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The holidays are a good moment to check in with yourself about what you actually want from your sex life. Think of it like asking, “What would I love to improve, explore, or feel more of in the new year?” and wrapping it in a bow of honesty 🎀

❤️ Maybe it’s more pleasure without pressure.❤️ Maybe it’s slowing down so your body can catch up.❤️ Maybe it’s building confidence, communicating needs, or trying something new that feels exciting instead of intimidating.❤️ Maybe it’s less pain, less tension, and more ease.

Whatever it is, let it be about you and not what you think you “should” want. Bodies don’t follow holiday scripts. They follow safety, curiosity, and connection.

So here’s my tip:Start the year by naming one thing you’d love to shift in your sex life, then take one small, doable step toward it. A conversation, a new touch pattern, a pause, a toy, a boundary, a breath. Small steps add up fast.

How would you like to improve your sex life in the new year?

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Danny Hendrie

At this time in our lives... I would love to have a sex life. Really frustrated with all the hormonal chaos! Finally got mine back in balance, and always ready to go. But now HER hormones are telling her body "Nope. Not gonna happen." I just want normalcy again. I'd settled for simple, boring sex, at this point. 🫣🤭

Mark Y.

I would love for my wife to open up and become more adventurous in the bedroom. I've expressed desire for prostate play and she has said she is working to become open to that possibility if it would bring me pleasure. I don't want to pressure her, but I don't know how to continue to move things forward without her feeling awkward about it.

jan

I'd love to be able to orgasm without having to take pain meds after. Masturbation has been completely ruled out and as much as I love sex the pain and discomfort makes it difficult. So my goal is to beable to orgasm pain free again!!

Dr. Susie Gronski - Doctor of Physical Therapy

Sometimes it just means building safety and curiosity around the idea. Your wife saying she’s working on being open is already forward movement. 😊 For many people, especially when something feels unfamiliar or vulnerable, openness develops slowly. Instead of focusing on prostate play itself, try staying with the why. You might share what prostate play represents for you. Is it about trust, pleasure, feeling desired, playfulness, or emotional closeness? Invite her to share what comes up for her too. Not to convince her, but just to understand. You can also let her know there’s no pressure or timeline. Pressure, even when well-intended, can shut curiosity down. Giving her space to warm up at her own pace actually increases the chance she’ll feel comfortable enough to explore, whether that’s now, later, or in a different form than you imagined. This is less about a specific sexual act and more about learning how to stay connected while navigating different comfort zones. And you’re already doing that work by asking this question. 🙌