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Hi Loves.

First of all, welcome to all the new patrons. I regret that I've been very behind in almost every way for the past few months (and I owe welcome letters to a handful of new $100 patrons), but it's been one of those seasons where everything collides. My co-parent covid, the finely-laid plans got mangled once again, but honestly...it's been like this for so long that I am having an easier time letting it all slide down the hill while I gaze and roast my vegetables, which makes me happy. 

How are you doing? Tell me in the comments....I am reading them all later tonight. Say hi. Maybe introduce yourself if you're new.

The news from overseas...my god. I haven't wanted to discuss it much, honestly. I have a handful of friends who have fully deleted their social media in the last few days.

It feels like there is no right way to talk.

It feels like there is no right way to be. To move.

I have been thinking deeply for a few days about certain specific things. 

Like:

I don't understand exactly how my car works.

I don't understand exactly how my house works.

I don't understand exactly how a war works.

But...

But I do know how my heart works.

More and more, I know. More and more, I feel it.

This is my job.

I feel a Dresden Dolls song coming on. They've been coming fast and furious.

For now...I need to unload a lot on you. Sorry.

It's been backlog season.

So....some housekeeping, and some personal news, way below, where I like hiding it deep after all the boring stuff.

This post is kinda all over the place - just skip the boring parts if you want.

First up: CALIFORNIA!!!!!

DRESDEN DOLLS TICKETS ARE NOW ON PUBLIC SALE FOR OUR WEST COAST SHOWS. As of a few minutes ago at 10am PST.


December 8th - Los Angeles, CA - Tickets

December 9th - San Diego, CA - Tickets

RUN DO NOT FECKING WALK.

These shows are gonna sell out. Fast.

Again: join the band's mailing list for early access. These shows almost sold out to the mailing list alone. 

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Meanwhile. 

Okay.

Greetings from a beautiful goddamn day in Bearsville, NY. The sun is blazing, the leaves are en-redding and falling, diving, it's just fucking gorgeous. I'm feeling fragile and uncertain but full of life, and songs, and forward motion.

I just walked around and took a couple pictures of the porch, the yard and the house. It's just gorgeous right now.

The dawn light.



Basically....I want to take a moment to catch you up about a few things going on with the patreon, my life, my writing, my work, the dolls...it NEVER feels like a good time, lately, to catch you up about all sorts of random things, but today's the day.

This is the sort of stuff that I'd usually put in the Althing (our monthly newsletter)....but sometimes there's just TOO MUCH TO SAY and I don't wanna overload that post at the end of the month.

And a plant on the front porch that doesn't have too many days left out here....

From the kitchen:

A really nice guy - a patron, I think - whose name I didn’t catch (or retain) grabbed me at the venue the other night and gave me this beautiful jar of homemade honey.

Thank you....whoever you are, nice man.

.....

Okay, let's do this.

A couple things about the patreon itself.

First up, you may have noticed (I sure did) that my front-facing patron number exploded overnight. I went from having about 10,000 patrons to about 17,000. I assumed this was a glitch in patreon's system...but NO! It's actually just a change in the way they're exposing the number of paying/subscribed patrons versus the number of free subscirbers. So, if you're reading this, you're either one of about 10,000 people paying to be a patron, or you're one of 7,000 people along for the free ride.

This is a free post.

That means ANYONE in the world can see it.

Many of my posts are free, but not all of them are.

I like using the paywall/tier aspect patreon as a "low-walled garden". Having a paywall means that the people of the community able to access the posts and the comments section aren't just random people from the internet; it's a committed community, and it keeps things (generally, 99% of the time) very kind, supportive and sane.

I also used to do a lot of flash events all over the world. Nowadays, I like throwing patron-only events and parties. It keeps the groups smaller and less random. It means I can throw a party in New York (which I am) for the AFP/patron community, and I'm not posting it on Facebook or Instagram. It's just the hardcore.

The higher tiers of the patreon make it possible for two things to happen: I can get more heavy support to pay the bills from the people who can afford to help me, and the staff, and the band, and it's a very nice way to have smaller conversations. The webcasts, for instance, usually draw under 100 people, since there's not thousands and thousands of people paying more than $10/month. That keeps things nice and cozy, and the group is tight.

So:

A reminder: there are many tiers of the patreon.

There's a good chance I'll be changing these tiers (or moving to a monthly model) sometime in the next year or two, but for now, I'm subscribing to the "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" camp.

You can subcribe for free, and just get the basic news posts.


