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Intimacy isn’t just sex. It’s the messy, tender, sometimes awkward space where you let someone see a little more of you. It can look like desire, touch, trust, belly laughs, or the quiet comfort of being yourself without performing.

A simple sex tip for deepening intimacy:

Name what intimacy means to you and share it with your partner.

Maybe intimacy is slow touch. Maybe it’s honesty during sex. Maybe it’s being able to say what you want without shrinking. Maybe it’s emotional closeness that makes the physical stuff feel richer.

When you know your version of intimacy, it gets a whole lot easier to ask for it and to create it.

So tell me… what does intimacy mean to you? ❤️

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Crenshaw

It’s amazing how your latest entries touch on a topic of incredible significance to prostate cancer patients, especially those who are about to face the prospects of ADT (anti-testosterone treatments.) When a man loses his libido, is intimacy with his wife ever possible again? It becomes necessary to ask the very questions you have raised this morning: [You said:] “Intimacy isn’t just sex. It’s the messy, tender, sometimes awkward space where you let someone see a little more of you. It can look like desire, touch, trust, belly laughs, or the quiet comfort of being yourself without performing. A simple sex tip for deepening intimacy: Name what intimacy means to you and share it with your partner. Maybe intimacy is slow touch. Maybe it’s honesty during sex. Maybe it’s being able to say what you want without shrinking. Maybe it’s emotional closeness that makes the physical stuff feel richer. When you know your version of intimacy, it gets a whole lot easier to ask for it and to create it. So tell me… what does intimacy mean to you?” ************ The following is an excerpt from an online article at the Prostate Cancer Foundation: https://www.pcf.org/patient-support/side-effects/sexual-health/intimacy-and-sex-after-prostate-cancer/ “Prostate cancer treatment often causes side effects like erectile dysfunction, orgasm difficulties, and decreased libido. While medical interventions can help, changing how we think about and have sex can decrease frustration and deepen intimacy. One way to learn to do this is through sex therapy, a type of no-contact psychotherapy (talk therapy) specifically focused on sexual health. PCF sat down with prostate cancer survivor and licensed and certified sex therapist Paul Nelson to hear about his journey and advice for approaching sex and intimacy after prostate cancer treatment. This interview has been lightly edited for clarity…. ‘The definition I really embrace is that sex is a form of communication. It is communicating through touch. Sex means that I touch my partner in a way that communicates to them how I feel about them. And neither men nor women nor any gender in between can communicate very well with their genitals, right? My penis can’t express love very well, or laughter, or silliness. It doesn’t function that way. So, sex is not about genitals. Sex is setting aside time to touch each other in a way that makes us feel loved. So that when you’re done, you feel connected, bonded, accepted, understood, seen, and appreciated… [Question] Low libido is a common side effect of hormone therapy for prostate cancer. How can men and couples deal with this? I see a lot of guys who are on ADT, which can lower your sex drive [and cause other sexual side effects, like difficulty getting an erection]. I tell them, don’t rely on your libido to run your sex life. You shouldn’t have sex because you’re aroused, and you shouldn’t have sex because you want an orgasm. You should have sex because the relationship deserves it.’ So, set aside time, and give each other wonderful, loving touch. It’s going to look like very different from the sex than you’re used to. But that’s okay. ***** I commend the PCF article to anyone experiencing intimacy issues as a result of prostate cancer. Of course, the discussion of intimacy is of real value to any committed couple. Again, Doc. Thanks for bringing it to the table.

Steve

Holding each other naked. No clothing. No masks. Nothing to hide behind. Just naked honesty. Feeling the other breathe and synchronizing your breath to theirs. Minds clear. Emotions flow freely. Just being present in the moment with the other. Gaze transfixed. Living in the other's eyes. Past, present, and future in that single moment. This is the intimacy I crave.

Dr. Susie Gronski - Doctor of Physical Therapy

I carry my experiences with patients and their partners close to my heart when I talk about intimacy, relationships, and sex. I owe so much to them. Their courage and willingness to be vulnerable, to step into uncomfortable conversations and share what’s been weighing on their hearts and minds, is what shapes this work. ❤️