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Solo Play Tip: Slow it down to feel more!

Most guys were never taught how to actually feel during solo play. It often turns into a race to the finish line.

Try this instead:

Next time you’re on your own, slow things waaaayyy down. Start with lighter touch. Notice temperature, pressure, and sensation across different areas, not just the penis. Think inner thighs, lower belly, perineum. Let curiosity lead.

If your body tends to tense up, especially in the pelvic floor, experiment with softening your breath and letting your belly expand. Your pelvic floor often follows your breath, so less gripping can mean more sensation and less strain.

You can even pause stimulation completely and just notice what’s happening in your body. Arousal doesn’t disappear. It shifts, builds, and sometimes gets more interesting when you give it space.

Solo play isn’t just about release. It’s a chance to build awareness, reduce tension, and create more enjoyable, varied sensations over time.

How do you relax yourself and switch off during solo play? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.