The $1 tier means: You're a committed patron, you're helping out with $12 a year, and that's great. This gets you access to ANY patron-only art, posts, parties, gatherings and patron-only events. It's a bargain. :)


The $3 is just a step up and gets you downloads of all the things I release that are possible to download...mostly videos, music, podcasts, digital goods. Sometimes, when I released a song, the $1 patrons can access it via a streming link, but the $3+ patrons get a download code for the same song (or whatever). It's also just a nice way to show your support and give more money to the basic cause.


The $5 tier gets "random surprise" posts. Mostly photos, little video snippets of life, and often things (art, information, thoughts) that I want to share with a smaller group of people. Sometimes I go a while without posting, sometimes I have a logjam. It's also, obvioously, just a nice bump up in income for the patreon coffers, even you don't much care about being barraged with extra photos and videos. Here's a little post I put up yesterday for the $5 folks (you'd need to be that tier or highter to access this)...I just wandered around The Dresden Dolls rehearsal space and took a bunch of random photos: https://www.patreon.com/posts/90797995


The $10 tier gives you access to the webcasts/webchats/Ask me Anythings which I try to do about once a month (but sometimes I get busy and a couple months go by). The webcasts usually last about two+ hours and are mostly a way to hang out, ask questions, and I usually monologue about whatever's going on in my world. There's sometimes some music played, or special guests, or poetry readings - from me and the other patrons around the world. Some of the patrons in this tier have been here for 7 years and we all have gotten to know each other - online and in person - quite well, so there's a wonderful family vibe. We use Crowdcast as a platform and it's got great chat tools and the ability to have up to four people on stage at a time, so sometimes we have nice circular shares or poem-readings. It can be very emotional, and funny, and I always leave the casts feeling better. It's hard to explain, but if you wanna see a classic example, here's a link to the replay of a webcast we did a couple weeks ago.

https://www.crowdcast.io/c/itsbeenasecond

It'll give you an idea. You'll need to be logged in as a $10+ patron to access it: all you need is your patron password, Crowdcast will understand it.


The $25+ tier gets access to all of the above, and ART IN THE MAIL...which is what it sounds like. A few times a year - with no regularity, we promise you - we send ART IN THE MAIL. That's right. We've sent fine art prints, puzzles, SOCKS, nd stained-glass window stickers. We try to keep it delightful and creative and we try to give paid work to creative members of the patreon community itself...so the economy is circular. Here's a few examples of things we've mailed out over the years




It's really nice. 

Note: I don't like to think of this tier as a SHOP.

It's more of a....world of ongoing thank-you gestures.

$25 a month is a lot of money.

But if you have that kind of dough to give to the arts, and my team and band is the arts you wanna give it to, we wanna art you back.

....


Pretty obvious.

This tier gets ART IN THE MAIL, plus guest-list privileges.

This is getting more fun now that I'm ACTUALLY STARTING TO TOUR.

Micheal - my beloved assistant - helps me with this one. Every time we annoucne a tour, or a show, we reach out to this tier and do a kind of "frist come first served" guest list system. We can almost always accomodate everyone who wants a seat (unless you ask me for six tickets, at which point we sigh and try to do our best, and sometimes can and sometimes can't).

The guest list is good for ALL SHOWS - solo, The Dolls (where access can be more limited), and benefits or whatever weirdness I'm up to. If I get a guestlist, basically, I try to pass it on to you all once my family has seats.


This tier is usually full, but we just had ONE spot open up if someone wants to grab it.

It is always limited to 30, because that's about how many postcards I can handle writing (while keeping them meaningful)

This is a tier that gets everything the $75 tier gets (Art in the Mail, and guest list) but every once in a while, I'll send you a postcard.

I've sent postcards from ALL over the place....Europe, Australia, New Zealand, Florida :)....TO all over the globe. I have postcard patrons in Austria, Germany, New Zealand, Canada...everywhere. It's so...nice.

I usually do them in one bulk two-day coffeeshop session....but sometimes I sprinkle them around.

Again: it's just a gesture. Anyone spending this amount of money on my team and my art deserves a hand-written thank you note every once in a while.

Here's a picture of some $100+ patron postcards about to go in the mail


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All of the above - Art in the Mail, guest list, postcards, AND we send you any merchandise you want, anytime we make ANYTHING. This is by request, and we also reach out to you personally and ask if you want stuff. So: when we release an album, or a tour poster, or a shirt, or a cool piece of merch, you just get it...with a thank you note.

This is the largest gesture I can make for someone giving so generously. There are very few people in this tier, so it's easy to have a personal relationship, and the asking door is open.


We have had a few people in and out of this tier over the years, and there's basically nothing to say here. You get everything, you can ask for anything, and we'll try to accommodate. These sort of benefactors are rare, and when they show up, we try to show up as well.

.......

So THAT'S the current tiers, (re-)explained.

