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It’s FALLLL! 🍂🎉🍁 NYC patron-only PARTY IN BROOKLYN, SINÉAD NYC benefit & Dresden Dolls in LA/SAN DIEGO (Patreon)

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HAY LOVES.

Some warm fuzzy fall photos below....

I'm blazing a few thousand miles an hour but in the happiest way. Kiddo is so good, Mama is so good, fall is falling, songs are practically writing themselves, nobody in the house has Covid, shows are all going on sale without a hitch, and I'm preparing my body, soul and voice for the first official piano demo session for the new Dresden Dolls record tomorrow. 

I'm using a new local studio right here in Woodstock and I'm as giddy as a...whatever's giddy. A schoolgirl. A bunny. A squirrel gathering nuts. A nut gathering squirrels. A butternut squash.

Real quick, there's LOTS OF show and event news today!

In Brief:

-LA and San Diego Dresden Dolls shows go on sale to the dolls' email list in a few minutes. the code was already email. If you missed out on the email, public onsale info is below.

-NYC: we've organized a PATRON ONLY PARTY during the dolls week at the Bowery!!! In Brooklyn at my pal's venue...Oct 26th, on our off day. I'll swing by, but mostly, you all get to HANG OUT.

-I'm also doing a Sinead O'Connor BENEFIT tribute night on Oct 29th at City Winery in NYC the NIGHT AFTER the dolls run. Pray for me...and come. The line-up is INCREDIBLE.

And now....this is the state of play in the living room. Ash and his friend found all the balloons. It was too late. I have l;eft them there. They cheer me, even though I keep tripping on them.

Adam from Beetlejuice is hanging on the porch. Ash's true desire, and I promised him last year if he was good....we could get the hanging Adam.

We went for a walk to the lighthouse this morning and ooooh.....

…

Ok first up.....

THE DRESDEN DOLLS are gonna play in LA AND SAN DIEGO!!!!

WE COULDN'T HELP IT.....WE HAVE ADDED TWO MORE SHOWS.

Tickets go on sale about NOW to the doll's email list. who were already sent the ticket link. If you missed it, it's because you're not on the damn dolls email list and you should be. Get ON IT: https://found.ee/DresdenDollsMailingList

IF YOU MISSED OUT, PUBLIC TICKETS GO ON SALE THIS FRIDAY. OCT. 13th @ EXACTLY 10am PT. SET ALARMS! These shows will sell out fassssstttttt.

So you have them ready, here are the public ticket links:

LA Ticket Link: https://www.ticketmaster.com/event/09005F3BFD155247

SD Ticket Link: https://www.ticketmaster.com/event/0B005F3EF5FC4EA8

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NYC PATRON-ONLY PARTY IN BROOKLYN! OCT 26th!!

For those of you in the NYC aread (or those visiting for The Dresden Dolls shows at thge Bowery Ballroom, all sold out YAY)...we're going to be putting on a PRIVATE PATRON PARTY on our day off!

I can't promise I'll be at the party for very long, and I'll play/sing if I'm not FRIED, but I might be FRIED. This party is MOSTLY about YOU...I wanted to give the patrons a chance to gather and hang out!! The event isn't making any money (for me, at leastt), we're just ticketing it to cover costs and make sure there's a cap, and it's a nice bump in visibility for my friend Larisa Fuch's new loft/venue in Brooklyn!!! She's a gem.

Come celebrate, recover, & connect with fellow Patrons during the Dresden Dolls NYC residency week. Nurse your hangover, wear your pajamas or your finery, mix and mingle with each other while bopping to a playlist curated by Amanda (and YOU!). A full bar with snacks will be available and a plethora of local restaurant options to choose from.

WE CAN ONLY FIT ABOUT 100 PEOPLE, PLEASE GET TICKETS PRONTO.

WHEN: Thursday October 26th, 7pm-12am

WHERE: Gemini & Scorpio Loft, 267 Douglass St, Brooklyn 11217

TICKETS ARE AVAILABLE HERE  - Use code 'AFPpatrons' (case sensitive) to access tickets!

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And THEN.....MORE happening in NEW YORK....

….because I am nuts, THE DAY AFTER THE LAST DOLLS NYC SHOW, I said yes to this. Because....I had to.

I'll be playing one song. 

This is gonna be GREAT and the poster says it all. LOOK AT THE LINE-UP....

We're gonna honor the life and legacy of Sinéad.

City Winery NYC, Sunday, October 29th. 

