearly isn't, this was just their breaking point, so I don't think they were overreacting because theyve probably already been pushing these types of feelings down. it's one thing to accept money from a richer friend because you really need it, but another to accept money as a gift with no strings attached. also, because rachel/joey/phoebe have a limited amount of money, it's not the other friends' place to tell them how they should spend it because proportionally it is very different. that being said, I can relate to the experience of wanting your friends to enjoy something without them worrying about the money, but I generally dont push things like that because I know it'd make them uncomfortable. regarding your anecdotes, maybe the second friend had an experience with someone else like the one you had with the first friend, and that's why they acted like that.

Linda

Loving the rewatch!

Alicia

Once again, I love the topics that they bring up on the show. You would like to think that the money thing would be so simple but money is a very touchy subject for a lot of people. For some, money comes very easily and for others, they struggle to make it… then there’s everyone in between. Bringing up the fact that you don’t have a lot of money doesn’t affect some people, but for a lot of people, it does. I can see how you could feel like a charity case at some point even though you try hard not to feel that way. we’re human. it’s natural to compare your situation with others. It’s kind of a modern version of what we go through now is social media. I think think if you can offer to treat someone every once in a while, regardless of a financial situation, it’s always a nice thing to do. Just make sure that if you do offer something to someone, you expect nothing in return. if you start getting all up in your feels, and that’s where I can get bad. ❤️

iEffinLoveBacon

I am in a very broke time of my life and I have had some event tickets purchased for me over the past year by my sisters. They just wanted me to come with and knew I couldn't afford it. I was very grateful and they never made me feel like they regretted it or like I was a burden. <3