Ask me questions if you got any.

We're reading.

For the last seven years, this patreon has been supporting my life, my staff and my band - really, truly. We started at 4,000 patrons in the first month...and now we're at 17,000. It's pretty amazing.

But it isn't magic. I work my ass off, the staff works their asses off, and we try really hard to make art, music and other stuff that matters.

We also try really hard to take care of the community as best we can. We try to run this like a family resaturant.

And it's never perfect.

I make some money on other things, but this is really it: the bread and butter.

I would ask you, therefore, to contribute it you can, don't if you can't, and think about the value of what we do and give you and try to work accordingly.

And...thank you.

........

Now that we've eaten our vegetables, I have a couple more things.

There is now a CHAT feature of the patreon app.

See this little thing?


Thats the CHAT function!!!

I mentioned this in the Althing, and I'll mention it again...but if you go to the patreon app, you'll see it there.

I'm currently just playing around with it and trying to decide what to do with it.

I *think* I'm gonna make it a $5+ patron perk, but for right now it's open to EVERYBODY.

So go play 'round. You can upload photos, which you can't do here in the comments (which has always made me sad), and it's just a nice way to feel connected with the community, and me, and the Dolls goings-on, and everything.



........

In general Dolls News....

Brian and I have been rehearsing our asses off and working on new material.

The Dresden Dolls are adding a TON of shows this spring, all over the states, and possibly in Europe.

We've been on long phone calls with our management and agents trying to figure out where to go and when as we gear up, slowly, to the making of our next epic record.

Again....I beg of you, I beg of you, please get on the band's mailing list.


Photo: Jenn Ross.

I beg you again: The mailing list is here. It's the only way to get first access to tickets as we gear up touring.

........

And now to the grand finale.

The world news has been dagger-ing the hearts of everyone I know.

Maybe in this turmoil, there's a little good news to brighten your day.

I'm in a relationship with someone, a him person, and he is really nice.

I gotta boyfriend. 

He's actually an old old friend (flame, I suppose) of mine from Boston. We were in a relationship twenty years ago, and we've re-found one another.

We've been together for a little while now, and I've been wondering when or whether I say anything to y'all, but I'm putting out a beautiful piece of writing via the patreon/substack next week (if all goes well) that mentions him....so I figure I can give you the heads up here and we can feel all fuzzy about it.

If you've been seeing the increased feeling of sparkle in my words lately, it's because I'm hanging out with a person who makes me feel wonderful, cherished, and safe; who has my back, who delights and confuses me constantly, and who has known me a very, very, very long time. It carries weight. He knows Old Boston Amanda, he knows New Mom Amanda and he knows the whole cast of characters in my old life, which feels strangely and deeply comforting at the moment, with the world's constant agitation and tumult. 

Who knows.

Right now, it's all I need.

To love, and to be loved.

I love you all, too.

Thank you for being here. It's everything.

xx

AFP


———THE STUFF I PASTE AT THE END OF THE POST———

1. if you are a patron and new to my work, don’t forget your patronage allows you access to ALL of my patreon releases to date. HERE is the link to download my latest big solo record, “There Will Be No Intermission”, and HERE is a link to download the PDF of the art/essay book that goes with it.

2. if you’re a patron reading this post via an email notification, please click through to comment on this post. at the very least, if you’ve read it, indicate that by using the heart symbol. that's always nice for me to see, so i know who's reading.

3. see All the Things (over 200 of them) i've made so far on patreon:

http://amandapalmer.net/things

4. JOIN THE SHADOWBOX COMMUNITY FORUM, find your people, and discuss everything: https://forum.theshadowbox.net/

5. are you new to my music and TOTALLY OVERWHELMED? TAKE A WALK THROUGH AMANDALANDA….we made a basic list of my greatest hits n stuff (at least up until a few years ago, this desperately needs updating) on this lovely page: http://amandalanda.amandapalmer.net/

6. general AFP/patreon-related questions? ask away, someone will answer: patronhelp@amandapalmer.net

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🎭Orpheus Wren🐦🏳️‍⚧️♂️Zaunking of Words

So I guess the quick and dirty way to inner peace is to be at a level 10 pain until it erodes your sanity so much that you stop caring about much of anything I’m not sure I’m okay, Amanda. I’m not sure I ever will be again

Danielle O'Connor

The sparkle is definitely evident, so happy for you!!!

Sonya Walton

Yay for new / old love! It gives me hope I'll find my sparkle, too! <3

Michelle Turner

Congrats on the successful touring and the upcoming new Dolls stuff AND the new relationship! You have seemed sparklier lately; I thought it was just returning to making music but it's nice to know you've got a partner who has your back, too.