100% of net proceeds will benefit Bring Change to Mind and the Emma Swift Mental Illness Recovery Fund. Emma is Robyn Hitchcock’s girlfriend. She’s one of us. Let’s help her.

TICKETS JUST WENT ON SALE.

Here's the ticket link:

https://citywinery.com/newyork/Online/article/NYC-Remembering-Sinead-OConnor-10-29-23

…..

And the NYC PATRON-ONLY PARTY!!

THURSDAY OCT 26th.

I threatened! We booked it!!!

150 folks only…this is my friend Larisa Fuch’s new venue/loft space, Gemini & Scorpio. You may remember the last party we threw at her old place when I closed the kickstarter for Theatre is Evil..

THIS WILL BE FUN.

It’s the dolls night off between shows at the Bowery. I can 80% guarantee I’ll come but it depends on my poor voice. But whatever abihr me. This one is for YOU ALL TO MEET EACH OTHER!!!

Come celebrate, recover, & connect with fellow Patrons. Talk dolls. Nurse your hangover, wear your pajamas or your finery, mix and mingle with each other. A full bar with snacks will be available and a plethora of local restaurant options to choose from.

Thu Oct 26, 2023 7:00 PM - 12:00 AM

LOCATION:

Gemini & Scorpio Loft, 267 Douglass St, 3rd fl (ADA accessible), Brooklyn 11217

SOME INFO ABOUT THE TICKETS!!

We're charging a pretty basic entry fee just to cover the cost of renting the space - but alongside these general tickets, we're trying out a super exciting thing this time.... we have SPONSOR and SPONSEE tickets available.

If you're well off and want to help others in the community, you can pick up a SPONSOR ticket for a little extra money. This extra money will then go towards offering cut-price SPONSEE tickets, for those of you who are struggling a little more, and can't make the full price. There's no proof or strict guidelines around who can buy the reduced-price sponsee ticket, it's working entirely on an honor system. If you need the cheaper ticket, it's there for you.

So, there are FOUR ticket types available:

GENERAL TICKETS - $10

SUPPORTER TICKETS - $15

SPONSOR - $20

SPONSEE - $5

PASSWORDED TICKET LINK:

https://app.tickettailor.com/events/geminiandscorpio/1026725

password for tickets is AFPpatrons (case sensitive!)

MORE GENERAL INFO ABOUT THE NIGHT

- Doors will open at 7pm, and the curfew is at 12am

- The total capacity for the space is 150, so we figure there SHOULD be enough space for as many of you as want to come!

- It'll be a couch & chill vibe - there probably won't be any performing (although never say never to the ukulele). If you've seen the Dolls play in the last year, you'll know that we're typically doing INTENSE 3-hour slayage every night. This party is in the middle of our 4-night residency at the Bowery, so I'll be recovering from the first 2 nights and trying to recuperate for the last 2 nights.... so expect some low-key hanging, chatting, drinking.

- The bar will be operating all night for drinks! For food, the bar generally only serves snacks, however the venue is totally cool with getting food delivered from tons of local restaurants.

HELP US MAKE A PLAYLIST!

Since there's not gonna be any performances, we'll have a playlist set up to create some beautiful ambiance... and I can probably come up with 5 hours of MY ideal chill-out-and-hang-out music, but then I thought... why not make it a communal exercise?

So we are now OPEN FOR REQUESTS - especially if you're planning to come along to the party, leave a comment down below with song requests and we'll pop as many of them as possible into one giant AFP-PATRON PLAYLIST ready for the night.

I made a thread on the shadowbox for the party, the playlist and everything. Drop all song ideas in there and I’ll grab em. Also, find each other !!!

https://forum.theshadowbox.net/t/playlist-general-chat-for-nyc-patron-only-party-oct-16/14596

LOOK HOW GORGEOUS THIS SPACE IS!

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I think that's all for now.

I can't wait to see you all.

Love from the porch.

xxx

AFP

P.S. Oh. I don't usually post memes to the main feed, but this one is so fucking good I just had to.

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Nikki

I've seen that meme a dozen times and I finally got it. The pun made me wince in agony, it's so amazing.

Anna Mulch

Amanda I hope you see this. I need to chat with you if that’s at all possible. I don’t know what to do.

Robert Williams

Oh good grief 🤦🏼‍♂️ Even I wouldn’t tell that ‘dad joke’. I wonder how many people walking past saw it & just smiled?

