There’s Nothing Wrong With Wanting Affection: Desire, Worth, and Compassionate Touch (Patreon)

Hi loves,

A community member shared about feeling undesirable and wishing for affection without being labeled “a pervert,” especially when seeking compassionate sex work. His words really touched my heart. 🥺 Lots of linked resources on sex work, surrogate partner, and somatic sex education are included in this post.

Many of us know that ache of loneliness and wanting to feel seen and loved. Cultural messages around masculinity and worth have done real harm, leaving many men feeling ashamed of their needs and bodies.

There are caring professionals—sex workers and surrogate partners—offering nonjudgmental connection, respect, and healing. You are worthy of affection, pleasure, and love, no matter what labels you’ve internalized.

I spoke more about this with Cooper during today’s livestream. You can watch the replay here.

With lots of love,Dr. Susie

RESOURCES:

Surrogate Partner therapy Code of Ethics/Conduct

https://www.surrogatepartnercollective.org/sp-code-of-conduct  (SPC)

https://www.surrogatepartnercollective.org/ethics-and-legality

https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/code-of-ethics (IPSA)

Somatic Sex Education/Sexological Bodywork Code of Ethics/Conduct

https://sexologicalbodyworkers.org/ethics

https://somaticsexeducators.com/professional-ethics/

Finding a Surrogate Partner, Talking to Your Therapist, Surrogate Partner Offerings

https://www.embracespt.org/offeringsclients

https://katherineyeagel.com/2022/12/16/tips-for-finding-a-therapist-whos-surrogate-partner-friendly/

https://katherineyeagel.com/2021/06/10/how-to-talk-to-your-therapist-about-surrgoate-partner-therapy/

Sex Work, Decriminalizing Sex Work:

https://tryst.link/sex-work-faq

https://goodclientguide.com/

https://decriminalizesex.work/why-decriminalization/

https://oldprosonline.org/sex-worker-rights-resources/

https://oldprosonline.org/debate/