Anna Bruce

So much goings on these days. So glad to see all this amazing surrounding you. 🖤 Always have my fingers crossed I’ll afford a higher tier- someday 🖤🖤🖤 Until then, so much fun just to hang out, and this group is So Fucking Awesome

Kristen Russell

Hi, Amanda. I don’t know how to feel about the war either. Many friends wanting support, but I find it hard to take a side. I support the lives of everyone and believe in love and peace. It’s a very heavy time. I enjoyed your post. It is cold in Ohio also and I thank you for the reminder to bring in my house plant. It does better outside as there is not very good lighting. I have begun to mother many things, including plants as I work through my recovery from addiction. Love, Kristen

JessTCreate

So lovely you have such love to lean into and comfort you through all of this work! With the world being such a chaotic and sad place, these little respites you create truly feed my soul. We are here through this together and we will find a way through with love. 💜 Be well and soak up all the love you can, beauty!

Stacy Litwin

Being loved and in love is lovely ❤️ so happy for you

Marija Milisavljević Grdinić

I admire you so much Amanda, your ability to combine happiness and sadness and feel them both. I am grateful to be able to learn from you and your happiness makes me sparkle just a little bit as well.

Len Tower Jr.

A, 0) Congrats to you & your boyfriend. I am very happy for both of you & the ripples out to both your circles. (BTW, you mentioned in a Patreon blog about him catching up to you at a Mass Pike rest stop when you found out Sinead had died.) 1) You have tech-knowledgeable friends (raises hand) who can explain cars & house how-it-works to you. For some, its just easier to find a trusted mechanic & handyman/specialties. 2) The war issue probably should be split into three parts: 2.1) What causes them. 2.2) How to prevent them. 2.3) What happens during one. A.k.a. How to fight & defend one. This one is probably the best understood. It's what nations teach at their service academies (e.g. West Point & ROTC) 3) I'm dealing with health issues (some of which are due to aging), covid & post-covid isolation, being the last survivor of my birth family (a different kind of loneliness (also unexpected as I'm the oldest of three siblings)), while trying to cherish the rarer good stuff. Also hoping to find another girlfriend. Love, Len

Madison

To love and to be loved, let's hope that is enough ❤️

Jen

Sending much love and light to you ❤️❤️❤️ I don’t presume to know your struggles but I will say that many of my darkest times have led me to joy and love I just had to keep going and remember to rest when I needed it. Much love.

Beth Eyler

Dude, am I really the first to say something? Hi I’m Beth long time lurker first time poster. I just moved up to $10 tier for the webcasts. I am having a difficult week but I’m kinda always having a difficult week so I’m used it. I’m in a poetry class and it’s turning out not to be my vibe. The class not the poetry writing. It’s a bit of a bummer.

SField

😁

Jen

Yay sparkle and safe and loved. Yay for people knowing us inside and out. So happy for you. Sending love and light out to all ❤️❤️❤️

Janet in Georgia

Ayyyy!! I’m fame-ish LOL thank you for including my post in your screenshot ❤️❤️❤️ all the warm fuzzies for you and your boyfriend!!! It makes my heart happy that you’re in a good place with someone that really KNOWS you. Old and new. 💕

James from Wellington

Congratulations on finding love. No asking you out then I guess, hehe. I am moving in the opposite direction, kind of. Separating from a 10 year relationship, have come to terms with the fact I was not happy at all and my heart was locked in a box elsewhere the entire time. Of course, as my luck goes, elsewhere also isn't up for being asked out.

Lynn Anderson

I am very happy that YOU are happy. I love you and I love love ♥️

Hailey J

Congrats ❤️ Feeling Fuzzy 🧸

Karo

I am numb. Empty. Sad. Lonely. I lost the most important thing in my life. I know she was just an animal but for me she was the whole world. My world has gone. With everything happening in the world this is nothing I know that but to me it’s everything.

Sean

Hi from an old fan in Atlanta, GA. I think this is the first time I've ever piped up. I seem to be reaching out more to people who make things I enjoy reading / looking at / listening to. Maybe it's a COVID thing. I'm happy for you finding someone special. I wish you happiness and that this is a good thing in your life. I am just sad about the news. If I think about it too much, I start going into a sense of doom and inevitability of a spiral that has been in progress for some time and shows no sign of ending. So I will do what I can to be a source of love and positive energy. It's all I really can do. Anyway, thanks for all the Things so far and I look forward to all the Things in the future.

Amanda Dockter

Hi yes hello. I would love to coordinate a patrons only gig at some point in this little Crescent City where I live. For Strategic silly goose remix purposes. And because frankly, the Viktor deserves to meet his team 😘

Wendy S. Katz

I'm very happy that you are feeling cherished and able to spread some sparkle.