Len Tower Jr.
>>119151457

Anna: There are quite a few AFPatrons here who are also great at support & compassion, like Amanda is. Share your " I don’t know what to do"-- you'll be seen & supported. All the best, Len

Marley Kendrick

Is there any possibility of a stream of the Sinead benefit please? Completely happy to donate/buy a ticket for online viewing 💜

Jeremy Sliwoski

Hope all ya'll have fun, I'll be on a tight schedule so won't be in NYC until Friday afternoon and leaving first thing Sunday.

Coila

Awesome! Too funny, I was just being similarly giddy with some friends. In which message I mentioned that I'm considering introducing my very Good Mormon Boy piano teacher (who's probably about 22) to some AFP music. 😂 He wants me to play stuff I care about and I have some sheet music... I'm thinking about it anyway. We did something with a Pink song and I realized how much more excited I am about music that really Speaks to me. Not that Mozart doesn't but not in the same way...

Lauren

It just so happens that I’m going to be in NYC for basically 24 hours on the 26th, so I’ve gotten a ticket to the patron party 🙌 Super sad I’m missing the shows, but happy about this.

Robert

I totally feel like your San Diego show was because I mentioned it a month or so ago in the chat here 😭 I got my tickets earlier and am so stoked, thank you so much!! 🖤🙌🏽

EmVT

Have a great time at the piano demo!!! 😃💥🎧🔥

Coila
>>119153254

Incidentally, having actually tried to play some of the music I have really brings home what a damned good song writer/musician you are! Some of this shit is hard!! XD And it's all beautiful.

Christina C.

October 26th is always a great day to have a party. 🌈🤘

Suzanne

I have my tickets for the Patron hang! And I've been invited to tour the HQ for my cocktail club that's based in Brooklyn earlier in the day! One of my friends from the area is taking Wednesday off to take me and my husband sight-seeing before the show so we can hit a couple key places. All that's left is for me to book our hotel. I'm so excited for this trip! I can't wait to see the city for the first time, and for my husband to see you guys perform together!

Lex

This is all so exciting! I am having a hard time understanding though, why money from the Sinéad benefit would go to support any one person's mental health fund. So many people are in crisis, unable to work, at risk of losing their homes. I in no way want to take away from this person's suffering, it is incredibly valid, but this gofundme is already funded for over $55,000 (before the benefit seemingly contributes more) when so many people are in this position, and she already seems to carry more privilege, and have more resources than most. Emma Smith and Robyn Hitchcock's estimated combined net worth is in the millions of dollars. As a person that has also dealt with being in crisis, spending time in and out of hospitals, I can not imagine how different the trajectory of my life would have been if someone had fundraised over $50,000 for me personally. This is something that has colored every part of my life for the past 20 years and has taken so much away from me. My most recent episode in 2021, I spent eight months completely suicidal, and my recovery is only just finally starting to feel somewhat tangible. I have lost so much to this, and it has left me financially drowning time and time again. I guess I am just kind of confused as to why money from a fundraiser for mental illness would ever go to one specific person's recovery, as opposed to all of it going to bringchangetomind.org, an organization that supports recovery for all of us.

Christina C.
>>119198432

Because saving one life is always always always worth it, regardless of the unjust and unfair nature of life.

Lex
>>119198432

This is absolutely true, no one is saying that it isn't always worth it to save any individual life. Her struggle is absolutely valid. But there is also an opportunity here to donate 100% of the proceeds to an organization with the potential to save many lives, as opposed to the life of a single wealthy white person.

Christina C.
>>119198432

The opportunity is to do both. And its being taken. We can do two things at once. ❤️

Lex
>>119198432

Yes, but as usual a wealthy white person will benefit disproportionately.

