Yes, No, Maybe So: A Simple Sexual Check-In ❤️ (Patreon)

Talking about sex can feel awkward, especially when bodies change or pain is part of the picture. A Yes, No, Maybe So checklist is a simple way to get clearer about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you might be open to exploring. I highly recommend checking out Scarleteen's Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist to offer inspiration and enrich this activity. I also attached the PDF versions of both Scarleteen's Stocklist and a kinky inspired one for you to explore below.

• Yes: things you enjoy or feel comfortable with

• No: hard passes, for any reason

• Maybe So: curiosity, uncertainty, or “it depends”

A few reminders:

• Your list can change over time.

• Pain or discomfort always gets a vote.

• “Maybe” never means pressure or obligation.

I encourage you to make your own checklist. You can include types of touch, activities, pacing, communication needs, or anything else that shapes intimacy for you!

Do it solo, with a partner, or just for yourself. The goal isn’t to perform or please, but to build clarity, choice, and self-trust.

Let me know how this goes for you. Drop your thoughts below.