Laura Wellner

I'm so happy for you, Amanda - it's always nice to have a bright spot in life in the midst of the chaos of shit happening. I'm looking forward to new songs, album, and all the things Amanda. Love & hugs!

Carrie Garrett

I thought I sensed a sparkle for a bit! 🌻🌻🌻I’m so very glad that you have an extra cup of love and support. ✨✨✨

Robyn Pearson

Amanda, do you by chance know how the Berkeley NYE VIP table situation is going to work? We got a table for us and our neighbors but I have other friends who i'd like to hang with at the show but I don't know if the tables are in a restricted area or if they're just reserved in the GA space?

erica munhoz

awww so happy for you! man, I LOVE me some old flames, and old freinds, and sometimes both in one person is just so great aint it? such lovely news, so happy for you.

Aqualynne Carnahan

Currently going through a break up with my partner of 17+ years. Been dying inside a little every day. (You all know the drill- hurt, humiliation, insecurity, loss, deep grief.) So, I listen to Amanda Palmer songs, and even though I cry, a lot, I feel a little less isolated. I really need the art right now. Thank you.

Cyn

That was a really nice catch up. One thing I did not see in the tier list part is reminding people to cap their contribution. I did, when I saw/notice/prophecied that you will be producing a LOT of content in the near future, and it really has saved me from a not so good budget surprise. Right now I'm trying to find affordable housing (which does not exist) where I can keep my pets, have direct access to the outside, is not a high rise or multistory apartment building, is far away enough from the coast (where I live now) so I don't have to do the hurricane should I stay or should I go thing. It's kind of overwhelming. Ok not kind of, a whole lot overwhelming. So hearing some good news from you gave me a nice lift today.

Ramona Seyfarth

Thinking a lot how to stay hopeful when the world seems to be eaten by cynisicm. Friends are standing in very long lines in Tel Aviv to donate blood. And here in Germany politicians discuss how much higher borders they can build against refugees. I'm sad, but I'm also very much in love with my wife. Thanks for sharing your art and your love.

Coila

I remember you mentioning a "fella" and I've been curious if/when we'd hear about him! (And just know, I'm not feeling entitled about it! If you suddenly decided to never talk about anything in your personal life again, I'd be a little disappointed because that's part of what I love about you, but I trust and support your instincts/needs. I'd still be here!) Hurray for having someone who sees you and with whom you love and are loved! 🎉🥳💃🏽 Lady, I know you're a professional but not all professionals are as good at the technical stuff as you are! ♥️ Looks like Bed Song is the only one I can really play all the way through and have it sound (mostly) like it should. It's perfect. I've gently introduced you to a Good Little Mormon boy (who, honestly, might not love being characteristized that way anyway! 😅). Plus, it's easy enough for me to play and sing (and singing is 80% of why I play!) and it's hard enough that it's stretching my skills. Thank you, again. For being you. Much love! ♥️

Cyn

I'm in a poetry workshop right now, too. This week is rough. My pile of words is just not taking shape. But I do understand the overwhelm, and wish you peace. Also, in case you need it, permission to skip class or even drop out. May you get what makes you feel good.

Katja Patton

I am the 66th “like” and I am soaking in the tub while I read your post. Happiness is… the little things. 🖤 You truly are working your ass off for us. No other artist on Patreon is this diligent and open. Sending you tons of love and love you to bits. Delighted you re-found another. 😍

Alfredo

That last piece of news made me so happy. You deserve to be loved :-)

Melody

I think the biggest lesson for me in this mess is that we do not need to pick "a side". It can all be wrong and bad. Or we can pick the "side" of the innocent bystanders all around who have done nothing to deserve this suffering. We don't have to support either of the powers that claim they are "the sides".

Beth Eyler

I signed up to support a friend who was feeling scared but really wanted to do it. This weeks prompt flew out of me while driving of course! Thank you for saying I have permission and I’ll likely stick it out. I bet your pile of words are working. It is hard to see when we are so close to them.

Kris Smerick

Oh AMANDA! YAY! I too am now with someone who’s known me since I was 19 and the comfort of that shorthand cannot be over-emphasized. Blessings on both your heads!!

Maggie McNally

I’m joining the chorus of your people, cheering you on from my corner of earth (Cambridge, MA) saying HOORAY FOR LOVE! 💕💕

RiverVox

Living in a nightmare since Saturday. I'm terribly afraid because my daughter is in Israel. She's relatively safe in Jerusalem, but I feel like I won't breathe again until she lands at Logan. I'm happy to hear of your new romance! So curious to know who it is.