Allie Push

That chicken of the woods mushroom! 😍

Christina C.
>>119198432

A single wealthy white person is no less human than the rest of us. I just lost a very important friend of mine to suicide. He was a HUGE figure of light in this community. First he disappeared into the woods. Then they found a body, we all knew it was him. Over a week later, today the police finally confirmed it was him. The thing about my friend is he had nothing. Not a car, barely a house, work only here and there when he could get it. He was so much nothing and not a person that the weeks leading up to his disappearance he cried out for help from all of us and we tried our best but as he sought help it was limited to him because, even though he waa everything to us, he was cosnider nothing to the system. He grew up in foster care. He was 44 with no ID, no birth certificate, no social security card. Without those things you can't get public assistance of any kind. This happened suddenly. He had a mental decline that lasted a week before he decided to take his life and before that his "mental health" struggles were mostly emotional. Marv, our friend, may have had nothing but every day he woke up at 5 am, took care of his schizophrenic mom (who gave birth to he and his two siblings after being raped by an orderly in a facility she stayed in) and then walked the streets of our city feeding homeless people and helping the addicted and impoverished. He gave from nothing. And if anyone deserved a go fund me for his mental health care it was him and if everyone whose lives he changed gave a dollar he would have more than enough (they did just that when he went missing.) The reason people loved Marv though isn't because he fed the homeless. It's because he held himself accountable. He held strong social justice beliefs and he was in so many ways a purist in anarchy. But he would have found a way, no matter his feelings, to help the community AND the single white wealthy lady despite the seemingly unjust nature of it. Our job now in the wake of our loss is to find a way to help the community, help the single white wealthy lady, and never lose sight of helping the Marvs of the world while also not neglecting our own self care. All the things can happen at once. I'm grieving and angry right now at Marv's death. I would love to take an anti or pessimistic stance like yours. The reality is that is does nothing good for the world. And the irony is.. losing my friend (who had nothing and was given no help) to his mental health battle is what is reminding me of that in a very pungent way right now. When we fail to treat one person because we can't treat all, or when we start deciding who is deserving of what, we have failed at saving anyone. We are basically doing the same thing that makes us angry at that point, only in reverse. Even though it is entirely true the world is unjust and tilted toward the rich, the white, the privelaged the whatever...dehumanizing as a solution to dehumanizing will always be a fruitless deed. When we finally realize we can do all of these things at once is when we will find true social breakthrough. Marv not only fed and inspired the destitute and the middle people like myself, he attracted some very rich and privelaged people to his cause and he fed them too. They needed the humbling the community the food just as much as any of us. When are we going to fi ally realize we are all in this together? Because I would like to stop losing my friends to suicide and after years of experience I know that these frivolous us vs them social political finger pointing bouts are just making things worse. Equality will not come until community comes. And community comes when all are welcome to the table regardless of status or creed or race or skin color or lifestyle or class position or sexual orientation or gender.

Lex
>>119198432

Please don't start name calling or accuse me of being "dehumanizing" or "pessimistic" for stating the realities of social inequity. Your friend deserved better, and what you are describing is exactly the problem. As a survivor of multiple suicide attempts, who has also had several friends take their own lives, I stand by my opinion, and respectfully disagree, especially given the fact that this gofundme has already reached and surpassed its goal. Stating that white privilege is real is not, "frivolous" or "finger pointing," and ignoring these realities will certainly not bring us closer to equality.

Christina C.
>>119198432

With all do respect, my friend didnt deaerve what YOU think he wanted or needed. My friend deserved the world he fought for every day, one where a table exists that everyone, no matter your circumstances, can come to for love, hugs, food sustenance, clothing and camping resources, narcan training or whatever else was needed to live. These are not merely ideas. He disclided NOBODY. He was notorious for forgiving and welcoming even his own haters. Challenged us daily to do the same. This is how he lived everyday. What he deserved was more of is in the world doing the same. Anything less than a vibrant world like that is pessimism. The reality however is that the world is not ready for that. And where Marv agonized was in the discrepancies. He felt alone. Because he was. Too many of us who loved him were too concerned about fruutless things that dont matter we forgot that the helper needs helpers. That's why Marv died. It had nothing at all to fckn do with rich white ladies. And that's EXACTLY what he would say despite the unjust realities of the world that he himself fought for. We all need each other. We all need help sometimes. We are all human. We all should have a seat at the table. The friend we lost taught is this possible. He was literally able to bring every walk of life come to his table. In his death we learned a stark lesson that we will all have to bare for the rest of our lives about looking deeper, but his table is still here. We will still be manning it. Anything less than creating a table anyone is welcome too, even rich white ladies, is always going to be pessimistic.

Lex
>>119198432

No one is trying to invalidate this person's struggle. The fact is that she already has a seat at the table, while Marv, and myself, and plenty of other folks who have been impacted by suicide, don't. Your friend Marv had no resources. I had no resources. This woman has already raised almost $60,000 for her own recovery. Marv's opinion mattered, and as a survivor of suicide, I refuse to be called names for believing that my opinion matters too.