Ana Martinho

I'm a new patron, so I'm introducing myself as suggested. I'm Carlota, I'm Portuguese but I live in Berlin. I kinda hated it for a bit but I don't anymore! Had too high hopes and wasn't prepared for the immigrant experience. I'm studying economics and learning to play the drums and making my first attempts at writing lyrics and vocal melodies rn. Been following you for years on Insta, but I only read your book now. I remember years ago you mentioning Nick Cave but I never checked him out until 2020 and then I fell in love and finally understood what you'd said at the time! It's been a weird year, lots of very unexpected heartbreak of different kinds but also lots of growth and many positive things too, not the worst year ever if I look at it objectively. Anyways, I'm glad to be here (alive and on your Patreon), thanks for the book and for sharing your life with us, it's wonderful and important work <3 Was very glad to read the good news!! Much love!

Christina C.

To love and be loved is all anyone ever needs at anytime. 🔥❤️

Dan O'Hare

I love sparkle, very happy for you ❤️❤️❤️

Jennifer Holmes

How great - congrats on the boyfriend thing! Second time around is amazing... because you look at each other with the eyes of youth and the wisdom of age. I'm going to see you in NY in a couple of weeks! (I'm the one who was roommates with Ksea, Zen Hospice volunteer and Dark Garden adjacent to put me in AFP context). I'd like to ask a question... anyone in the upstate area can answer... my son is in college in NYC and is looking for a place to take his girlfriend upstate which is forested and pretty. He's a California kid who works at Camp Winnarainbow in the summers and she is a LES kid who hasn't really been out in nature. They are looking for the weekend of Nov 10/11 (around her birthday!) and are poor college students who can't afford much. If it's cheap, he can rent a car to get up there, if it's not, they'll need to take a train. Any recommendations welcomed! AirBnB near you? Have a cottage in the back? They will happily trade mime lessons for accommodations! And as a tie in to the first part of my post... my son is the result of me and my high school love getting back together after 16 years apart. We didn't stay together, but we made an amazing kid who moved to NY! Looking forward to the 10/28 show!

Aimee Lewis

Congratulations on the relationship 💕 being in love is wonderful! My love and I are currently turning my house into an immersive art piece where each room is a different experience… my living room is becoming a wooden ship under a stormy sky (complete with lightning cloud ceiling) my stairs will be a tree climbing into a summer sky and my bedroom will be like sleeping in the stars during a sunset… it’s also getting an indoor swing cause why the hell not?!? 😂

Alicia Webber

Heart opening news amongst heart breaking times! It's Maya Angelou's "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."

Heather and Tim Allman

Things are things in Florida... not at war (currently, except for with ourselves bc of our governor...) so we're ultimately doing okay. It's so difficult to watch parts of the world seemingly implode. So many feels and you're right: there's no "right" way to think or talk about it. Happy to hear you've got a special person who's got your back, even with your eyes closed, you're covered. You deserve this, Amanda!!

Heather and Tim Allman

Remember the one thing Hemingway says: "There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self." —and YOU ARE, in every possible way! Love it!! ♥️

SewTara

At Omega on the last night, past nighttime quiet time, I was taking a load of stuff to my van. I ended up a bit behind you and said boyfriend for a little bit and saw you walking and holding hands and it was so lovely and I could practically feel the happiness. All while I tired to not come off like I was following or spying. We were just all headed to the parking lot! Honest 😂 Entering a relationship after the explosion of a marriage is weird and hard and amazing. Took me two years to even entertain the idea. Sore hearts mending and single parenting take effort, time and attention. I’m glad you’ve found (refound?) a someone who knows you already and where you had happiness before. Congratulations 💜

Dianne Pater

huzzah for finding space to love and someone to share that space with

Dianne Pater

i met my partner right after the fizzling end of my marriage (not even enough energy for an explosion). and my heart was/is whole again.

Tracey Stokes

Ah. Good confirmation. Be well beautiful.

Julian Normand

Thank you for everything you do ❤️ it is truly appreciated. Your words, your art, you having this community for everyone to support each other. This is something much needed especially in these times. My heart is breaking for family right now and those who aren’t family. It’s hard to put it into words and there’s hardly any words that seem right to say at this moment. When I try to speak I feel afraid that there will always be something perceived as wrong from someone but that’s the world I guess. Again thank you for existing and creating . We love you dearly 🫶🏻 so much love to you and yours 💙🎪💚

Drag Queen Jesus

Feeling heavy. So much suffering. And, oddly, grateful for having the resources that I do have, inner and outer. I don't know why (yes I do I've been stuck in a concrete box for 7 months) but I LOVE when you post pictures that have plants in them! How does your heart work Amanda? I want to know. PS: There is no right way to do anything and you don't need to worry about that anyways because you're already exactly who you want to be. 🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍🌈✊🏾👽✊🏾🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍🌈

Drag Queen Jesus

Oof. This is pain. I hear and see your pain Eli. I'm sitting here thinking of you now. If reaching out to a stranger (who's really good at holding space for this type of suffering) is what you need I'm available. 🏳️‍🌈💜🏳️‍🌈

Jenny Hippensteal

Thank you so much for just being here and taking the time to do everything you do. It means so much! I am beyond ecstatic for you that you found some one who is who/what you deserve. May be forward but I don’t think so soooo I love you. Can’t wait to see you/the dolls again! 🖤🖤🖤

Jenny Hippensteal

I’m doing pretty badly to put it lightly but just getting through a day at a time as best I can. A lot of emotional turmoil for too long. I’m also not used to talking about my problems ever but again. Thank you for being wonderful. This helps me so very much.

Julian Normand

Also side note of offering. You know I’m always here and down to accompany you on one of those beautiful hikes I shared if you need to get out . Right now is a beautiful time of year 💜

Scott Meekins

YES!!! You are happy and in love with someone, Amanda!!! That's so wonderful to know! You deserve it so much! You should post some pictures soon! I love you dear friend! Live well!

Susan Freedman

I’m hanging in there, stressed about big changes coming to my life, stressed about the world, but trying to be hopeful that the changes will be good and the world will find a way. What a ride indeed.

Lynn Parlett

I'm doing really well. Closed my shop in June, did many things, spent time in Canada and am now back in Tasmania creating a beautiful studio so I can work from home, visiting people, going places and generally having a life after 6 day a week shop life. Veryvery happy that you have a someone again. You are both lucky beings to have found each other. <3

Sarah Murtagh

Love you ❤ lately I've been glued to my screen with worry, wishing I could help people suffering, and honestly wishing I'd become a journalist so I would have the credentials to help in that capacity. In my own life personally though I'm in the middle of writing a book (the ~4th, all others unpublished so far for one reason or another). I am increasingly, painfully aware of how Not Good At Writing Books I am. At least, writing books WELL is hard. I thought I'd be better at it by now. I know the only way to get better is to keep going, so I am. But it's hard. I'm lucky that this is my key personal concern lately aside from a few health issues. Love to you ❤

Suzanne

Thank you for sharing this piece of yourself. It is wonderful to know you are happy and held in love. That makes such a difference.

Francine Hibiscus

Life is surreal. Dad has been gone ten days. We thought we had a year left, not a weekend, but life comes at you fast! I heard that on tv. Is mom leaning into passive suicide? I'm not sure yet, but I respect whatever choice she makes. 62 years together is a long time. § I am pleased that you have a new person! The people who have known us when are so reassuring!

Beth Eyler

Thank you. You inspire me. I sometimes have days I call my Amanda Palmer days. They are my get shit done days.

Esteban Montemayor

It's wonderful that you have partner-level support as you navigate all the BIG changes and happenings in your life right now. All manner of support is important and great, but a partner often has a more direct opportunity and impact with their support. Yee-Haw for you! Oh, how I LOVE your writing, Amanda. You make it feel like an on-going, inclusive, very fucking real conversation. Thank You for sharing. As for how I'm doing, despite my lengthy and multi-pronged efforts to change it, I'm lonely and alone. And have been for many, many years. It sucks.

Teresa Toro

This has been a hell of a year for me. I realize this is my second Saturn return and though not everyone believes in astrology, there's definitely a gravitas and sobering effect to seeing that you have been adulting for many years and (sometimes seemingly despite your best efforts to the contrary) you have picked up a thing or two, and preparing for your third act with more grace than you ever thought possible. I lost two former boyfriends this year, one of whom had proposed — so I am still processing that pretty hard. I had a reunion in New Orleans and went to one of the Dresden Dolls shows with my first love (my husband graciously giving over his ticket for that show), and like you Amanda I can appreciate that very special comfort of someone who loved me that much that long ago, and still feel a certain special bond between us decades later (marriage intact, no worries). He still knows me well, still loves me, and we still speak in our strange abbreviated style after so many years apart. It's special, and ours. As for the world, I am almost selfishly grateful for my frozen shoulder which is so bad, and so painful, that my world has shrunk to fit around it. I take tiny sips of news, feel delirious because it seems to inflame the pain further, then take refuge in my own health concerns again. I donate money everywhere and burrow back into my healing. Younger-me would be angry over my withdrawal but this-age me gets it. And younger-me volunteered almost full-time on top of FT work, but I had the health and energy then — I don't, now. We do what we can, when we can, with what we have, I remind myself.