Christina C.
>>119198432

Marv made a table. He did not sit around waiting for one. And he would have no problem with the rich white lady wanting to sit there equally with him because he literally HAD rich white ladies sitting at his table with him. To him, everyone was the same to him. Everyone needed each other no matter what it seemed. His struggle was how alone he was in this fight. And when it became a crisis we were not able to intervene in time. His friend his people. No go fund me no amount of his own riches could have saved him. My point is that if we can get ourselves to stop being victims or players in these systems we can actually change the world. We have to start by recognizing that we can all be and need to be at AUTHENTIC community tables. Even rich white ladies. Like all together. Not at separate tables. I can not stress how literal this was for Marv. He literally has a table at one of our most beautiful community parks. He literally fed all, rich and poor, gay and straight, balck and white...every spot on every spectrum. Literally. The failure was that we didn't do enough WITH him to sustain the table. Because it's much easier to be a player or a victim the systems of our society. He was outside of it all entirely. We marveled at it, partook in it, but we haven't yet comitted to it the way he did. I'm in the middle of a HUGE career transition. One that I feel can better serve a world in crisis. I had a shot in the Spring to sell everything I own move on start simple. Live like Marv. I chose the complicate thing. I'm still I this system no matter how much good I do. Where the extremes are rich white ladies get more than their fair share or are told they are less deserving because they have all while the truly have not keeps getting nothing. Marv was one of those people who entirely lived outside of that all together. First because having nothing forced him to. Then because he found a sort of haven there if he had the right mindset. Mindset was everything to him. I stayed in this town Im in because of him. Because of his mindset. Because if he can do it so can I. Now I'm questioning myself again. What if I had done it differently? Instead of finding a more useful spot in this system what if I got outside of it entirely and brought people with me? There are no such thing as heros. That's another tough lesson we are learning in this loss. Instead of working WITH him we put him on a pedestal for the good he did. That was part of his decline. There can also be a world without victims. In the sense that if we create little worlds of round tables outside of it all its just people. No heros and no victims. Marv and others like him continually show us this is possible. It's not enough to just be angry and injustice. Its time to understand that every notion of the system is useless. Community is the answer. I've watched it happen with what Marv created. And that table includes former victims of crimes, recovered and not recovered Addicts, petty thieves, corporate workers, tent dwellers. They get barcan. They get sent to mental health resources. They get food. They get jobs. They get sleeping bags and tents. And some of them have even gotten homes. We did this all outside of the red tape following and adhering to only the most basically codes and laws, working along side city officials when they tried to interfere. There is not enough space to write about what he created outside that awful syste system where we have to decide whether or a not a rich white woman deserves help because she has "enough" already. It's not a dream world. It's something he started and we are now tasked with continuing. It's too bad we didn't have our sht together while he was alive enough to help him. It's me. I'm us. And my mindset as healthy as I try to keep it was still too pessimistic. We can't afford it anymore. We have to figure out how to care for each other outside of privelaged/not privelaged and hero/victim. We can't afford to keep doing what we've always done. It's not working. And hating the rich (as justified as is it) has never worked in all of history. Getting outside of the structure of rich amd poor however, has. There is way to do that. Even with nothing. My friend Marv proved it. Unfortunately we left him alone in his work and made him a hero instead of someone who take up a shovel next to.

Christina C.
>>119198432

I truly wish I could fit the fullness of his story and his impact into this little box. Now I'm off to work. At the news. Sitting at an audio board where I will watch a tape 6 times over of how the police finally confirmed the body they found was his along with a clip of the impact he had on this community that also doesn't even begin to describe what he did for us. I just think we all have to start thinking bigger if we want to truly to see a better world.

Lex
>>119198432

No human beings fullness and impact can fit into a little text box. "We are so much bigger on the inside. You. Me. Everybody." I also think that we should think bigger and belive in a better world. But I don't think that ignoring the fact that the world that we currently live in is unjust will get us there. Keep telling your friend's story, it is so important. But so many of the perspectives we hear are from folks who have lost someone they loved. As someone who has survived suicide, I think my voice deserves to be heard. I have put so much work into trying to want to live. It has been a constant current in my life for almost 20 years now. But I am alive, and right now I think I want to keep living. And speaking for me, as someone who requires exactly the kind of resources that we are talking about, I deserve better. I deserve a seat at the table. Not having access to those things puts me at risk of the same fate. It is devastating that your friend can not speak for himself anymore, but I can, and I want to be heard. It feels terrifying to tell my story, and I am tired of being met with resistance every time I speak up for myself. I think Sinéad probably felt the same. We can do better. I have to belive in that if I want to keep existing. "The alternatives nothingness. Might as well give it a try."