Kirrabelle Lovell

Today is referendum day in Australia to see if we will recognise our First Nations people - Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people - in our constitution. We have compulsory voting here so the result will be from the majority of Australians. It’s tough, result will be in a few hours. Good to hear you are well, if behind on things, and in a loving relationship.

Kimerly Hurley

I haven’t been on here in years. Just got new app and am so happy to be back. Been a Patreon since May of 2015. It’s opened so many doors for me to artists and places I love. Thank you for that AFP. I saw you at RF and it was magical. Have tix for LA. So excited. So very happy for your newly reunited love. So deserved. I’m laying down to slumber after a highly stressful Friday the 13th in and Airbnb whose address is 666. Just spent a 4 hour car ride through Los Angeles trafuck with my hubby and two teens. There was long discussions of war and what is it good for and what does it mean and why and who and all the things. We laughed until we farted. We sang at the top of our lungs. We are free in California living wild, fun, creative, empathetic, loving lives. Being a teen now is very confusing. I remember it so well and remember the angst, confusion and pain but this feels so next level. I was an 80’s kid. I was lucky. I was free and wild in a mostly safe sane time. Filled with music and beach and sun and mountains. I thought it was crazy stressful. But it was not compared to now. I wonder how this all plays out. I send you all love and light. Peace and harmony. Kindness and wisdom. In the words of my teen boy to my teen girl..surround yourself with good, happy, caring people and you will be fine. Oh and don’t do drugs. Smart kid. Take care of each other.

Garlia Cornelia

I always learn from your Patreon. I’m on here too (after reading your book in 2016/2017, after being urged by a friend who had discovered you and thought I needed it for my own particular journey). I am eager to take in the new features. Thank you for being you. I am always moved and pleased to support. 🙏🏾💜

Dahlia

You know how your heart works. That.

Bay Le Sage

Greetings from Seattle! I’m so happy you have someone to be sparkly with! The most helpful thing that I have heard about the situation in Israel was in a conversation with an imam and a rabbi, both from the US on NPR. They agreed that it wasn’t about Israeli’s and Palestinian’s hating each other forever, but the difference between people who think violence is a solution and people who believe there is another way.

Sam Allen

Happy for you - for your happy news, for the new songs, for happiness in general amid all of the sadness of the world right now. Happy happy.

Len Tower Jr.

The further east you are on Long Island, the prettier it gets. There is also bus service from the Port Authority Bus Terminal up the Hudson Valley on both sides.

Len Tower Jr.

Glad you're back! & just in time to enjoy the new Chat feature (only on the app for now.) -Len

Lynn Robinson

So happy for you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

David Smart

Are there any means of getting my payments back?

Nicole Mack (Molly Angst)

Hello from a ten dollar girl who always seems to miss the webcasts 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve been here pretty much from the start, but I’m terrible at getting on here and commenting. However, I increased to $10 not even knowing what the tiers offer.. because I don’t expect anything from you and just want to support you, and those around you 🖤 I feel like most of us are the same in that regard, just honored to be a part of your art in any way, shape or form! Sending you so much love! And thank you so much for letting us in on your new love! 😜 Looking forward to the next webcast! Can’t wait to hear a new song! 🖤

EmVT

I'm about to board my flight home from Italy. In Florence (Firenze) I saw a living statue (stone gargoyle) and was the only one in my group who knew what he was! I dropped a euro in his box and he came to life, reached out and grabbed my hands and brought them to his heart. It was so touching. Then my tour guide shoo'd me away, saying sometimes they grab onto you so that his buddy can steal your stuff. I don't think that's what was going on though 😄

Amie Gillingham

I am so glad to know you found (upcycled?) someone who truly sees you. We all need people in our lives who see us and who give us the privilege of letting us see them.

Len Tower Jr.

From the list at the end of most blogs: "6. general AFP/patreon-related questions? ask away, someone will answer: patronhelp@amandapalmer.net" Best, Len

Joanna Lindblad

(((K))) she is not just an animal, she's your child, family. Don't discount her value, she is love. Take youre time and grieve. So much love and many hugs ❤️

amandapalmer

Thank you. :) it’s been nearly three and a half years since I asked for this divorce, and it still feels very fresh. My heart has been raw and frozen. It’s nice to feel the thaw. X

Ylva Jangsell

Just wanted to say THANK YOU for explaining the TIERS ( again) , much appreciated! Love your work, what you do and who you are. THANK YOU for everything that you do and say and share with the world! ❤️❤️❤️Greetings from a swede in Germany.🦋

Annapurna Moffatt

Thank you for mentioning that conversation. I just found and listened to it. What they had to say was beautiful and true.

Bane

Love this for you 🥰